When life throws you potatoes, make chips! Be disappointed but never defeated! Dating thread No:13

[ChaoticAngel]

"you say potato, I say potatNO"

Down with potatoes

As you were....

He would be on my block list!! And who is Zara? The ex girlfriend or does he have a love of the shop?

notsure it may well be. I'm working up the energy to go to bed here so brain isn't working very well atm.

Time I was thinking that too.

I'm in bed. Laptops are good for bed browsing

Time, I'm in bed browsing too, listening to Radio 4, gutted because I forgot to brush my teeth, now I need to get out of my cosy bed.

DS has my laptop Then again the shift keys on it don't work and I find it extremely frustrating when typing on it because I have to remember to use the Caps key instead of shift which interrupts the flow of thoughts when typing. Also everytime I need to use something like @ I have to copy and paste it from an email or something.

My stepfather gave him a laptop, after he got his ipad, but it doesn't have a battery because the one it came with was faulty so has to be used with a charger. The charger it came with is being used on my laptop because my charger stopped working. DS did have his own laptop but that stopped working and I've no idea why and can't afford, right now, to find out why because I've no idea how much it would cost. My laptop is about the third one I've had.

As you can see we don't have much luck with laptops in this house

Me too Betty!! I've done my face but still need to do teeth! Then that wakes me up a bit so have to browse some more.

Chaotic my charger stopped working and I got a great replacement off Amazon for a tenner. Maybe the other laptop stopped working because the battery stopped charging due to a faulty charger? Or maybe the battery is dead and the charger is faulty so the machine won't work? My battery is done in so I can only use the laptop with the charger.

lol at 'does he have a love of the shop'!

I would link you to the soldier but he has a hidden profile. Yet another reason to think he's dodgy as hell There is something I find weirdly attractive about him, hence I keep giving him another chance. It's probably the fact he's 10 years younger than me, I blame the bad influence of my withering ovaries propelling me towards virile young men!

I seriously can't be bothered doing my face. I've gone to bed with a manky face. Actually, I may have done my face earlier and forgot about it.

Oooh no betty at my age I can't afford to risk going to bed with a manky face, it's bad enough that I wake up with one! If I thought I had forgot, I would do it again, just in case!

Right, teeth, here I come!

According to DS the battery was fully charged when the laptop refused to start but it might be worth getting another charger just in case. No doubt it'll come in useful in the future, if we do get the laptop fixed, if it isn't the charger because eventually the charger will stop working. Both mine and my stepfather's laptops are Toshiba and I keep meaning to buy another charger so we can use both. DD's laptop has gone through about 4 chargers in the last few years.

Anyway, I'm off to bed, night.

If it's not the battery or the charger Chaotic it could be the thingy that the charger plugs into. Sometimes they 'shift' so the charger doesn't plug in properly, so the battery doesn't charge, causing the laptop to die. Have you tried it recently? Sometimes, after a bit of a rest, if there is any juice in the battery at all, the laptop will attempt to start. Goodnight!

seriously why do the guys ask what i'm doing on here? hmm let me think??

also my iphone is not connected to the internet and I havn't changed anything on the settings, any idea how to connect it again?

That's just it just friends although text hasn't been saying much. I think he has gone off me. No more visits or chats and I enjoyed them. I enjoyed spending time with him, what an idiot I feel. If I don't see him again in the next two weeks I will move on, oh dear, left on the shelf again.

MLM sorry to hear he is being a fool, you sound lovely and I dont think you will be on the shelf for long. maybe he is not ready for a relationship and after your chat wants to back off, and it would be much better that he does that sooner rather then later. any luck with the library guy?

He wasn't there yesterday, so nope, no luck. Just friends is back in dating sites, so maybe he just wasn't interested in me? But why send nice texts about staying over and looking forwards to seeing me and then just change? I don't get it!

He wasn't there yesterday, so nope, no luck. Just friends is back in dating sites, so maybe he just wasn't interested in me? But why send nice texts about staying over and looking forwards to seeing me and then just change? I don't get it!

mlm - you wont ever know the answer. The best thing to do is to just leave it and move on. men do strange things... BUT, he did tell you after the first date he wasnt interested in a relationship - you chose to ignore it and chased after him, you had sex, told him you wanted more, and he has sort of drifted away. hes not that much of a shit, because he did tell you the truth in the first place. You just ignored it. Dont give him two more weeks, hes already telling you.. and hes back on the dating sites. Im sorry. Dont waste any more thought on it and move on.

betty - its not you :) as sponge has said, its just down to luck. You have to wade through a whole lot of dross, and weird messages, and people disappearing, and deleted profiles. and dates arranged which then get cancelled at the last momment, or they just vanish - and this is if still like them and they havent turned out to be werid or pervy. Then should you actually get to a date, its most likely you wont like them, or they wont like you. or they have a hidden ginger mullet or are 4 inches shorter than they said. And then even if its gone great, or even ok, you are really unlikely to hear from them again. Ive had 3 second dates in 3 years ( not including fwb type situations) Some people strike it lucky on the first date they go on. its rare :)

Welcome Betty. These threads have in previous incarnations been called "the honing of the twat radars" and that is what you have to do!

Sponge - is this soldier really worth your valuable, precious time? I know he's young & fit - but his twat rating seems to be fairly high.

MLM - stop thinking about him!!!!

Venue for my date is fixed, just waiting for baby sitter to confirm which day next week she can do! Looking forward to it.

just had an email from a potatNO www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=25692173

and sponge - the cockpic from the soldier doesnt surprise me. At all. if you want some no strings fun, then go for it. But just know its almost certain he has a girlfriend/ wife ( for most are married by 24) or several other women on the go. Its not uncommon practise for the ones who live in the ' singlies block' to be out ' whoring ' as they call it, at all times.

We agreed on just friends partly cos I was scared of getting hurt. I will move on just feel like I lost a good friend.

Out again today. Hopefully I will feel better. I mis read the signs. But he hasn't helped. Mixed signals.

MLM - going forward, have a think about what you are looking for. He said he was only interested in a friends with benefits kind of thing & you agreed to that. You agreed to that because you were afraid of being hurt - but actually you are hurt. His FWB was over very quickly and he's moved on & your are wondering what happened. It maybe that you are not cut out for that kind of set up.

I'm a big believer in being clear in my own mind about what I want - because if I don't really know what I want - how the hell will anyone else be able to work that out?!

I know that I want a relationship. I don't particularly want to get married again & I'm not even sure I want to live with someone - but I would like a mutually exclusive relationship. When I wanted loads of sex and assurance that I was an attractive woman as I came out of my awful divorce 7 years ago, I did the FWB thing, the one night stand thing, the sexting strangers thing. I was wild, reckless & up for pretty much anything. My approach is completely different now.

Have a think about what you want, what you really, really want - a bit of soul searching is no bad thing every now & then. Once you know what you want, then it will help you decide whether the blokes you are meeting might be able to meet some of your want criteria.

There endeth the lecture!

mlm - i just think he took advantage of you, sorry. You laid your cards out on the table far too early. You were honest and he was not. He wasnt the person you thought he was.

I know its sad, especially when we trust people, its most peoples default position. BUT, we have to be so guarded when internet dating, Half of them are married or cheating, half are just out for a shag ( which is what he got and hes dissappeared since then, hasnt he).

But its not your fault, you didnt know his intentions and trusted what he said was true. We have all been there before... which i think is why we tried to advise you to tread carefully... because we have all been burned - and why this board is so good.

Dont take it personnaly, its not you, its him.