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The Dating Thread - Part 12. How NOT to lose the will to live. Sense of humour essential!

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TimeForMeAndDD · 20/04/2012 07:24

Good morning everyone! Had to start a new thread as the old one is no longer receiving posts.

Fill yer boots! Grin

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watchoutforthatsnail · 26/04/2012 11:09

lubey - what - cant you type from the celling - you tease!!! :) :) :)

Zany - really, my goodness... :)

time - no, i know what you mean. DD is tall and she gets it, people always think she should act older and more sensible too. I get it the other end and just get called cute, which is a bit crap. Or people think i cant do things, so i go to great effort to show them i can. Though i have been known to take advantage of the ' small, useless female' act a few times :)

noluck · 26/04/2012 11:14

Lube : can't wait for your update, straight after lunch I'll be back...
Zany : and the answer will be?
I've still got family staying with me until 1st May and my sex life is in the meantime non existant. Italian biker is getting slightly desperate (so am I) and German Dr. tells me to explain to them that they are killing my sex life and it's not healthy...

hatesponge · 26/04/2012 11:14

Lubey thats fab, await full update in due course

I haven't heard from the Scot. I text him about 5 mins ago. No reply as yet. I have a horrible feeling he is going to flake :( but I hope I'm wrong...

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TimeForMeAndDD · 26/04/2012 11:21

Yes, watch, that's exactly what I mean. My DD is tall too and more has always been expected of her, people forget how old she actually is.

Sponge he may be driving, or not heard your text. It's been 5 minutes since you text him!! Grin Have you ordered your dress yet? Wink

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Snapespeare · 26/04/2012 11:23

time are you suggesting my pelvic floor is......flabby because i don't wear heels!? outrage!! )

I do totally get your thing about being tall. I also have quite a large frame (and the extra 20lbs of weight at the mo doesn't help) so I've always felt like the woman in 'life and loves of a she-devil' I seldom feel particularly feminine, because I take up a lot of space, so that feeling of being protected or being taken care of is sometimes difficult, because I am extremely strong and capable and resilient. :) It would be nice. I don't expect it. This also ties in with not dating men shorter than me (my dad was very tall though so it might be a 'daddy-issue') I generally don't find shorter men attractive, although the last guy I dated was around 5ft 8. I am Nicole Kidman ( snort! ) he was Tom Cruise ( louder snort! )

spill!

Zanywany · 26/04/2012 11:24

Know what you mean about the height thing Time. I do think that if you are tall then guys are less likely to feel protective of you which is what I would like at times even though I am quite capable of taking care of myself.

Lubey peel yourself off the ceiling and update.

Not sure what to so if I get a proposal, a bit Confused. I read last night that 80% of second marriages with DC's fail. Thats alot higher than I thought and is probably making me more sceptical about the whole thing. Think I need to live with him a bit longer and see how things go. He does seem very house trained which is good Grin

Snapespeare · 26/04/2012 11:25

woah! cross-post! zany! oh. my!

Zanywany · 26/04/2012 11:27

I get you on the feminine thing Snape. Its a bit hard to feel all demure and feminine when you tower over most women

hatesponge · 26/04/2012 11:29

Still no reply, well that's that I suppose.
=at least I didn't get too excited about it.

Snapespeare · 26/04/2012 11:32

*sponge too soon to call! patience!

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TimeForMeAndDD · 26/04/2012 11:34

Totally get you Snape, totally. My frame is small, so that makes any extra weight I carry make me look 'matronly', as do the boobs. I remember once overhearing The Ex and his mate talking about his mates new girlfriend, very petite but ugly, and my ex making a comment about him having 'heavy goods' Hmm. Plus, my ex husband hated my height, he would make me walk in the road while he walked on the pavement, just so he could be taller. that's why I like heels, it's a two finger's up to the men who feel threatened by taller women. And Snape, you look lovely in your FB photo's, you don't look anything like a She Devil!! And I'm sure your pelvic floor is knackered! absolutely fine Grin

Zany, yes, take the rock but remain engaged until you know him inside and out!

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TimeForMeAndDD · 26/04/2012 11:35

Sponge! Stop it!

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TimeForMeAndDD · 26/04/2012 11:38

UPDATE: My experiment with the profile has attracted 4 messages, from men saying the like what I say and are looking for the same, blah, blah, blah! Alas, all fuglies but nevertheless, a response. Will keep you informed.

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lubeybooby · 26/04/2012 11:43

Ok, hello - got coffee now and managed to get off the ceiling for five mins to come and type :o

Holy crap - just totally awesome - 24 hours together and about 3 of those spent asleep. The rest of the time we snogged, had coffee, talked loads, had lunch, went to the spa - had a swim a sauna and jacuzzi, checked in to hotel and he had got this really gorgeous massive suite room, part of a newly built area of the hotel and it was just gobsmackingly pretty with the best bathroom in the whole world.

So... we took a shower together when getting ready with was 1) lovely and 2) very intensely sexy and um Shock Blush then certain things happened. Oh my god. Oh my god. OMG. speechless about that, in a very very good way Shock Damn he is good. Damn.

So eventually (9pm by the point!) we managed to actually get clothes on and go for dinner, which was gorgeous... bloody cocktail bar was closed so we ended up in a divey gig pub in all our finery which was quite hilarious. Then back to the hotel and we were sat in the hotel bar being all lovey dovey and getting very drunk, it was then and only then that he said he didn't want the night to end and invited me to his room for the night and also offered me a cab back just in case - what a gentleman, but yeah right like I was going anywhere but BED with HIM ahahaaa.

Then I stripped off my dress in the corridor of the hotel outside our room because... well because I'm me I suppose... and I was drunk. It was funny. Then more of the inevitable, then we were both knackered and drunk so fell asleep in a heap of massive hotel pillows and the best cotton sheets ever. That was about 3am

Woke up 7am to the most brilliant cuddles ever and more excellent sex and a brilliantly funny trail of clothes leading from the room door to the bed. Shower again, went for breakfast which was the best hotel brekkie I have ever had, and then it all finally had to end and here I am now going Shock and :o

What can I say? He is awesome and we never stopped chatting and laughing the whole time. Magnifico! :o eleventy thousand out of ten.

watchoutforthatsnail · 26/04/2012 11:50

sponge - its a working day, i wouldnt worry until its been past lunchtime - maybe 3pm ish. until then its all good :)

time - thats very interesting... :) but why cant they be better looking :(

zany - i think that its really common, but i do know lots of second marriages that have worked well, but thats when the dc's are older... i dont know. Do what feels right for you.

the negatives of being little are that people tend not to take you so seriously, because you dont look like a threat, or are the height of a child, so they assume you dont know anything and its easy for people to overlook you which is probably why i am loud

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TimeForMeAndDD · 26/04/2012 11:51

So *lubey, are you trying to say you had a good night? Confused Grin

I am so so pleased for you!!! Are you seeing him again? And when? And is he very rich?? Shock

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TheSinglePringleWillicopters · 26/04/2012 11:52

lubey that sounds amazing!

Does he have a single brother?! Grin

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TimeForMeAndDD · 26/04/2012 11:54

I want to take my dress of in a hotel corridor!!

I also would like to know what makes a man good at sex. I really would. I feel I've been short changed!!

watch I would kind of like to prove them wrong in their assumptions! Smile

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watchoutforthatsnail · 26/04/2012 11:54

' eleventy thousand out of ten' :) :) :) :) :)
lubey , that sound fantastic, really, really fanastic. Im so pleased for you.
You are a very lucky girl :)
so - what does he look like, and what does he do, and when are you seeing him again?

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TimeForMeAndDD · 26/04/2012 11:54

Does he have single twin brothers lubey Grin

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watchoutforthatsnail · 26/04/2012 11:55

single, younger, scruffier brother?

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TimeForMeAndDD · 26/04/2012 11:57

Two more messages on POF, liking my profile, one fugly and one pensioner. I'm going to leave it up over the weekend and see what happens. I WILL get a shag, I WILL!!

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TimeForMeAndDD · 26/04/2012 12:00

I've got the hots for my alarm man. He's a bit sexily scruffy and he has wonderful kind eyes, I dream about him knocking on my door and offering me a service. I've even thought about taking a screwdriver to the alarm panel

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watchoutforthatsnail · 26/04/2012 12:02

bloody standards though isnt it. ive got this one that texts me daily after a shag.
i was tempted. but really... probably not. im not in the casual sex frame of mind right now, give it a few months though....

watchoutforthatsnail · 26/04/2012 12:02

time - can you not just ask him out? or is that too brave?