drunken mates RANT!

[Rubygloom]

When i woke this morn my dp said 'oh my mate so n so is downstairs'.Then we go downstairs and i realise as my dp made quite a few cups of tea there was more than one mate.Am i right in being totally fucking pissed off?It's a school day ffs.It's bad enough he drinks.I feel like i am living with a teenager he is 46 ffs

well at least they hadnt woken you up when they all came in!! ..

I would now march through and say "wakey wakey and piss off home"... very loudly..

Have you got to get dc's ready for school, and off to work? I wouldn't be happy having people in he house, hungover, when I was trying to get children ready for their first day back.

Does he not have work?

What if i'd gone down stairs in my bra and pants to get a drink(which i usually do)with my my blamonge belly handing out.Oh it doesn't bear thinking about

If you look like me you would have cleared them out of there quick

Yes i have dcs to get ready for school.Had to get them dressed in the Kitchen

YANBU

If I were you'd I'd beenciuragingthe children together ready for school a slowly as possible,. Don't tip toe around them, it's your house!

be +encouraging*

I'm shy when i don't know people .I don't really know this friend.Said hello to him a few times but thats about it the other one i didn't know atall.Hence why i got them dressed in kitchen

I would send my loudest child in the living room and tell her they want to hear her sing, that they especially slept over just so she could wake them up with her beautiful singing instead of having a nasty alarm

Don't they have bedrooms to get dressed in?!!

Yanbu

Why didn't you kick your DP out of bed to send his mate packing, while you got the kids ready in the bedroom?

I was probaly being a lazy bum getting them dressed in kitchen rather than thier bedrooms .I just find it easier to get them ready downstairs for some reason

I don't quite understand why the children couldn't get dressed in their own rooms? Or upstairs in your bedroom?

I'm not really sure why this deserves a rant - your children were, presumably, all asleep upstairs when your DP and his mates came home - so they haven't been exposed to any kind of debauchery! And your DP told you before you went downstairs that he had invited someone over, so there was never any danger you would be surprised walking around in your underwear.

He told me when i got up this morn.He could have text me or phoned last night to warn me or even woke me up last night to tell me.He doesnt have problems waking me up every other time he comes home

I just know this is the start of having drunken mates home.I just know he will now do it again because once he does something i don't approve off he starts to do it all the time.Like coming home at 3am and staying at mates houses Grrr!

Erm - to be honest - you sound like you're his mother, not his partner!

I'm 26 BIWI Maybe when you have a bloke coming home at all hours disturbing your sleep making you feel second best to everything you would nag too

Cbeebies needed at full blast and embarrassing questions from dc like 'mummy why's that man sleeping on the sofa. Is he a tramp?' Use dcs shamelessly to your advantage so they don't actually want to stay again. Oh and a quick whizz round with the Hoover. Always good for hangovers!

He sounds like a complete knob. What exactly will he be doing while you get the children ready?

Deal with your unwanted guests now with loud children, as suggested. I suggest you deal with his nasty propensity to do things you don't approve of by changing the locks.

I can appreciate if he's doing it all the time that it must be irritating, ruby. Have you actually talked to him about it? (not nagged!)

ummm, but he didnt disturb your sleep, because you didnt get woken up by them..

There isnt anything wrong with this, its his home too, I wouldnt mind DH doing this at all, and I'd be pretty pissed off if I did it and he moaned, DH would be more likely to cook everyone bacon sandwiches if he was here than have a moan.

Of course you are being ridiculously unreasonable op - who wouldn't want their young children to get up on a Monday morning to find a couple of strange drunkards asleep in the lounge? . I'd be shifting them quick smart (although, tbf, I don't suppose it's the mates' fault), then having a word with oh as to why he thinks this is acceptable. What would he say if you lay in bed with a hangover and let him do the school run?

So, every single poster here (apart from the OP and me) would be happy to wake up and discover several hungover strangers on the sofa?

You'd be absolutely fine with your children's father rolling in drunk, or simply not rolling in at all?

And you're all totally comfortable with this happening regularly, and escalating whenever you mention an objection?

Please tell me I've read this wrong, rubygloom