shit just found a 'secret' phone in dh's car.

[mebythesea]

I cant believe it. Ive been reading/ lurking on the recent secret phone finding threads and now ive found one in dh's car. Fuck. Trying not to panic.

I went to my yoga class in his car as he wanted to use mine to take kids out in as it had all the carseats in.

So i was looking for a pen in glove box and found this cheap looking little newish phone. Never seen it before. Cant think why he would have it. He has a blackberry which he uses for work etc emailing. Is very open with it ie i use it when mine dead etc.

The phone battery is dead so can turn it on.

Ive taken it. Put sim in mine but didt seem to make any difference, all my stuff was still there, couldnt work out how to see what was stored on the sim.

Any ideas as to how to get info off it very welcome.

Am hoping theres an innocent explanation.
We've been getting on better than ever recently, felt like we've been getting a bit of the old spark back after a tough few months.... Oh god

Why do you say that? If you suspect trolling then report.

If you report it nothing happens. Sadly people end up spilling their feelings in sympathy to these threads and MNHQ have decided that if they just hide the problem nothing happens.

what on earth do you mean got her bum red raw? is that metaphorical of factual?

Hang on is there a suggestion that OP is a troll? She chooses odd things to troll about if so!

How do you know?

how do you deduce it's the same person

Excuse me arimaa i have never written a thread about sleeping with anyone and getting a red bottom. How odd. Why do you think it is me? I havnt name changed from my normal name you can check out most of my other normal boring posts if you arew so inclined. Anyway to update....

I think the red bum poster was genuine, she had loads of previous posts, but I think she overshared whilst pissed as arseholes slightly tipsy and regretted it.

So ive been a total dick about this. I got the charger , bought for a princly sum of 99p on ebay, and charged the phone and do you know what... Its my step fathers phone. He is 75 and a bit of a techophobe and had asked dh to do something to it. Had all his badly written txts on and his contacts were most of the oaps in our village so definatly not dh's 'secret' sexting phone. Feel like such a synical untrusting cow now. Think i nee to really address the trust issues i have with dh. Maybe councelling. God what a twat i am. When dh came home today i was just so happy and i burst into tears. It ewas such a relief. I had been running this hideous film in my head of all the possibilities.

I'm SO pleased for you.

I've been lurking in this thread (sorry) but I just wanted to say, I'm really relieved for you. I'm glad it turned out to be nothing!

Good news! Was wondering what you would find on the phone and very glad it's nothing bad.

Thank you all for your support through my selfinflicted meltdown. Really feel like a total twit tbh. I think i should stay away from relationships threads as they make me feel so sad for the peeps going through all kinds of heavy situations and the cheating ones seems to make me paranoid that dh is up to no good. When really we are ok and i need to trust him.
And for the troll hunters good luck with what ever you are trying to atchieve.

That's very good news.

....and wrong I know, but very funny (when you havn't had to go through it)

Perhaps you have become conditioned by threads on MN to jump to the conclusion that an unfamiliar mobile = affair

I'll leave it to others to mention your lack of trust. Have a good weekend

oh hurrah! this board can be a miserable place (though obv very valuable and supportive too) with all the terrible bastardism people describe. Glad to have a happy ending.

This thread took a very odd turn there, but taking it on face value - glad it turned out okay in the end OP.

I'm just baffled that so many OAPs have mobile phones

I have already mentioned about my lack of trust and that it is something we need to address if we are to continue in this mairage... But thanks. And it is funny and embarrising.

arimaa Are you still saying i am a troll or the redraw bum girl? Why do you think i am she?

Arimaa - huh? Would LOVE to know how you know that they were the same poster - both posters seem to have a bona fide "presence" on MN...

That's brilliant op :o
(unlesss of course your dh is having a clandestine affair with your step dad...ok ok sorry)

Yes stealth, that really would be grounds for divorce. Maybe arimaa could start a thread along those lines...

arimaa, how you have the inside info is interesting- if you have any at all.