shit just found a 'secret' phone in dh's car.

[mebythesea]

I cant believe it. Ive been reading/ lurking on the recent secret phone finding threads and now ive found one in dh's car. Fuck. Trying not to panic.

I went to my yoga class in his car as he wanted to use mine to take kids out in as it had all the carseats in.

So i was looking for a pen in glove box and found this cheap looking little newish phone. Never seen it before. Cant think why he would have it. He has a blackberry which he uses for work etc emailing. Is very open with it ie i use it when mine dead etc.

The phone battery is dead so can turn it on.

Ive taken it. Put sim in mine but didt seem to make any difference, all my stuff was still there, couldnt work out how to see what was stored on the sim.

Any ideas as to how to get info off it very welcome.

Am hoping theres an innocent explanation.
We've been getting on better than ever recently, felt like we've been getting a bit of the old spark back after a tough few months.... Oh god

Really hardboiled? I didn't know that. I assume you mean phone shops? Do they charge?

Oh yes you did say phone shops!

Hello mebythesea, any news? Been thinking of you.

I hope the charger has arrived and the contents turned out to be innocent.

I don't think they have to but I have run out of battery a few times and asked if they can charge my phone for me and they have always obliged. Most people will do you small favours if you ask.

Hi thanks for your ideas and for thinking of me. Nothing more to say at moment just waiting for charger to arrive. I live in the sticks nearest phone shop about 20 miles away and i cant face the drive with 3 kids intow. Just trying not to think about it too much. Dh been very normal today.

why did you buy a charger from ebay then spend days waiting. I would have been strfaight to the shop in the morning, bought it, established things one way or another, confronted if necessary and thrown him out. If it was all innocent, then all good and carry on with life as before.

I honestly think it is weird all this waiting around. 3 kids or not , 20 miles is not far.

OP, I wouldn't want to do that with 3 kids in tow either

this could still be innocent

and if it isn't...imagine finding out in a phone shop 20 miles from home with your kids there

this can wait until OP is ready (but don't wait too long, love)

Well maybe it is weird...i just had lots to do last few days and couldnt fit in a 40mile round trip with 3kids and my buggys got a flat... I had to take ds to doc, the electrician been here rewiring parts of the house, dd's riding lessons, walk the dogs, vat return.... may get a chance sat if its not come tomo. Im too busy for this shit. Maybe you see it as burying my head in the sand but i see it as just getting on with my life.

you might find BakersDozen, that the OP isn't you.

Sorry for grumps im feeling a bit knackered.

take care, OP

you may need your strength in a few days

and if not, take care anyway

No, you are correct. The OP is not me.

I live in the sticks with 3 children too. To drive 100 miles round trip is something I would just get in the car and do. in fact, we quite often do such thing. My children are older now though, but even when they were all tiny, wew just got in the car and went.

If it meant that I had to spend the next night or 3 sleeping next to someone who 'possibly' has shat on me, I would just go and do it. Get it over with.
And hopefully all this churnig and wondering will turn out to be nothing at all.

I think it is very telling that he hasn't been weird with you. I think if my secret affair phone had disappeared I'd be a bit antsy myself. I bet he hasn't noticed because it's completely innocent :)

Hi there again mebythesea, I'm with Erik rather than Bakers atm. Will check in again tomorrow in case post has excelled itself and actually sent something the next day. All the best fuss xx

can't you just ask him? If I found a phone in DHs car it wouldn't occur to me to order a charger, I would just ask him whose it was

Hope this turns out well for you OP, keeping everything crossed xx

He might be acting 'normal' because after noticing it was missing and looking around the house for it he knew you had it so phoned the phone company and had it blocked? Maybe when you get it charged and turned on you might find it has been barred...

Another possibility but hoping there's an innocent explanation to it.

Of course. I could just ask him, but i justy have a wierd feeling about it and wanted to make sure before i ask him about it. I think i am a bit extra freaked by it because of all the recent 'secret' phone threads on here. Maybe i should stay away from mn as it feeds my paranoia... I dont know

It still might be nothing. Tell me about the phone threads on here, my h must have been having a right laugh at me when I read him one a couple of months ago. I was going on about how shocked the poor woman was, and my h was agreeing, all the time he had one in his glovebox! I remember thinking about mumsnet when i found it.

Sometimes knowledge is not always a good thing .

It really might be nothing, I do have old handsets around I let the dc's play with. My h's secret phone was fully charged.

Thinking of you.

any news, OP ?

Wondering if the charger turned up OP?

This is by the same person who slept with the love of her life and got her bum red raw.

oh is it?