Welcome to the Turning Tavern

[Gay40]

This is a thread for women who unexpectedly (or not) find themselves attracted to another woman.

^ well I was going to suggest a more subtle rainbow braceletty type thing....

I missed lots by going to bed early with DCs!

Synch, yes, I'm in the North of England. I wasn't thinking I'd just join generic groups but was thinking I'd try and meet more people through the lesbian mums at school or some such thing.

I dislike overly feminine or made up style in women generally, both in friends and crushes. I am attracted to strong character rather than the kinds of clothes women wear. I sometimes wonder if lesbian women are freed up from some sort of cultural expectations of straight women. Saying all of that, as I've got stronger in myself I've also become more open with my emotions and I dress less plainly.

Funnily enough when my marriage ended two seperate friends (who had never met) and my ex asked whether my sexuality was an issue. Perhaps it it is more than I anticipated.

Morning all

I meant to post last night but fell asleep after a huge Sunday dinner.

I had some lovely text messages from wiq, saying I am a lovely lady, wonderful woman etc and she also said I had gorgeous hair she has invited me on a night out in the 28th but I said I wasn't sure as I can be shy around new people and she said it would be impossible for anyone not to like me as I'm too lovely

We were texting and she was talking about our lunch today and she said I had to make sure she didn't eat to much as she's on a diet and I said I could never be strict with her, she said I made it sound as if she was special so I said she was! I might have already posted this I can't scroll back to see.

Lunch is at one today but we won't be alone now as her older dc have invited themselves, she did text to ask if I mined them coming first before telling them they could come.

I told her that even though I had only known her a short while I already thought the world of her and she said she felt the same! And that I was the first person she called when she wanted to talk

I have a feeling I've posted this so will stop now but today won't be the day I get to see her alone. Maybe on the 28th! She said I have to make sure she doesn't get to drunk, I said I couldn't promise

I can't scroll back to catch up, you've all been so chatty

If I get chance I will tell her I fancy her but in a jokey way

Hi sleepless shame you won't be on your own today but never mind! you have the 28th to look forward too. Hope you have a lovely lunch. And do report back.

Likea actually thinking about it, I never do get my ankles out. "casual" evening type thing would be pyjamas (full length!) rather than a bathrobe. And no, I never go to the beach - well, hardly ever, but i prefer the beach out of season, when it's quieter and a bit more windswept. So ankles well under wraps then.

Does this make me officially weird?

Thanks Polly

It's a plus point for me that she is family orientated because having my own children I would always put them first too and I am glad that her dc like me too because in my imagination where she does like me too it would make things easier

So, you experienced women on this thread, how do people like me and synch begin to explore our sexuality with other women?

sleepless yes I can understand that, once you have children you're a package and if a potential new partner has children themselves and understands that, it's one less hurdle to cross.

world that's a good question. When I first realised I liked women as well as men I had a part time job in a gay bar, so meeting women wasn't difficult - I met my first long term gf there. That's the obvious thing to do, get yourself to places where you will find like-minded women, but where exactly depends on what you like to do socially.

Thanks Polly I think there must be a better gay bar locally that I'm missing. Need to find one suited to oldies like me people in my age group too (36)

world I remember you saying there were a couple of lesbian mums at school you might approach - that would be a good idea - there might well be something going on socially that you don't know about (round these parts the only 'gay night' is in an otherwise straight pub and it's not really advertised. You either 'know' about it or you don't.) It's just getting that initial 'in' isn't it - a chance to meet a few more people, who know a few more places.....and off you go!

And a hearty 'Pah!' to you being an oldie. I'm coughs 42. And not at all creaky.

Polly I do have this feeling that there's a whole world out there that I just can't quite spot. One of the lesbian mums is really nice and, although I don't know her well, and I'm sure she wouldn't mind me asking. Think I'm a bit self conscious about lots of things at school gates. Although not one of my friends nor my ex would be disturbed by finding out. Just a bit of a strange feeling .

I am off for lunch

Hope you have a good lunch sleepless :)

World, I've been wondering the same thing. Although I'm dating a (trans) women, because I've been straight before all my life, I still see myself as very much questioning. Dunno if that would go down that well at gay and lesbian events - maybe it'd be fine. However its a moot point as there doesn't seem to be much happening down in darkest Cornwall, apart from Pride in August. Ho hum.

Come on sleepless lunch must have been over ages ago!

I'm awash with lesbian tea waiting.....

I've just switched on the computer and almost typed in www.theturningtavern....oh dear

Also 42 Polly, not old at all! Still plenty of life in me!

I feel like a child :o

Alright Pass don't rub it in!

Allotment the way this thread's tripping along (670 posts already) we will need our own website soon.

Has anyone checked if the domain name Turningtavern is free?!

It is, in fact, free.

Why yes, it could be ours for a mere 10 dollars and 99 cents

Come on sleepless! We're all waiting here! How'd it go??

What has everyone been doing today?
I was supposed to be finishing the decorating but thought fuck it and took Mrs G and DD out for lunch and shopping and donuts.

I've been painting the house and tidying the garden, and if it gets any colder I'm downing tools!

Yours was the best idea Gay