nothing can drag you down when you're not holding on...

[chocoraisin]

Hello :)

I've decided that blog or no blog, I can't imagine not having all of you fabulous people to turn to in the next couple of months while I count down to baby arriving. So I've jumped ship from the old thread and decided to set up camp here.

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Happy Birthday Choc

You know, my ex twunt used to love spoiling any special times for me, Birthdays, Christmas and yes, even the birth of our daughter. He seemed to hate me being happy. I wonder if your ex twunt is a bit the same. Anyway, whatever the reason, he is a Tosser, and he isn't worth your tears or the money you spend on texts in reply to him, he is too wrapped up in himself to see things from your point of view so try not to let him get to you, don't let him spoil this amazing time with your boys.

You are fab!

Delurking to say Happy Birthday Choco! (And huge congratulations on birth of DS2)

Please remember that you're entering your 30's as a free woman, having escaped from a piss poor husband, and that your dignity and grace with dealing with the twunt is an inspiration to hundreds of women.

Your sons will have far happier childhoods and be wonderful men because of you.

They will not follow in their father and grandfather's fuckwit footsteps because of you.

They will be happy, successful, healthy, considerate and emotionally literate because of you.

They will be the sorts of men we hope our DD's marry because of you.

You are amazing. Your 30's are your time to shine, and they've only just begun.

Happy birthday!

An excellent landmark on which to dump all the annoyances from your past, as you and your beautiful boys sail on to a happy future.

Have a Wonderful Birthday Choco, Its all going to get better from now on xx

Ah DSS "They will be the sorts of men we hope our DD's marry because of you." That made me well up! x

Hope you have a wonderful birthday today Choco, you have so many years of fun with your beautiful boys to look forward to. :)

The thirties are ace, you'll enjoy them even more without the manchild twunt holding you back and dragging you down.

Happy happy birthday! I remember my 30s fondly! Wishing you a wonderful decade with your two gorgeous sons. Honestly - you will blink and you will be 40 and they will be 12 and 10. Ex H will be a ridiculous figure on the horizon.

xx

Okay DSD's post was so lovely that it made me well up! I'm SO glad you're having a good day, I hope the big Venturing Outside is glorious!

Fab post DSD.

Happy birthday choco, huge hugs from Wales. I suspect your 30's are going to be the best decade of your life :)

Congrats on your response to the knobhead too, don't let him try to jerk you around and then make it your problem! What an immature selfish dick-led weasel he is.

Enjoy your afternoon tea xx

Happy happy birthday, now its your time :)

Happy bithday chocohope you have a lovely day out with your boysthe first of many good times to come.

Delurking to wish you a happy birthday and to send belated congratulations on the birth of DS2

Hope you've had a lovely afternoon tea!

Happy Birthday choco

Glad you had such a good start to the day, hope the rest of it was lovely for you.

How are you honey? How are your beautiful boys? Xxx

Morning choco; hope all is well with the three of you.
I find your strength after the birth of your son amazing.

Based on your recommendation (on blog) I am reading The Social Animal and finding it fab- especially the part on attachment for children.
Continuing best wishes x

afternoon lovelies - I'm doing great, thank you! DS1 is out with his dad today, so I've had a day of breastfeeding marathons punctuated by a well needed catch up sleep. And giving DS2 his first proper bath oh wow was I unpopular for that one haha. He's doing fab, has regained his birth weight already (made it back by day 9) and is just gorgeous. Since his first hair wash he looks like a little parakeet with a fan of dark fluff!! My section is healing really well too, the biggest risk now is not pushing myself too hard or accidentally picking up DS1 without thinking about it, because it really doesn't hurt that much. I'm still a bit creaky but so, so much better than I was at this point after the birth of DS1.

I've had my emotional ups and downs for sure, but I don't think I'm heading for a big PND style crash (which I was worried about), at least, it doesn't feel like it yet. I'll keep taking care of myself just in case. I've had a few cross words with H, unsurprisingly. Emotions are running a bit high - not to mention my hormones! But I'm trying really hard to just be accepting and welcome the opportunity to spend time one on one with the boys, while he gets to know DS2, or takes out DS1. I feel like it will take a long time for me to be genuinely ok with how things are, but I'm still able to see the good things in each day. I've got a pin board in my room with all the cards/messages/and some of your inspiring posts that you guys have sent me - it reminds me each morning to be hopeful, be strong and be kind to myself and my kids. I can't thank you all enough!!

I'm going to get back to my blog in the next few days. But as this thread is creeping up to 1000 again ( I really can't believe I've managed to fill up number two!!) I'm going to try and wean myself off a little bit . Not off mumsnet obviously, I'll be wandering around other people's threads just as much however I think it's pretty hard to type while feeding anyway so I'll have less opportunity. I also have a sneaking suspicion that H has found this thread and may have been reading up, based on some of our recent chats. I'm not worried about anything I've posted but I think perhaps the time has come to just put my head down and nest with the wee ones, without worrying too much. I''ll be popping back in though and really want to keep up with you guys, so am making no promises that I won't be back with thread number three

How's everyone else doing? Thinking of you all xxx

Ah, glad you're all doing well and that you're feeling strong enough to wean yourself off the MN lifeline! It certainly sounds like you're seeing the best in your situation, which is all any of us can do really isn't it.

I find that in times of trauma I'm glued to the computer, desperate for any crumbs of advice given by wise MNers, but once you realise that you're checking in less you know you're on the mend

Brilliant to hear how well you are doing love. Of course we understand if you want to reduce your MN time - you have your hands full after all!

It's all grand here, thank you! Remember at least half of the posts on this thread were the rest of us squealing excitedly about the birth of DS2 - so not you at all!

I can see you wanting to preserve a space which your xH isn't reading, but I will miss you when you go - and take it as Doingit describes it - a sign that you're on the mend, stronger than ever, and all onwards and upwards from here. Hurrah for you!

will miss you and your thread, was wondering what you would call the next one?! But understand you have better things to do with your time! Pop in on our threads and let us know what you are up to :-)

I keep posting on my thread, Im addicted, lol

Sorry, meant to say, glad you are doing well, hit post too soon!

Yes, take advantage of being able to have time with DS2 without having to entertain DS1 at the same time.

Hi to Choco's STBXH
If you are reading this--you are a prize cunt.
You and your GF deserve each other and l hope you both live unhappily ever after. You are an utter prick and a disgrace , l bet your parents are sooo proud of you !!!!
l thinkyou are a great role model to your sons on how NOT to treat the mother of your kids.
Karma will hopefully bite you on your arse.
Thank God Choco is a brilliant level headed excellent mum to her boys and she will bring them up to be fine young men. They will be a credit to her l am sure.

Ditto Doha!!