nothing can drag you down when you're not holding on...

[chocoraisin]

Hello :)

I've decided that blog or no blog, I can't imagine not having all of you fabulous people to turn to in the next couple of months while I count down to baby arriving. So I've jumped ship from the old thread and decided to set up camp here.

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If you need any help or just someone to talk to you know that I'm not too far away from you... I know we don't know each other in RL yet but am happy to come visit you after your baby has been born if you want some company.

Take care.

Another mostly lurker catching up and saying I'm thinking of you and your boys and praying for a smooth arrival for Bean.

You are coping really amazingly but it's also fine not to feel that way at times! But you are hormonal and pregnant therefore you must bow to the greater objective wisdom of the thread and just accept you ARE doing brilliantly

Regarding your birthday, I think you are right not to want anything from him. I didnt give my H anything for his birthday or fathers day from DD. She gave him a card and that was it. i think it sets the precedent, as now I wont expect anything from him. i know that my mum will get something for me from DD and thats it. If his mum doesnt do that for him then thats his problem. When DD is old enough and has pocket money, she can buy him something herself. But I started as I mean to go on. no presents or cards etc from me.

I feel like you, this man is not my friend and i dont want anything from him, or for him to expect anything from me!

Hope you are feeling a little better now.

Hi choco, just checking in to say best wishes for the arrival and early days of DS2, you're doing great.

I bought an expensive Fathers Day prezzy for H after we had decided to split up, but only because I had discussed it with the DC before half term, but hadn't ordered it in case it arrived while we were away on our ill-fated camping trip (the last straw in our marriage!)

I said to H that as it was the last one I'd have to buy him I'd made it a good one, but he didn't seem to understand. I explained that next year the DCs were old enough to arrange something themselves (i'll give them a bit of £ if they want to get him something small, as they don't have pocket money, but I won't be doing the actual shopping)

I think its weird that anyone's ex would even consider buying them a prezzy that wasn't from the DCs though. Very odd.

morning everyone, thank you for all the support and well wishes - I feel much better today thank god. I'm still not in labour so I'm off out for coffee with an old school friend this morning.

DS, I have to say, is making life so much better by being adorably affectionate right now. He got us both up early today but then wedged himself sideways next to me on the sofa, somehow managing a full body cuddle despite my bump. We read his current favourite book (all about harvesting corn with a big yellow combine harvester) about 4 times, then shared some marmite toast. No matter what else is going on, I know he loves me and I love him, and that is irreplaceable.

Mind you, after he went off with daddy for the day I fell asleep on the sofa and now have some really attractive pillow creases on my face that I'm hoping will fade before my friend arrives!! Mild exhaustion setting in lol :)

Ah have a lovely day and make sure you post a big bold "Choco is in labour!" when the time comes! x

Ah rest up lovely.

choco glad that you're bouncing back. Am looking forward to hearing when things start to move . Best of luck.

Aw lovely DS cuddles are absolutely the best! Hurrah! Rest up lots and eat cake!

Hope you have had a lovely relaxing day catching up with your friend. Take some time for yourself while you can Choco! So excited for you and your little bubs. Not long to go now!! xxx

chinese takeaway + bubble bath + extremely tight bump and a pinch of wishful thinking I have bets on baby arriving Monday. Here's hoping!! I read 5 bedtime stories to DS tonight just in case, because I'll miss doing them when I do go in.

Although having said all that, the number of people who seem to be telling me lately about their lazy second babies that hang around til overdue means I'm steeling myself for an early bubs to all be a rather hopeful fantasy lol. Will definitely post a quick labour alert as and when it's relevant

I did see my midwife in passing today by accident though, and she doesn't think I'll make it to our next appointment on Weds. Which I think is encouraging!

x

Are you having an elective section or labouring? Can't remember what you decided in the end!

Fingers crossed its sooner rather than later!

elective section if I hang in there another 10days or so. Labouring then hopefully a swift jump-the-queue-section if I kick off a bit early. I've been getting back pain/tightenings/braxton hicks/nausea etc for a few days now but I've no doubt that lots of god-I'm-so-fed-up-of-being-pregnant-now woman wish that they are about to labour by this stage, and often that's all it is - wishful thinking!

Hang on in there Choco not long to go xx

Hi Choco, I'm a long term lurker but I just wanted to say that you are amazing!
I think you deserve the very best that life has to offer and so I will share with you a secret I picked up right here on MN... silk pillow cases!! The joy of no pillow face, frizz free hair in the morning - all from a lovely soft pillow case.
Since it's your birthday soon and your being the most amazing mummy in the world, I think you have ample reason to treat yourself to some :)

It was my first that was lazy Choco so it doesn't mean you'll have a huge wait!
DS1 was overcooked by 10 days
DS2 went "bing" on his due date
DS3 went "bing" 8 days early

So there ya go!

How are you today choco? I'm having a lazy day on my own .

wishing you lots of love and chances to put your feet up today, choco. Is your mum getting excited? Mine is pretty crazed in the countdown to due date. I actually had to tell her to stop calling/ texting every hours as it was starting to do my head in (although lovingly meant). We're a wee bit baby-mad in our family :)

ooh hello everyone I've been asleep all day more or less... how on earth did that happen?? mam I definitely think pillow cases are an appropriate treat for me right now!

My DM and DF have been simply fab today, they took DS out for the morning so I could have a 'quick nap' (lol) and made a roast lunch. I did manage to get up for lunch, but then it was like a sleeping spell fell on the whole house and we all got the snoozles again. Even DS slept from 1-3 and had to be coaxed from his slumber for a schlep up to the local park. I decided after such an epic 'nap' I needed to get out for some fresh air!! Definitely no exciting baby news today as a result, but I feel like I've at least stocked up on some much needed sleep beforehand should anything happen this week

I hope you've all had lovely relaxing weekends too! HUGS

Oh honey I reckon a week of major slumbering & then a couple of days of major nesting & activity & then you're off!!

Glad you had a good sleep, I think if I had gone back to bed I could have slept all day too lol.

Make that hot choc!, in fact I think I will join you, its cold here and ive got marshmallows in the cupboard :-) no cream though!

Oh yes to hot choc! My mexican friend makes it with a generous pinch of cinnamon and a scant pinch of chili and it is absolutely divine! Happy snoozing and nesting!

Hi choco long time no write! Sorry have been having family to stay in rl so have been doing face-to-face talking rather than finger-to-keyboard! So glad you liked the parcel, it was my pleasure :)

From my very quick catch-up it sounds like you're doing fab things! I hope that the exciting baby news happens very soon and will be much more on the ball now with pom poms and high kicks!

xx