nothing can drag you down when you're not holding on...

[chocoraisin]

Hello :)

I've decided that blog or no blog, I can't imagine not having all of you fabulous people to turn to in the next couple of months while I count down to baby arriving. So I've jumped ship from the old thread and decided to set up camp here.

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MIL sounds a good egg. Try to rest this weekend honey!

So happy to hear no more stbxh contact for a while :) You deserve this break and maybe this period will prove a huge learning curve for him because he will actually not be able to be in touch. I wonder when he'll realise that he actually likes being in contact and how difficult it will be for him, I doubt it will be long!

Got very excited to see potential blog update..hopping over now

Some wonderful ladies posting big wave and of course lurkers too!

You deserve all the love and support in the world Choco...so much love for you little mans chest...I hope the new medications work effectively and quickly too

xx

thank you!! Sorry, I've been a trying to finish the blog post - will put it up today when DS is out with his dad (around 4ish) :)

I wonder if he'll care or not tbh, but I tell you what, I won't!! I already feel happier :)

I think he'll be furious that he won't be allowed to bully text/email you all the time anymore! Diddums!

yes, removing the power he has over you will make him cross as these men often like to have some form of control.

Yeah. Sucks to be him!
HAH!
The Wanker.

[not having a mature day]

haha yeah it DOES suck to be him!!

I've done my homework, blog up, now I'm going to do something unheard of for me - while DS is out and I'm all on my tod, I'm going to go out with a book and take myself to a restaurant all by myself to EAT A MEAL ALONE because I am single, pregnant, hungry and FABULOUS.

scared? me? ahem...

Eat eat eat! I'll come with you I'm starving!

That sounds brilliant Choco. I have done that before and although I felt a bit self-conscious to start with, its just so relaxing to be able to eat in peace, watch the world go by and enjoy your own company for a while. Especially with a book to read, you'll be fine (and besides, you're never alone when you've got a little person inside you!) :)

ok so I didn't quite manage to get to a restaurant, I felt too unsure of myself. BUT I did go and treat myself to a posh supermarket meal which I cooked at home, and a big cheesecake that I'll prob troff all of which I can share with DS I didn't 'do a shop' I just went in, bought exactly what I fancied (plus a lottery ticket lol) and have had my feet up on the sofa since.

H has already texted me about DS, because he's not in the loop with handover plans. I've resisted the surprisingly strong temptation to reply.

Good for you, resist the urge to text, even if you can't resist the cheesecake!

And remember us all when you're a multi-millionaire ;-)

When I win my £42million I'll set up the "MNet foundation for screwed over wives", giving bursaries to women in my position so they can afford to get a fabulous fuck you makeover while their XP has to ship out to be with the trog of an OW. Essential charitable work IMO so us sexy singletons can strut our stuff in the face of adversity

Love it

love it, can you put me on the list, lol.

enjoy your cheesecake

is it wrong that I'm really pissed off that DS isn't home yet? I asked for him to be brought home by half past at the latest to allow for the fact H wouldn't bring him back himself.

Ok - so he just got home (50 mins later than usual) and I am grateful that MIL's DH brought him back. But I am not grateful that he has told everyone I am 'exaggerating everything' and over reacting by asking for space. FFS I shouldn't care but how dare he presume to tell everyone that I am unreasonable for being upset with him? Where the fuck does he get off?

I AM NOT MAD

I have a right to be angry with him and to stop seeing him!!

I don't want things to get to me so much, but seriously, I fucking hate everything about him. EVERYTHING

EVERY LAST FUCKING THING

Bollocks to him. (I'd like to tell him he's already proved that he's a wanker time and time again - so no need to keep going on proving it!)

I've been following your threads and I may have posted once or twice. You're doing an AMAZING job - seriously, seriously amazing. Your DS and bean are so lucky to have you.

Look forward to the no contact!

no its not wrong. you set times for a reason (bedtimes etc).

of course you are being unreasonable (she said sarcastically). You are supposed to not mind what he has done to you and be lovely and sweet to him......

My H said to his friend that I always looked so miserable to see him and it would be nice if I looked pleased to see him! I was so hurt I couldnt even smile at him, but because I was trying desperately to work things out with him, I had to dust myself down and look really happy the next time he came over to see daughter. Now I just feel like he was taking the piss out of me, seeing how low I would stoop myself to get him back......

Apparantly I am overexaggerating the text messages, there werent that many.... well I have his bills printed out in black and white and they can all come and bloody count them!

These useless waste of spaces seem to think that they can do whatever they like to us and that we should just accept it and get on with life, well FUCK THEM!

Choco, you have the moral high ground. Your ground is so much further up than his, that you wil be needing gas and air sooner than you think. And as for him, well he's so very far beneath you that he is literally dancing with the devil.

Everyone around you knows this.

It is simply impossible for anyone to exaggerate the situation.

He is married to you and has a child with you, got pregnant with you and then left you for another woman before your second child's arrival.

They are the plain facts.

They can't under any circumstances be exaggerated. They can't be excused.

Anyone with a pulse know this. It so confirms that you are so very well rid of him. The more he tries to paint you as the unreasonable one, the more pathetic he will come across to everyone you both know.

Is there any of that cheesecake left? Take a big piece and enjoy, you have your boy home and hopefully no need to think about your ex for a few days...

Wish you could name and shame him. I don't live in the UK but I'd happily fly over to kick his proverbial arse!

Hi choco, long time lurker and massive admirer of your strength and courage.

Look this the very reason you need him out of your face. Any normal rational person will get this.

You need this time and you deserve this time in your pregnancy to be as uncomplicated as possible.

Fuck what he thinks really, really fuck it.

Don't let him spoil this for you.

You need to rest as best you can and enjoy this time with you ds before the birth of your new lovely little one.

Yes you have every right to be angry and not want to see him. The man is living in cloud CUCKOO land to expect anything else.

Sharing your rage

Hope you enjoyed the cheesecake x

Right well we are now one hour and counting into a massive tantrum, due to DS being over excited, over tired and home late. Thanks a lot H. Thanks, a fucking million.

At this moment in time he is getting pissed with a school friend about a mile down the road. All the while no doubt complaining about how hard done by he is.

take your son and his tantrum down there and dump him in it :-)

seriously though, what a bitch for you. This is what they do, take them off, spoil them, fill them with junk food, then dump them back at bedtime. My daughter can be horrendous the day after she has seen her dad.

Me and her are a lot closer now though as she was always a daddys girl before, but now its just the two of us we are much closer and I get cuddles all the time. You will benefit from that too with yours.

stress that the next visit, he must be brought back on time for his benefit, nobody elses.

we are watching Iggle Piggle on youtube. Screaming has stopped. Sleep is still far away! sigh

twenty past nine, and he sleeps.

Now... where is that cheesecake???

Oh Choco - I wish I could just nuke the bastard! Sooooo selfish! Of course you're not exaggerating - everyone knows that of course. Stick to your guns & ignore him. Hope you get a lie in to make up for the late night [hug]