If you were dating - would you "avoid" certain professions?

[ChickenSkin]

I'm trying the online dating thing and have just got talking to a 6ft 4in bouncer and weights trainer.

Seems a nice bloke but I read "into the darkest corner" and .... well anyone that's read it will know what I'm on about.

I won't write him off for that alone but is it reasonable to be "wary" of certain professions when dating or is it terribly judgemental?

yeah policemen and soldiers

Can I ask why? I always had a bit of a thing for police officers but then I read an article suggesting a high number of the domestic violence cases involve police officers!?

I think you need to re-phrase your question- a bouncer is not a "profession"! I thought you meant someone who was a dr., lawyer, dentist, teacher etc.

I don't know that book you mention so can't comment.

I suppose it depends on your own occupation and level of education. I'd find it hard to be with a guy who didn't have any higher education because I have, and without boasting, I'm pretty bright and have some intellectual interests. So I would not gravtiate towards someone who say, swept streets for aliving, unless he might be temporarily doing that and was really a rocket scientist!

But having said that, if someone was highly creative, or simply had not gone to uni for some reason, I wouldn't rule them out.

so- I think you are being judgy to an xtent- but it depends on what you are looking for.

just be wary of the professional knobheads, as it is an unregulated occupation and there are many, many of them :)

Well i would avoid policemen and soldiers because i would be worried sick every time he went to work!

Would you not go out with a builder either?

See, i choose my partner based on how they make me feel, if im attracted to them etc. I wouldnt judge anyone on their job.

FWIW bouncers have to be registered, have CRB checks and work within strict guidlines. If you don't want him, i'll have him - oh no, i can't im already married, to a builder.

I think you need to be careful how you judge people. I work with a young lad who does some extra part time work as a bouncer to earn extra money. He is lovely and very intelligent. Although this won't always be the case, there are reasons for people being in the job they are.

Hope that makes sense

All I ever seem to date are decorators and mechanics.

I don't know why. It's the erotic scent of emulsion, oil and roll ups I think.

Oh I did go out with a director once. We didn't have ANYTHING in common really. Very driven and corporate and charming. I can do without the charm, really, as long as there's some proper and slightly rough action iykwim

oh and I'm highly edukated and pretty intellectual myself - I tend to gravitate towards men with nice eyes and a pert bottom

Butcher.

The smell of death would not make me frisky.

True, bouncer or "door supervisor" is not a profession -

See, I have a degree and have a "professional occupation" but I wouldn't say I'm really bright. Intelligent enough to fight my way through a bachelors degree but I don't need lots of intellectual conversation - I was glad to leave all that behind at uni so the education bit doesn't bother me. I'm just a bit wary of getting involved with a nut but I suppose there are no fool proof ways to avoid it

Oh well if we are going in that direction- undertaker?

sorry

There are nuts all over the place- you are being a bit dft. My BF is married to a top international lawyer who earns shed loads, and he's truly nutty.

"No soldiers" means one fewer in the queue for Prince Harry! They're not a homogenous bunch.

If the concern is personal safety of your beloved, then you'd also need to swerve gamers and trawler men.

It's ok Flightty - I like a bit of rough too

Drug dealing or gun running. Hopefully the bouncer scene has improved since licensing... By the law of averages some bouncers must be charming. On the other hand, there are some horrid bankers about.

Maybe I read too many crime books!

Lol

men have to have nice strong arm muscles, that's all I'm saying. Ho yes.

I had a friend who was determined to date a police officer as she thought they would be strong silent reliable types...she chatted to one on an online dating site who started saying things like 'can I see some more pictures of you...with less clothes on?'

she backed off v fast and doesn't go on about wanting to meet policemen now!

You see, I'd read 'bouncer' and think 'strong in the arm, thick in the head'... Unfair and highly prejudiced but who says I have to be rational?

I wouldn't date a computer geek again JESUS he was boring !! Think I took the soldier or policeman to the extreme my DH is a military police man haha.. He's lovely tho very grounded and not at all the usual squaddie type

Oh Marshmallow - this police officer wasn't in the east yorkshire area was he?

I was speaking to a "Police officer" who sent me a lovely picture of him in his uniform - He then asked if I'd like to see another pic of him in his normal clothes. I agreed and he sent me a pic of him lying naked on the sofa with a very erect penis and the most psychotic grin I have ever seen! I hope to god he wasn't a real police officer!

I did online dating very briefly and immediately excluded doctors (sorry but most 'single' male ones, especially surgeons, are narcissists or have scary characterological problems, let's face it) anyone in armed forces, anyone in the City and opted for a low paid lawyer who turned out to be a detective (it listed salary and area of work so he looked like a not very driven or successful lawyer) who was nice but had PTSD and was a bit hypervigilant to be around - like a highly anxious bodyguard constantly scanning for danger.

Can't do dating. Hate it. Waiting until I can marry my horse.

I guess I would not date a soldier but more because I would be truly awful at the long distance stuff. I like lots of texts and phone calls and I am imagining that would not happen if they were in Afghanistan... In fact I could not cope with anyone who worked away a lot whatever profession they were in

I should probably branch out a little actually. I have only ever gone out with people in the same profession as me Limits things a little...

Mighty, I know. I ditched online dating about 3 years ago, having had brief email correspondences with a couple of blokes and never met up with anyone at all.

I think when you stop trying it happens. I'm sure your horse appreciates the sentiment too