If you were dating - would you "avoid" certain professions?

[ChickenSkin]

I'm trying the online dating thing and have just got talking to a 6ft 4in bouncer and weights trainer.

Seems a nice bloke but I read "into the darkest corner" and .... well anyone that's read it will know what I'm on about.

I won't write him off for that alone but is it reasonable to be "wary" of certain professions when dating or is it terribly judgemental?

OK the chap I am dating is home for about 12 says out of the 30 this April It sucks imo. But he is so damn gorgeous I suffer on

Royal family (I am safe for sure)

Yeah police men and soldiers for me too... Soldiers because I grew up in an squaddie town and wouldn't trust one as far as I could throw him.

Police beacause I used to be a police officer myself and I know now coppers are married to the job and have to drop Everything at a moments notice for aid.

I'd probably avoid bin men and fish mongere too because of the smell

I'm finding it hard to think what profession of man I would date, since my list of "professions that inevitably attract wankers" is very long.

No to anyone involved in:

• violence (police, army, prison warden, slaughter,...)
• hard selling (car salesmen, estate agents, salesmen in general,...)
• risk-taking (investment bankers)
• material wealth above all (anyone earning stupid amounts of money for little discernable output)
• appearance above all (fashion, modelling,...)
• ego above all (politicians, stars, and their flunkies,...)
• Peter Pan-esque lack of responsibility (artist in garret, eternal student,...)
• lies (politicians, psychics, homeopaths,...)

...maybe a nice safe civil servant?

I would never date a butcher, copper, soldier or body builder.
Butchers just because of the smell.
Coppers because every single copper I have ever known has cheated on their partner.
Soldier because I just couldn't tolerate the lifestyle and I just don't understand why you'd want to be a soldier.
Body builder because they make me think narcissist and pumped up on steroids so a fair chance of violence.

I know I'm judgey, no need to mention it

What's this bouncer book people are referring to? I think an actor might be trouble and any man who described himself as 'spiritual.'

I wouldn't exclude prison officers because I'm friends with one, and he's adorable. He's one of the most gentle people I know and went in to help people.

I once got chatting online to a bodyguard in Afghanistan. Not really my thing at all, he kept sending me pictures of him sitting on tanks .

I'd exclude anything White collar, suit wearing business types are a big turn off and also Police/Army. Basically anyone too serious, ambitious and authoritarian or whose job was inflexible and carried a big commitment.

Give me a nice blue collar lad any time!

Yeh, also no Actors, Musicians or struggling Artists. Jog on insolvent arseholes!

Everyone saying soldier. Do you mean just soldiers as in army. Or armed forces personnel in general?

As of course you have officers, airmen (RAF), seamen (RN) marines, etc, etc.....

add PhD students to struggling musicians etc - i'm a PhD student and i would NEVER date me

I like hotDAMN's list

All of those houseofplain -much too serious and grown up for me! I don't understand why anyone would do those jobs! They seem hard and scary!

My fella works in a call centre and he's perfect. One ex was a graphic Artist, nice guy. But another was a Physics graduate working in IT, highly intelligent but the biggest prick you'd ever meet.

I always said never forces. I come from a forces family. It is not so bad, the money and perks can be very good. Lots of travelling, etc. Hard but for the right person, it is easy. Also violence is mentioned. Many jobs in the armed forces, despite what people hear and see. Don't involve violence, ironically. Everyone will be trained to use a gun. But there are some roles, where although you maybe away, you wouldn't be actually opening fire at all. More so in the two blue services.

Well I have had experience of several police officers. Many of whom were trying to cheat. Oddly enough they wanted to send nudes, have graphic phone sex, and actually the sickest person I actually met online was a PO. He spoke of how he shagged at work, then went on to tell me his fantasy was making women bleed...dcd and in the old days of hotmail, he pinged me to say he had a wife anyway.....never again.

Salesmen no, they just use people for every single penny, even your little old nan and think that is ok. No compassion.

I don't like city men either. They are all at it during the week. Hookers, strippers, colleagues. I can't name one I know that hasn't. Ever. Sadly.

As is. There will always be exceptions to your experience.

city boy, bailiff, tory MP.

have known plenty of the former and have yet to meet one I liked, plus they work insane hours so you'd never see them

i am married to a copper though so what do i know?

Pilots
Police
Firemen
Anyone with flexible shifts.

And any forces. God yes. Certainly no wanky army officers.
I'd be press ganged into arranging flowers in the Mess

I LOVE city types. Mmmmm

Lawyers are pretty vain too.
notices all that's left are window ckeaners

Are army officers as wanky as Naval officers and Airforce officers...or have they all bred into one?

you might be onto something with window cleaners
mine looks like Mark Ruffalo

Never judge a book by it cover......Give everyone a shot - but jump as soon as the waters get rough....

I don't know navy types. RAF ok.
It's the army rupert shit I loathe. Labrador pearls pinky ring.

i went on a million billion internet dates and the thing I loved about it the most was talking to people about the jobs they did. (nosey)

I think internet dating is bloody brilliant because you get to meet people you wouldn't necessarily meet in your everyday circles and I became far less of an inverted snob and less intimidated by people who I thought were "above" me.

Most lovely blokes were a graphic designer, surgeon, insurancey man, and engineer.

Most unpleasant dates by a long shot were with a banker, a teacher, and a -homophobic totally out-of-touch-with-the world childrens barrister :-(

I wouldn't necessarily rule anyone out based on their job alone but you can normally have a good guess if someone has conflicting values to you based on their job AND by the things they say in their profile.

I'd avoid anyone in the forces.