If you were dating - would you "avoid" certain professions?

[ChickenSkin]

I'm trying the online dating thing and have just got talking to a 6ft 4in bouncer and weights trainer.

Seems a nice bloke but I read "into the darkest corner" and .... well anyone that's read it will know what I'm on about.

I won't write him off for that alone but is it reasonable to be "wary" of certain professions when dating or is it terribly judgemental?

See I couldn't do with a computer geek. He'd bore me to death.

Useful for when the laptop cocks up though I suppose.

TBH I think you have to suck it and see

If you are using online dating, their occupation is the last issue IMO! Plenty of other issues to worry about- like have they got a wife.

I'd go out with most blokes once- no matter what they did for a iving because you can change your occupation but you can't change your personality.

Property developers; everyone I've known has been a self centred, tight fisted arse with no time for anyone.
No offence to the nice ones out there, where ever you are.

Would second property developers. Would be cautious about anyone with a high flying career in any profession. I would wonder about whether I would come before or after the job and in many cases, it would be well after.

" 'can I see some more pictures of you...with less clothes on?' "
LESS clothes???
Well, that would be him out for a start. Should be "fewer."

Mightynice "
Can't do dating. Hate it. Waiting until I can marry my horse"

Best.post.ever!! PMSL!!!!! thankyou

clam yes yes I knew it should have been fewer not less. I was typing in a hurry!

I met my DH on a dating site & he is a computer geek (as are lots of my male friends) but DH is very well adjusted & normal. He doesn't do playstation/world of warcraft or any of that stuff and the only fan of Lord of the Rings in our house is ME.

Into be darkest corner is a good but chilling book!
As far as blokes go couldn't date anyone who worked with snakes or spiders etc! Also couldn't do the long distance thing!

I don't think I would actively avoid anyone if I were dating. My cousin dabbles in dating sites, but constantly dismissing guys because they're the wrong age or "too ginger" etc.

That being said I loathe going to the dentist so I'd be a little put off my someone in that profession and I'm just not an armed forces type. An ex-soldier/naval officer etc etc would be fine, but someone still doing active service? I think it would be too much of a daunting commitment to me.

I work for HMPS and DH is a drainage engineer. Wonder if those professions would put off any respective potential mates if either of us were dating?

Fishmonger.

OI! I work in IT (not a geek though!)

I had this conversation with my mum last week and thought best for me (when I'm ready) to go for a professional person but I suppose if you meet the right person it shouldn't matter what they do?? (not 100% convinced though!)

Journalists. Avoid.

Most have personality disorders.

I have a computer geek who used to work as a labourer builder.

It would not bother me so much what someone does. It is the person that matters. Sometimes we fall into jobs we are unsuited to and just can't leave. Perhaps if the job concerned went against strong beliefs I have I would not date them, but that would be obvious from the first conversation so it would never get to a first date e.g doing research on animals all day for a cosmetics company or something or professional dole scronger that has not worked a day in his life, is 40 and lives with mum

amelia I know an undertaker and he is lovely A real (alive!-)people person, which is why he was interested in doing it - he changed career a few years ago. He is also married, so presumably his wife doesn't mind either!

Think I would mostly avoid people whose work makes it hard to maintain a relationship - workaholics or those who work away the majority of the time, or forces as I wouldn't fancy having to move around based on their postings (regardless of my work, children's schools etc). If I was choosing a life partner I would like him to be there!

That would only be if I was picking from a website or something though, obviously if you met and fell for someone you might be less likely to care!

This thread has made me think- by 40 or so, are all the decent ones snapped up? Is there just dysfunctional jetsam left? Including me

It depends on their personality.
I have met men who work as bouncers, or doing security work, and they seem normal blokes. In fact, they may be less violent than other men.

Men who have supposedly nice professions can be dangerous at home.

I have a PhD and have broad interests. My exH is a school leaver, who seemed broad minded initially, but turned out to care little beyond the most basic mind numbing things.
He never really bothered about my work and was not particularly supportive of it, and deep down I think he didn't feel comfortable with living with a career woman. I think he was happiest when I worked pt at a shoe shop between jobs.

Oh, BTW, my sis married a computer guy and he is lovely with broad interests. Don't dismiss computer "geeks" off hand. :)

No, not all the decent ones. People develop at different rates. Someone who is entirely useless at 20 might well have done a fair amount of work on their own psyche by 40 and be ready to rock and roll. And can't find a decent bird

You're ready when you're ready...I wasn't ready till my late thirties and probably DP wasn't ready till now, either (and I won't say how old he is!)

but it works out, we met and it's perfect. So, you know, it just happens when it happens. Don't fret about people's age. It matters not a ha'penny.

marshmallow You could have got away with that. I assumed it was the bloke himself.
Couldn't date an estate agent. Or anyone who uses the term "myself" in the wrong context, e.g. "Give a ring to myself."

I couldn't be with a butcher or fishmonger. The smell would be awful. My DPs friend is a fisherman and he smells.

My DP was single for about 6 years before we got together. He is a merchant seaman and is away for 8 weeks at a time. None of the girls he met before were willing to put up with that.

Coppers and soldiers too. Im not terribly keen on authoritarian types really. I prefer a bit of rough myself, am married to an ex public schoolboy who became a builder, he still has lovely arm muscles at 44.

Drug dealers, hitmen, female impersonators and male escorts are out for me.

I wouldn't date a woo-peddler of any kind, nor a religious official, because I wouldn't date someone I had no respect for. On similar grounds, I wouldn't want to date a bailiff or debt collector, either.

I agree with all of yours sgb