If you were dating - would you "avoid" certain professions?

[ChickenSkin]

I'm trying the online dating thing and have just got talking to a 6ft 4in bouncer and weights trainer.

Seems a nice bloke but I read "into the darkest corner" and .... well anyone that's read it will know what I'm on about.

I won't write him off for that alone but is it reasonable to be "wary" of certain professions when dating or is it terribly judgemental?

columbia999 did you mean to be so rude?

My friend married a bouncer. She's a highly qualified professional. Turns out her DH is a very intelligent bloke, who after being with my friend a while got the confidence and the money together to go to university - he's now got a first class degree and a good, technical job that he really enjoys.

Oh, and my DP left school at 16 and went to work, whereas I've got 2 degrees and postgrad qualifications. Doesn't mean I'm cleverer than him.

If it sounds as though you'd get on with the bloke, give it a go. A few emails and a drink won't do any harm.

Ummm lovely ChickenSkin.

Can't believe the police/ RAF/ forces are getting such a slating. I grew up with those people surrounding me so personally have quite a thing for those sort of occupations (uniform and fit bodies help). Can understand the worry aspect being a factor.

For me anyone involved in politics or religion is a no-no.

I wouldn't (knowingly) date a criminal / gangster / drug dealer, basically anyone who earns money in an illegal & scary manner!

Members of bomb disposal squads.. Bodyguards to people at high risk of assassination.. Opposition politicians & journalists in countries where those are lethal occupations.. Motorcycle courier.. Extreme sports professional... I don't want to find a lovely bloke then discover that his job puts him at an extremely high probability of serious injury, kidnap or death. (Or puts me or my family at risk too).

I would try to avoid police etc (crap lifestyle) although I do have a history of having a thing for police men!

military, again because of lifestyle and worry, and also shell shock! It wouldn't be a deal breaker if I found myself falling for one, but if it was online dating i'ld prob avoid.

Taxi river - same as above, IMO one of the hardest, most dangerous, most crap life/work balance jobs around (and without the "danger money" that some other crap jobs get)

Anything illegal or immoral would be a no no, no strip club owners, no dodgy loan sellers, noone who sells dodgy products to vulnerable people for bonuses

And they would have to be at least working TOWARDS some sort of profession, I'm attracted to ambition and drive and passion

Musicians - selfish, lying, egotistical, scrounging twats I'm with columbia on this one...danger, fear, poor hours poor pay I can live with...but this lot take the biscuit

Lol at bomb disposal

I went on a date with a policeman, initially I was a bit "swoon" over the fact that he was a 999 emergency responder but over our date it became obvious that his job had hardened him to the very dark sides of life and involved a lot of violence.

He then mentioned that his ex had "played the DV card" when moving on between partners after they had separated.

I was shocked and horrified that he said that.

I have now met a lovely man who manages a warehouse :)

Woah lillipop, "playing the DV card" sounds scary, especially for him to be so blase about it.

A man I once dated started ranting about how women whinge about equal rights and then moan when their husbands or boyfriends hit them!! dick.

Yup chicken, esp with him being first on the scene at many DV incidents where 999 has been called :( and

Erm, I'm dating a butcher at the moment and he doesn't smell at all? Mind you, he usually showers as soon as he gets home from work and if he comes near me before he's changed out of his bloody apron I keep at a safe distance.

Personally I wouldn't be keen to date any type of doctor (raging narcissists), anyone in the army (I'd never sleep in peace again), paramedics/male nurses (most of them seem to be completely deranged) and jobless bludgers (self explanatory).

But realistically as long as he is emotionally stable and makes me happy then pretty much any occupation is fine with me. :D

oh I would never accept a date from a paramedic! tend to pity girls that do because they do tend to "blanket bomb" - as in they ask EVERYONE out till someone says yes, regardless of whether they have a wedding ring on or not!

I cringe when new hospital staff feel flattered by their advances because in every hospital I've worked in everyone who came in contact with them got asked out till they found one (usually a newbie) who'ld say yes.

I'm sure there are monogomous choosey paramedics out there, but because I've met so many and they've all conformed so far, I wouldn't say yes!

I'm having a crap day and this thread has made me laugh and cheered me up. Thanks.

The bouncer/small penis thing is because a lot of them take steroids. Builds up the muscles but shrinks the genitals.

I was on a course with a policeman once and he used the expression 'going over the side' for cheating. Maybe I've lived a sheltered life but the only other time I ever heard that expression was on a police drama on telly. Any occupation that has its own term for cheating has to be bad news, no? Have always thought policeman=wife beater anyway...

It's hard to improve on HotDamn's comprehensive list. Thought I would add, I work with a lot of doctors (I'm training to be one) and you can't generalise. Surgeons are often arrogant tossers, but this can be quite sexy. Orthopaedic surgeons are all overconfident, ex public school and into money (they make lots). Cardiologists/cardiothoracic surgeons are also a bit macho. A&E doctors are players-away, they like the adrenaline.

But physicians (that's hospital doctors doing a specialty like say, renal medicine/hepatology) are often nice guys.

Of all the jobs listed, estate agent has to be one of the worst. I'd be embarrassed to have to say I was married to one of them.

Actually, I think a paramedic could be quite useful if I had an accident, and all the Estate Agents I know in RL are lovely.

don't policeman have the highest divorce rate of any professional?

I think doctors have an unfair rep TBH, the god complex rep is either from america where things are more medicalised, or else it's rolled over from the past. I have met a few heart surgeons with serious god complex issues but suspect they would be like that if they were a fishmonger! But I've met more surgeons who were witty and humble and just as nice to little old HCAs as they are to anyone else. It can be a crap lifestyle, but most of them are nice and not cracking on to nurses all day as carry-on or Holby would have you believe

CHEFS! violent, aggressive in a manic, best friend the next moment way, cheaters! most are forever "engaged" to some woman they don't live with but have a child with, but will shag anything else they can get their hands on

I thought chefs, too, HCA!

Policemen:
Work a vicious shift pattern, causing stress & disrupting home life
Often don't get proper meal breaks, adding to the likelihood of developing stress-related illness
Are required to adhere to a set of rigid, complicated rules (law) while dealing with people who don't observe the rules
Are exposed all the time to the nastiest elements of humanity, and to the saddest
Are in a permanent combat situation
Are the emblem of authority while being expected to serve the people.

No wonder it fucks 'em up.
Ime, the service also attracts those of criminal tendencies - there's an old joke about policemen (if they couldn't be police they'd be criminals), like the one about psychologists (if they weren't clinicians they'd be patients). Truth in both, I reckon!

Policemen or servicemen a big no I would just not be attracted to someone like that. Have dated artists and musicians mainly fun but generally skint but I like the go with the flow life style so it has worked for me. City slickers also feature on my fantasy register but would probably not work outside the bedroom . hate hate hate builders etc work with them and I hear the convos and their wives must be saints or totally ignorant of who they are dealing with!

ChickenSkin - I once went out with a guy who jokingly would argue that since women used their superior emotional strength to abuse men, why shouldn't men be allowed to used their superior physical strength against women. Oh, how everyone laughed. He was a very popular guy. Only joking of course but that attitude had to come from somewhere. And the sycophants who laughed with him.

I think the forces has the highest divorce rate, followed by diplomats. No big suprise there.

Petrean Everyone else on here is generalising like mad and most are pretty uncomplimentary. Why pick my post out of all of them to have a go at?

I thought your post was OK, Columbia.

Thank you GB!

What garlic said,

no idea why you were singled out Columbia