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[pollyblue]

Hello,
just wondering how things were going with you and your situation?

If you're still not sure if the woman you fancy has any feelings for you, can I offer you (possibly!) a bit of hope.....I don't know if you remember but I was in a similar situation last year - despite me getting a bit of a 'vibe' from my crush nothing came of it, she told me she wasn't gay etc so that was that. We were still friends, but (afaik) nothing more.

Anyhoo I saw her today, unexpectedly, for the first time in about 3 months and blow me down, she asked me out. Albeit if was a tentative, polite ask but she did, nonetheless. I did a good goldfish impression, I was so surprised. Just going to wait now, not get too excited, and see if anything comes of it.

So - there is hope!

Hug, maybe peck on cheek but no tongues.

Has anyone any suggestions as to what to put in this email? I've got as far as 'hello'......

"Hello. I've been thinking about when you asked me out on a date and looking forward to it. Can I suggest we meet at and see how things go?"

rightho!

polly you mean you ve hugged yours?
No G40 that's really delusional to think it was for me - she never done it before and saw me lots but on the day she wants space with a man she 's in that top (I hardly saw her today).

I did think it was pushing it, to be fair.

have sent, so in the lap of the gods now.

OP, would you write to or email your crush, if you don't get any further with her in the next few days?

hands are at least some form of contact, obv no good to stop at that!
polly, ask whether she's better as you are getting impatient!

Yes, I've hugged mine - night out we were both on just over a year ago, gave her a (very drunken) hug goodnight. Then thought 'sod it' and gave her another (long) one. She didn't seem to mind, but she was off her head too.

Holding hands, yes. And fiddling about with them. But not shaking.

It will still be a week or so before we have to part, so no plans yet for after.
G40, you see even you admit it was for the man - where does it leave me then? they probably went to bed (argh).

Yes, I did enquire after her health - it seemed polite

I meant at least to briefly hold hand as a goodbye when I leave, not a business type shake haha - but as i say haven't even done that. I'm miles off holding hands!

polly - you should show your impatience.

lucky you re hugs! I only wish we could have drinks together! I really think it wd help to move out of limbo. But she never offers when at her place.

No, I don't think it was for the man in that sense. If she only sees him very occasionally it can't be very serious. Unless he's getting on in years too and once in ablue moon suffices.

I think i did, in a subtle (but not too subtle) way.........

I'm not sure too subtle would work.

well he's not young, her age prob. I think he lives very far that's why she said she rarely sees him (and that he's in town for a day) - it cd be an ex or someone she really likes, enough to sleep with occasionally when he's in town (as in better quality than quantity). I'll never know. But she did havea glow. If she's sad tomorrow after this 'high', than it's definetely more than a friend.

polly, thought we agreed - subtle is not for her.

We do agree, I just need to tread the right path between 'hello how are you?' and 'Oi! come here and snog me NOW!'

I'll see what (if any) response I get and proceed accordingly...

I'm not naturally at all forward though, it's all a bit new.

Catching onto this thread quite late on but v interested. In brief, I was a married straight (so I thought) woman in 40s then fell for another woman. Had never had desires for other women before etc but realise sexuality a very fluid thing - if you are open to it.
Likeatonne - have you tried being very cool and aloof with this woman? I think if you came across as detached and disinterested (maybe even feign sadness) the next time you see her, if she cares she'll ask you what's wrong. Might be a good tactic. She may then suggest a drink to cheer you up. Here's hoping...

Like a tonne.... arrrghhh it's not going too well I'm so sorry, perhaps she just doesn't realise that you like her a lot, some people are just not receptive to any sort of attention grrr. Feigning sadness is going to be easy next week if it's your last together (try anything!) Get her email address also.

Had a think about your invite to the exhibition..... if she really wanted to be with you for a while she would have gone anyway, but you have already deduced that before my post. Pity she can't make room for another friend I don't have any so perhaps that's only my perspective.

Pollyblue..... any reply yet? Not that I want to know....

Loveis, is there a happy ending though? was the woman you fell for straight as well? So what is she does ask why I'm sad - how would you reply in my position?
Yes, I was just going to say that it won't be hard to appear sad as I probably will by end of next week anyway (I'm also not goiing to see her a couple of days during it, but still seeing her weekends as well). The problem is although I see her sometines it's just for a brief chat as she has other things on so it'a only occasionally that she's relaxed and in a more chatty mood. Allotment already mentioned that - and yes, I don't have much of a social life though do have a close female friend myself, she just tends to run around - not lots of close friends but lots of practical and social (relatives etc) busyness with her. Sometimes when not running, she's in a sout mood and it's also hard to chat her up. I think she knoes for sure that I like her, I gave her quite a few compliments over time, but I can't show 'm in love as sh might be put off, I don't want to come cross as clingy.

sour mood, knows and lots of typos(argh) - haven't had a coffee yet!
Yesterday's man does live miles away abroad, and hearing her on the phone to him today, I'm not sure he's a lover actually, she's been extremely warm and laughing also, but it didn't sound intimate iykwim - and she cold have chosen when to call if she wanted intimate. She did call him though (not other way round), and sounded even ingratiating, tried to suggest she will sometime visit his country (he's english, expat), so whether she's after him in the long term I dont know. But actually could well be just someone she admires as a person purely..Not sure why the tight fitting top though..If they went to bed yest she's an extremely self possessed woman sounding as she did today. Anyway, this is all not very relevant to her attitude to me.

Likea...I don't understand your position with this woman - from what I can gauge you spend time in her house but you don't work together? If she is compassionate and sensitive, she will notice if you are sad, surely unless she is completely shut down and wrapped up in herself. Don't put yourself down. I think you need to believe you're in the same league -- we all are. In my case, the woman had had relationships with both men and women so I guess I was quite intrigued by her, but we just clicked.