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[pollyblue]

Hello,
just wondering how things were going with you and your situation?

If you're still not sure if the woman you fancy has any feelings for you, can I offer you (possibly!) a bit of hope.....I don't know if you remember but I was in a similar situation last year - despite me getting a bit of a 'vibe' from my crush nothing came of it, she told me she wasn't gay etc so that was that. We were still friends, but (afaik) nothing more.

Anyhoo I saw her today, unexpectedly, for the first time in about 3 months and blow me down, she asked me out. Albeit if was a tentative, polite ask but she did, nonetheless. I did a good goldfish impression, I was so surprised. Just going to wait now, not get too excited, and see if anything comes of it.

So - there is hope!

That got my ears flapping ! [bugrin]

flaps? er can you hint what does that mean? I just talked to my wiq about a flap today - could that be taken as innuendo??

Likea - thank you. That really made me crack up.

what was the context of the flap conversation?

polly she just had Easter lunch with friends, drank a lot, then had dinner also (don't know who with) I don't htink she has a BF, no sign of him, thoug hshe doesn't share all this with me. flap convo - no it was nothing like that!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1446488-Welcome-to-the-Turning-Tavern

it's just so weird that whenever I leave her for another break/gap (like today) I can't then stop thinking about her, and have this feeling at times that we are meant to be together, I don't know as lovers or just friends but it feels strange to be apart for weeks. I don't know whether, again, I read too much into it (I don';t really, but I notice), but lately she sort of makes strange comments sometimes. For example she said just recently 'I don't want to change X in my house' - I was arguing that this would help with something, so she said in a slightly cheeky tone 'YOU wouldn't like it if it becomes a cold house!' - I did mention once about it being chilly there but I hardly ever spend time in the room that she meant will be cold, it's usually room she meets guests. Or - when her pet did a thing where I had to pay attention to it, she said 'it's her welcome home to you' (after me not seeing her for two days). maybe she's getting soft on me just a tiny bit? Even though she's not like that all the time.

likea, have been lurking here thus far but just wanted to say if those are the vibes you are getting (in your last post) I'm sure you're not imagining it. I say that kind of thing - that she sometimes says to you - to someone when I have a slight crush on them, so maybe there is something there even if she's not aware of it herself.
I also believe in reincarnation and that we have a 'soul family', people we just resonate with really strongly and feel connected with in the extreme. Such connections can feel like "Oh, there you are!" when you meet, and are sometimes deep friendships, sometimes more than platonic. So whatever is going on, there is clearly a connection that you aren't imagining. :)

thank you Hep, I had 'oh there you are' moment immediately when I met her and we started talking, half a year ago, but it has been bumpy as you know, I feel even more like that now but at other times she does distance herself, and she still doesn't share that much unless asked. I do think she's resisting getting involved even as a friend because getting attached is a bit scary, and she already has strong bond with her children and I still think she minds their opinions on her getting involved with a woman (if she is considering). I think she's aware of her comments, especially the one about the cold house (as if I'm going to be there a lot) but she possibly meant it 'no one will like it', rather than 'you in particular' but said it like that to be nice. I want to see now how she is in a couple of weeks as the stress she's been having about one child (for weeks now) is ending, thank God, and possibly she'd more focussed on herself and her wishes.

*she'd be

I had that feeling when I met my best friend for the first time. No sexual vibes at all, but definitely "oh there you are at last"

G40 - what do you think of her recent comments that I described in last post? been waiting for your verdict!

It means she be warming up !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

...let's hope it wasn't an abberation haha, but something that will continue!