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pollyblue · 16/03/2012 19:04

Hello,
just wondering how things were going with you and your situation?

If you're still not sure if the woman you fancy has any feelings for you, can I offer you (possibly!) a bit of hope.....I don't know if you remember but I was in a similar situation last year - despite me getting a bit of a 'vibe' from my crush nothing came of it, she told me she wasn't gay etc so that was that. We were still friends, but (afaik) nothing more.

Anyhoo I saw her today, unexpectedly, for the first time in about 3 months and blow me down, she asked me out. Albeit if was a tentative, polite ask but she did, nonetheless. I did a good goldfish impression, I was so surprised. Just going to wait now, not get too excited, and see if anything comes of it.

So - there is hope! Grin

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likeatonneofbricks · 07/04/2012 21:38

gentle

teedeeuk · 07/04/2012 21:54

Thank you AllotmentFreak for the welcome, I am in fact well acquainted with the world of lesbian longing, love and even teas(e)!

likeatonneofbricks · 07/04/2012 21:54

thanks, is it good at all?

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pollyblue · 07/04/2012 22:04

Tee any good stories you can bring to the post will be welcome Grin Will stop me and Likea hogging it with our tales of woe.

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AllotmentFreak · 07/04/2012 22:06

First series was brilliant, full of longing, unrequited love and.........lesbian teas!!! (no not the tea) [bugrin]

Watch the first series online if it's still available.

teedeeuk · 07/04/2012 22:09

Well Polly....I did once spend an evening with someone who was 'definitely not gay' and it lasted seven years!

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pollyblue · 07/04/2012 22:11

Yay! Grin

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pollyblue · 07/04/2012 22:12

How many drinks did it take for the 'definitely not gay' to become 'oh, go on then...'?!

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likeatonneofbricks · 07/04/2012 22:14

tee..lucky you!
polly mine is not such a tale of woe - she did warm up again by te end of the day today, been smiling at me quite a bit! I just feel that there has to be a step up to more physical proximity, and I'm not brave enough to intiate. At least there is now some pattern of seeing her, after two months of a break! Trying to do what Gay40 does, and just be there and attentive, and hope she will encourage more.

Loveisthemessage · 07/04/2012 22:20

Tee - have the 7 years been itched or are you still in the arms of said lady? Would love to hear your story...blimey, how many more stories are there? It's so great but time is running out. Quick!

AllotmentFreak · 07/04/2012 22:25

There's another thread on Relationships which has 813 posts, so it will go over the 800.

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pollyblue · 07/04/2012 22:28

yeah i think it's 1000 max

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teedeeuk · 07/04/2012 22:28

Polly-not many :)
Loveis-no not any more, but I am very happily (gay) married for the last eight years :o

Loveisthemessage · 07/04/2012 23:02

Tee - have you always been gay or did you switch/turn at some point? As you can see, this is something we are all quite fascinated by.

Gay40 · 07/04/2012 23:12

You just know that naming a thread Women On The Turn will have the feminists putting the boot in, don't you

Loveisthemessage · 07/04/2012 23:14

Well Gay, maybe back to your idea: "on a journey but without the peril."

Gay40 · 07/04/2012 23:20

"All of the journey, none of the peril" Grin

Loveisthemessage · 07/04/2012 23:22

That's the one.

likeatonneofbricks · 07/04/2012 23:29

Gay40,,er,, we are still waiting for your answers! I asked what did you mean by 'no one can be really turned or be made gay' - can you read that post, more detail there? and about Mrs being more gay than you, Allotment asked as well as I did.

likeatonneofbricks · 07/04/2012 23:32

G, also I asked how to move from warm and 'vibes' to being closer physically if I'm not brave enough? should i follow your example and hope she will make he move as she HAS obviously warmed to me generally?

Gay40 · 07/04/2012 23:46

I just don't believe anyone can be turned either gay or straight. I think we are all on a spectrum of sexuality. And for people who "appear" to switch, I think they just had this tendency in the first place but either ignored it or didn't have opportunity to do anything about it.
If someone is genuinely not interested, then they aren't and no amount of persuading will make any difference.
Mrs G is convinced she will never go back to men. I can't rule it out for myself, although it is extremely unlikely.

Gay40 · 07/04/2012 23:48

I'd throw in the occasional suggestive comment. And touch her - NOT in a pervy way.

Gay40 · 07/04/2012 23:48

Lip Service is good btw.

likeatonneofbricks · 07/04/2012 23:53

ah ok, I see what you mean G, I agree. You wouldn't go back to men as presumably you've never been with them, yes - extrenely unlikely. But that makes you more gay than Mrs, as she used to be attracted, and you - not at all.
What sort of comment, please suggest! I should touch hr, yes, she tapped me on the arm last tim I was leaving (first ever!) but I'm still a chicken to come out and touch her, maybe will manage air kiss good bye..if she's in a good mood bu tit will feel weird to her as I ve never done it.

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