For LIKEATONNEOFBRICKS

[pollyblue]

Hello,
just wondering how things were going with you and your situation?

If you're still not sure if the woman you fancy has any feelings for you, can I offer you (possibly!) a bit of hope.....I don't know if you remember but I was in a similar situation last year - despite me getting a bit of a 'vibe' from my crush nothing came of it, she told me she wasn't gay etc so that was that. We were still friends, but (afaik) nothing more.

Anyhoo I saw her today, unexpectedly, for the first time in about 3 months and blow me down, she asked me out. Albeit if was a tentative, polite ask but she did, nonetheless. I did a good goldfish impression, I was so surprised. Just going to wait now, not get too excited, and see if anything comes of it.

So - there is hope!

polly I'd prefer the bed as a start, definetely, already overwhelming without adding extra spice!

Probably about the same. I don't like that slagging off of partners either.

with men it's different, it's inevitable to be slagging them off as there are misunderstandings in many couples ,even long term. Women probably stay togethre if truly compatible.

So Gay, in your opinion, do you think women who are together slag each other off less than straight couples? Maybe men and women bitch about each other because there are so many (too many?) differences and they don't understand each other.

And Gay - don't emotions between women get quite heated?

I would say it is about the same.

Perhaps women thrash things out more and therefore there are fewer misunderstandings though that's probably a sweeping generalisation. My lady f says her r-ships with women have been more harmonious than with men. Also sleeping next to a woman was a revelation to me - no snoring or heavy, hairy presence!

Only when PMT week hits at the same time

Well as Likeas crush is in her mid 50s that's not something she'll have to worry about (at least not for much longer)

Polly - maybe you won't have to either. How are you feeling today about your WIQ - fed up, pissed off or hopeful? I wish she would stop arsing around.

Can't work out how to do use the MN icons.

Hi Loveis, I don't know really - cheesed off and a bit aaargh really. I remember this from last year - her ability to sort of slap me down with a very short quite cold email in reply to my chirpy one. I end up feeling like she's had the last word and I've got no right of reply. I wish I was a bit thicker skinned and not worried about making a tit of myself/causing offence and could email her back and say exactly what I think.

I feel like I need to say to her look, I'm not interested in turning you at all, I just think you'd be good company, hence I was pleased when you said about going for a drink. And if you were worried about me trying to turn you, why on earth did you ask me for a drink? I did ask her why she had in an earlier email but she didn't reply, just pointed out she's not gay (again).

Still, as Likea keeps telling me I can ask, but I'll probably never find out.

'arsing around' sums it up very nicely doesn't it?

do you mean the little smiley/cross etc faces?

Got to admit, I'm looking forward to everyone's lowdown - including Salt's.

Oh hello Polly. I thought I was conversing with myself. Yes, can't figure out the smiley/furious faces thing. As for your WIQ, maybe you could email her and say 'let's meet for a drink - as friends - as I know you're NOT GAY. No way." In denial - and that's a river in Egypt.

Maybe promise you won't jump her bones (while keeping your fingers' crossed).

Or say "OK, tell you what. I'm not gay either. I just help out when things are busy. Now can we go for that drink and then we can talk in person about how we are both not gay."

I don't think I'm going to have a lowdown....am I?

I don't think anyone, in all seriousness and reality, can be turned. When people dabble in the other stream, it's because sexuality is not as fixed as homophobes would have you believe. You can absolutely not turn anyone gay or bi. We are all just sat on a spectrum of sexuality, with some of us shifting left and right like birds on a wire.
So the weekend experiences I had were not conversions, merely satisfactions of a previously unexplored itch (on their behalf).

This is my tea break btw. I'm decorating while Mrs G and her sister go round the shops (my idea of hell)

"OK, tell you what. I'm not gay either. I just help out when things are busy. Now can we go for that drink and then we can talk in person about how we are both not gay."

This made me laugh a lot.

I actually have been sorely tempted to email and say 'actually, I'm not gay either'. I think her head would explode.

Gay there's a letter on the problem page thing in the Times today, from a woman in v similar circs to some of us on this post.

Details are quite the same, so I don't think the writer is one of us......

sorry, aren't quite the same

Decorating while having a lesbian tea? I get the picture.
No seriously, Gay (or can we even be serious on this thread?), I think you're right: if people were more open to their sexuality, the world would be a very different place. There's too much labelling - we could all shuffling along said wire, dipping our beaks and webbed feet here and there and having a fantastic time. What I find disappointing is that gay men are far more accepted than gay women. I know so many more gay men than women...it seems that women are pushed underground more or it's more taboo.