For LIKEATONNEOFBRICKS

[pollyblue]

Hello,
just wondering how things were going with you and your situation?

If you're still not sure if the woman you fancy has any feelings for you, can I offer you (possibly!) a bit of hope.....I don't know if you remember but I was in a similar situation last year - despite me getting a bit of a 'vibe' from my crush nothing came of it, she told me she wasn't gay etc so that was that. We were still friends, but (afaik) nothing more.

Anyhoo I saw her today, unexpectedly, for the first time in about 3 months and blow me down, she asked me out. Albeit if was a tentative, polite ask but she did, nonetheless. I did a good goldfish impression, I was so surprised. Just going to wait now, not get too excited, and see if anything comes of it.

So - there is hope!

Gay - how many straight women have you turned?!

A few permanently and a few for the weekend.

OK, more than a few for the weekend.

She's more chatty because of the length of time you have now known each other, it takes some people ages to open up and talk, others not so long. I do find it a tad irritating to have to make all the conversation with anyone new, so know in a way what you mean. Reciprocated conversation is wonderful!

Gay I'm in awe

And how easy was it? Do you think it's easy to turn a straight woman wonky then?

and you're going to have to tell us how. We might pick up some handy tips.

wonky?!

Gay is clearly a Gay Magnet

Loveis, don't worry about the bricks haha. I don't know what she feels but I do feel warmth now. Of course you can love a person - since when this has to happen simultaneously, ussually one feels it first, and the other later. There is also unrequited love, say if the other person is already in love with someone else but if they weren't they could love this new person. Love is when everything about a person makes you happy (obviously not if they aer plain nasty to you), they don't have to feel the same, but if they do it would flourish to full potential, the feeling. If you don't give because you don't know whether you'll get smth back, it's not giving is it. I agree though that strong love is usually reciprocated to some extent sooner or later (but may be not sexual). I really have no doubt that I love her, whatsoever. I said before that it's the sexual side that worries me as an unknown, but I'm attracted at least, it's a start.

Likea - thanks for not hurling a brick. I agree about loving someone but feel being "in love" requires two feeling the same.
Don't worry about the sexual side. It's quite easy to navigate your way round a woman's body as it's all fairly familiar !

Loveis just to add, love is bigger than plain attraction, I've been attracted to many men but hardly loved any. To me attraction by itself is not a big deal, but love is, it's much rarer. Obv it inckudes attraction. It's the desire to care and do smth for the person, of course if they don;t want to receive it will have to fade but not a happy putcome (and it's no less of a love, just would have to stall at an early stage).

Wonky !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
They must have been a bit wonky in the head imo.
But seriously. Now I've thought about it, I just listen to what they have to say and take an interest in what they are saying and doing in life. Not very much talking about myself, unless asked. I never slag off men or engage in "my boyfriend is shit" conversations.....firstly because men are no better or worse than women at the end of the day nor do I hate them, and secondly, the boyfriend probably isn't shit.
Nothing spectacular or groundbreaking.

Loveis but you can't expect it happening at the same moment for both, in most cases. People often don;t confess for a while UNTIL it's reciprocated.

Loveis, yes a woman's bodu is familiar but as a hetero you aer used to other sexual things, I'm worried it can be a bit frustrating for both women, unless one of then knows what she's doing. With two hetero women it's unlikely that either knows, and will need a lot of trial and error. Mind you, hopw do I know tat she's never been with a woman!?

A gay (male) friend of mine in his 50s believes that the most successful relationships he has come across are between two women. He says if it works, they communicate better than men and women and men and men.
Why is it that straight couples (mostly married) always seem to slag each other off? I've never understood why that goes on as it seems so disrespectful and I'd hate my other half to be bitching about me behind my back.

oh trust me likea when you get down to the nitty gritty it all becomes clear...

If you've had a go with yourself, then you can have a go with another woman's body. Tbh I'll put a wodge of money on you finding out that it is surprisingly natural. You'll just know what to do.

Trial and error - my arse. Trust me, you'll be fine. And so will she.

Likea - if it's about two people (regardless of gender) with great chemistry, who really fancy each other and are relaxed together, add love to the mix it can't fail to be good.

haha, I like that last batch of answers! very heated! well, that's great to know!

Yes - bed should be the least of your worries! Something to look forward to...

why does it have to be in bed?!

that's true I can't imagine two women partners slagging each other off!
I wonder what the divorce ratio is as opposed to hetero.

Yes, sorry how dull...!