For LIKEATONNEOFBRICKS

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Hello,
just wondering how things were going with you and your situation?

If you're still not sure if the woman you fancy has any feelings for you, can I offer you (possibly!) a bit of hope.....I don't know if you remember but I was in a similar situation last year - despite me getting a bit of a 'vibe' from my crush nothing came of it, she told me she wasn't gay etc so that was that. We were still friends, but (afaik) nothing more.

Anyhoo I saw her today, unexpectedly, for the first time in about 3 months and blow me down, she asked me out. Albeit if was a tentative, polite ask but she did, nonetheless. I did a good goldfish impression, I was so surprised. Just going to wait now, not get too excited, and see if anything comes of it.

So - there is hope!

loveis all you do is write the word for the icon eg wink but put a square bracket either side of it.

Polly - what is the response to the letter? Can't get the Times online without lining Murdoch's pocket.

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well it's very similar to the thrust of things on here - women's sexuality is more fluid than mens, research shows that women tend to go for person rather than gender, and just because you love a woman doesn't mean you are gay.

well that worked loveis!

Yes, quite chuffed with myself. Thanks for the lesson Polly (short as it was).

Ooh actually, isn't it today that Likea is seeing her WIQ again?

Looking forward to an update later - and interested to hear Salts story too....

Yes, I think it's Likea's last day with her WIQ.
Also looking forward to Salt's story...
I think we have lost Gay up a ladder.

Might tear myself away and make a brew, not a lesbian tea I hasten to add.

I'm just having a cup of very unlesbian builders brew. But then, I am not gay.....

Ha! Of course not. Nor is your WIQ.

Polly - out of interest, did your ex/father of your children know that you had a penchant for the fairer sex?

Next tea break, although the light is fading, as is my enthusiasm for painting. And it isn't lesbian tea either, although it was bought by one.

Mrs G would probably not call herself gay either, although she's more gay than every other gay person I have ever met including myself.

G40, er..how can Mrs G be less gay than you aer if you have nevr been with a man and she was for many yrs? Plus obv she's only been with one woman, ahem unlike you.
Can you also explain what you meant by 'no one can be really turned'? do you mean that one nighter or short phases go quickly, with those women you encountered , and then they return to hetero?
My wiq is very subdued today and in her shell, so nothing to report. Possibly not too well again. Little chat, reasonably friendly but not warm and talkative it was early in the week. She's is busy though today. I'm seeing her tomorrw and monday but briefly. Loveis try to keep up - my 10-day stretch with wiq ended last monday (tat was everyday comtsct), today was arranged by me as I can't stay away, and next one after the w/end will be only end of the month one day, and so on every week or two weeks. I sort of imposed myself but she's fine with it as there is a benefit for her too (apart from anything else). As yo cabn see I have (and need) a patience of a saint, which I normally dont have!

*like it was

I'm interested in this whole 'you can be in a relationship with a woman without being gay' thing. How does that work? Do you mean they are bisexual or still consider themselves straight?
G40, what do you mean when you say mrsG is more gay than someone else?

BTW, a small development from me. I've discovered another woman I quite fancy, (straight and attached so no-go again), but it does make me realise it's not necessarily UW or no one. But I think I will end up with a woman.

everyday contact (argh! honestly this is the only forum without edit function on the internet!)

Loveis yes he knew from quite early on.
I remember telling him, and him saying 'oh yes I'd guess that, you told me ages ago you fancied Gillian Anderson.'
I don't recall that, but 'tis true so I probably did.

crushing - crossed posts with questions to Gay, she's often cryptic!

Likea - apologies. I will try and keep up . Not enough sleep these past couple of full moon nights. Glad you saw your WIQ today but sorry to hear she was subdued and meetings are sporadic.
Crushing - I agree. It's a riveting topic. I think and hope Gay might have some answers for us. When I say to my lady f that I'm not gay, she says, "Well you're doing but doing a pretty good impression..." which always makes me larf. If you click with someone perhaps you can be more natural with them so there is less awkwardness.

It's all about labels (which I don't agree with)... bi-sexual, ambi-sexual, not entirely heterosexual, sapphic, swinging both ways, monoclinous...Susie Orbach (was married to a man, now lives with Jeanette Winterson) calls herself "post-heterosexual."

Mary Portas who also was hetero now in ltr with a woman (also says she's not gay and still notices men but wants to be involved with this one woman).

I don't think I've noticed that being gay is taboo with women but not with men - I think people don't mind gay women and somehow just don't mention them much, whereas gay men, possibly due to flamboyancy, can get on people's nerves as being aggressively gay..? Also I think there aer more fluid or bu women than gay ones, but with men it's bigger quantity who aer only gay. Not surprised as their sexuality is very black andwhite due to anatimy really.

*or bi