For LIKEATONNEOFBRICKS

[pollyblue]

Hello,
just wondering how things were going with you and your situation?

If you're still not sure if the woman you fancy has any feelings for you, can I offer you (possibly!) a bit of hope.....I don't know if you remember but I was in a similar situation last year - despite me getting a bit of a 'vibe' from my crush nothing came of it, she told me she wasn't gay etc so that was that. We were still friends, but (afaik) nothing more.

Anyhoo I saw her today, unexpectedly, for the first time in about 3 months and blow me down, she asked me out. Albeit if was a tentative, polite ask but she did, nonetheless. I did a good goldfish impression, I was so surprised. Just going to wait now, not get too excited, and see if anything comes of it.

So - there is hope!

on the subject of word usage - do you know if the actual gay women use the term 'lesbian teas', or is it used by hetero people much more? G40, would you use this?
I'm still of the opposite opinion the WIQ is never going to become gay. Even if she wondered about it, it's too weak in her to act on, she had plenty of time to try and she's single now with no kids (it has to be pretty strong to convert a woman later in life, but not even that strong for a fere agent like her). People who are not sure would not state it so directly, they'd rather say nothing or at least sound vague. I would, for one. Especially not to a potential interest.

*free agent

I have never heard anyone in my entire life say "lesbian teas". Gay or straight. But if they did, I would probably guess at herbal tea.

"Lesbian tease" - yes

Although I did hear a friend of mine describing another (straight) friend as having a lesbiany evening. By which she meant she had a one night stand with a woman as a one-off.

you know, we had a discussion here that lots of women COULD get involved with a woman, but the fact is, majority don't, even if single. So saying she's in denial is like saying that almost everyone's in denial. Some people (incl. her possibly) like to play with ideas in their head, and try them out lightly by flirting, see how it feels theoretically but they have NO intention to act on it. The desire for a hetero woman has to be overpowering to actually act on it - for me it was falling in love, not even just desire, otherwise nothing would've happened, and I did in younger years think very occasionally of kissing a girl but it just wasn't strong enough as no feelings were involved, just fleeting moments. As I said with men previously I didn't have to be in love to fancy them a lot. That's why I don't think polly should still hope, much better if she was open to meeting someone else, worthwhile. If someone gets attracted to her properly, they would show it (and you know it, G40!)

G40 - it's used quite a bit in the South East. But what I mean, would you find it a bit bad taste to use this term yourself (i.e. it's labelling)? what I'm getting at, would she have used it lightly if she even considered being interested in a woman? My male friend said that she was hinting to me and wanting to see the reaction, but no one here agreed, of you remember. I know this is back to ages ago, but we were talking about words.
Gay tease- yes, like that one!

Likea - I don't think it's about your WIQ "becoming gay". I am in a r-ship with a woman and don't consider myself gay -- nor does she for that matter. Supposedly a high percentage of women fantasise about being with another woman. It's not unusual. I never did and never thought I would fall for woman. Life can throw up big surprises.

like can you remind me of the teas context/comment - I can't find it.

Yes, for someone who writes quite short emails, WIQ does seem to chuck the word 'gay' in quite a lot......I think she's just trying to show she's Gay Friendly and Unshockable.

I've never heard of lesbian tea either.

I am being Very Unflakey - have ignored her last email and have written to Powers That Be to request release from duties at end of month that would've meant working alongside her. I'm not optimistic that I will be able to get out of it, but hope i can.

At 18.03

salt I think it might have been on Likeas OP.

Ah - as in the deleted OP polly? I do remember something... Been reading avidly since the start!

Oh was it deleted? I didn't know that.

Yep I'm pretty sure like felt she'd given away tmi and asked it to be removed.

But yes, I've heard of the lesbian herbal tea thing - not that I understand it. Always sounded derogatory to me, if "harmless" enough.

Oh I see! Well hopefully Likea will be back later and tell you the original conversation.

Can I just say for the record, although I've not contributed much to this and have mainly been observing from the sidelines, I'll be sad when the post comes to its natural end. You're like a bunch of old friends! (Probably the wine speaking, sorry...)

I know what you mean Salt

We'll have to find a way to keep it going

Loveis re your post 16.00.24 - funnily enough the only thing I've been tempted to email her today is "do you realise you come across as really bloody rude?!"

But I didn't, I had another cup of tea instead

I've got a nasty/nice feeling it's going to run on rather.....

Salt you couldn't develop an inexplicable crush on someone could you?! that would keep us going for a bit longer, if Likea gets her woman and mine sees the light (hollow laughter).

I try to keep my sapphic relations to the page - it's a sort of acceptable catharsis.

So Salt - are you bi-curious yourself or just interested in the developments on this thread?

I'd love to know how many people are watching this thread (and not partaking in the running commentary).