For LIKEATONNEOFBRICKS

[pollyblue]

Hello,
just wondering how things were going with you and your situation?

If you're still not sure if the woman you fancy has any feelings for you, can I offer you (possibly!) a bit of hope.....I don't know if you remember but I was in a similar situation last year - despite me getting a bit of a 'vibe' from my crush nothing came of it, she told me she wasn't gay etc so that was that. We were still friends, but (afaik) nothing more.

Anyhoo I saw her today, unexpectedly, for the first time in about 3 months and blow me down, she asked me out. Albeit if was a tentative, polite ask but she did, nonetheless. I did a good goldfish impression, I was so surprised. Just going to wait now, not get too excited, and see if anything comes of it.

So - there is hope!

Yes and yes. Don't think I have mentioned that.

ah right! I wonder, do you find women more fanciable or more loveable than men, or both, though prob you can't generalise.

butI mean comparing those men/women who you did get involved with.

Generally I fancy women more than men, but I've had relationships with a couple of fab men, who were equally loveable.

And they had much better manners than some women

well unfortunately lots of men have dreadful manners and blindspots with consideration. But you must have a good antenae for good men, possibly Because you fancy them less and can choose more wisely.

maybe there's something in that, we've always started out as good friends and the relationships have grown from there.

yes, interesting, because for previously hetero women it's te other way round - interest in a woman starts with liking/admiring and then fancying comes. E.g. I can't imagine fancying a woman unless I'm a little in love with her (at least a little). With men it was fancying first hence many mistakes.

that's where I've gone wrong with WIQ then, I fancied her from the moment I saw her.

yes, this is usually a typical man's behaviour (who's flaky) and a woman can't see it as she fancies him. I mean, really, mature TYPICAL women are not like that, not the majority.

you have to start fancying women with a heart! (and manners)

Yes I do

Off to bed now, good night Likeatonne

Damn. I miss all the good stuff.

I've just scrolled back to realise that all of my advice is a load of shit, as I clearly do not know what I'm talking about !!!!!
Gawd, I hope we have some positive news soon. I did feel quite cross with Polly's WIQ last night

Gay I was thinking last night that your fishing rod analogy is quite appropriate for my situation, I think that's what WIQ has been doing - at least, thats what it feels like.

She reels me in with a warm, friendly, slightly bonkers email, I respond in kind then she slaps me back down with an icily formal response.

I'm pinning my hopes on Likea getting a good result soon, or my head might well implode under the strain

In that case, the trick might be to tug gently, rather than flap about like a hooked salmon x

who's flapping like a hooked slamon, me or her?

salmon, even

And she does 'have a lot of gay friends' you know [buhmm]

Bah.

I still think WIQ is in denial (and a quite rude) but maybe I'm playing devil's advocate.

You aren't flapping about at all...which I think is good. There's no point in getting involved in that sort of behaviour. One flake is enough

I mean why would she bother telling you she has "a lot of gay friends". To me she seems quite keen on the word "gay" and mentions it a lot!

She just needs to put her words into action!

Over mentions it, in my opinion.

In our house we call it mentionitis. It's when you are trying to simultaneously not NOT mention something for fear of being accused of secrecy, yet careful not to mention something too much but your subconscious keeps going on about it.

Also see: cheating husbands who have mentionitis of a person and then silentitis.

In summary: WIQ is in denial and will eventually give in.

Yes, Gay & I are not giving up on WIQ.
Meanwhile, I think I have Likeatonne threaditis.

Oh, I'm hopelessly addicted to the outcome of both.