For LIKEATONNEOFBRICKS

[pollyblue]

Hello,
just wondering how things were going with you and your situation?

If you're still not sure if the woman you fancy has any feelings for you, can I offer you (possibly!) a bit of hope.....I don't know if you remember but I was in a similar situation last year - despite me getting a bit of a 'vibe' from my crush nothing came of it, she told me she wasn't gay etc so that was that. We were still friends, but (afaik) nothing more.

Anyhoo I saw her today, unexpectedly, for the first time in about 3 months and blow me down, she asked me out. Albeit if was a tentative, polite ask but she did, nonetheless. I did a good goldfish impression, I was so surprised. Just going to wait now, not get too excited, and see if anything comes of it.

So - there is hope!

Re the shouting thing, it was (apparently, I only know what I was told) more a terse dressing down than anything else.

That's just one occassion - I've seen her work with many other people over the past couple of years and she is generally very supportive and kind.

Have just received email from WIQ! Will read and digest and report back. On the face of it, it's a bit weird. I think she's been on the lighter fuel...

she emailed at last - well, some relief! can't wait to hear what she said. Yes, I did get a one dimensional impession of her, but on balance my perception is that she's good and fair at work but not great or considerate in personal life. I'm just worried for you that you may get stuck on someone who's a tease (and I've no idea what aer her reasons really) with no potential for more.

waiting....with lighter fuel breath

well, the nuts and bolts of it are sorry for not replying sooner, still under weather and busy with work. She is not gay! but would still like to go for a drink, when she's feeling a little less dead.

I'm actually quite relieved. At least I know i didn't cause major offence by emailing her. And I think she will make a better drinking buddy than potential other half.

Am a lurker on ths thread, but can't resist posting!

Reckon that polly's woman sounds rubbish and best avoided, definitely! Sorry.

likeatonne's is a long-shot and best not to pin hopes on. Might it be an idea to attend some gatherings for gay/bi women - you could discuss this stuff and get some RL views! Or you might even meet someone you like. My friend did this without much experience with women, worked out well for her! She met soneone fab.

Likea yes don't worry, I understand where you're coming from and do appreciate your viewpoint and words of caution.

It's often easy not to see what's under our noses, so having the opportunity to air things on here and get others input (esp when RL support is lacking) is really helpful.

Dozer don't apologise! I like people to say what they think.

Well Polly, as she has reiterated that she's not gay I really don't think there is any chance. Perhaps a friendship would be enough?

Why do you all rush about posting when I'm working on some task. Other nights when I'm not so busy, nowt happens

Bricks: yes, I found her attractive, very much so, but I find many of my friends attractive without fancying them. I didn't wish she was gay...I accept everyone for who they are. Because even straight women change their minds. Even ones who say they aren't gay.

Polly, you'll know the old joke about the difference between straight women and gay women...

Well, all I can say is WIQ is not gay yet...never say never. I apparently said this to my lady friend when she made signs of interest and look at me now...flying the rainbow flag and swinging from the rafters with gay abandon.

Crushing yes, I'd happily be just friends. This time last year I wouldn't have said that, but we do get along well so if we end up just having an occassional night on the lash civilised drink, that's fine.

Gay no I don't...do tell

I think the fact she has top reiterate that she's not gay means she's thinking about it....her mind could be changed. Sorry - just wanted to throw that in.

Loveis I'm getting a wonderful mental picture!

Oh don't go giving me false hope now you buggers!

typo..'to reiterate'

Yes, mental is the word !

....4 alcopops.

I like that.....I might tell it to WIQ and see if she goes all quiet on me again

4 alcopops?! Cool.
Wish UW would go for several a few drinks with me. Perhaps a few alcopops would turn her head away from her girlfriend and in my direction fat chance.

Polly - i think your lady protests too much.
I was 'straight' when I went for my first drink with my lady friend. If you find another woman attractive it doesn't necessarily mean you're gay. The fact that your WIQ has to point this out means she must be attracted to/intrigued by you. I think you could turn her quite easily...with a few alcopops.

and a chocolate egg

Disclaimer: I have never tried the 4 alcopops approach.