Fuck Him and his Barbour - dating chat 10

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New thread - you know what to do :)

So long as I.don't change my.mind before Monday....( I probably.will, I.know its a bad idea)

I.luffs tim. A lot. He would.be fab at segways, we would be an.awesome team.

I am honestly Fucking fed up though. Of being the only.one on my own..my ever so helpful mother.and sister told me I.should try online dating ' because id be snapped up' oh the irony......

watch I feel your pain I really do, you know I never get a second date either (actually recently I don't even get a first date but anyway..) I don't know the answer, I suspect there isn't one other than that men are crap.

I've tried different approaches - I've done aloof unavailable ice queen (my default setting), I've done friendly and approachable, bordering on mumsy and comfortable, I've even - under the influence of much alcohol - done sexually confident & alluring. And none of it makes a blind bit of difference!

Snape is so right about the buddhist, too mimsy (what a fab word btw) I've dated someone who was teetotal before and though he never overtly minded me drinking, I did sometimes feel ever so slightly judged...and I know I couldn't be doing with all that chanting/going on retreat stuff.

Drink alcohol, eat easter eggs and be merry Tis totally his loss, you can, and assuredly will, do better :)

Thanks sponge, means alot.

Ive done all those tactics too. Nothing seems to make any difference. I have come to.the conclusion I must be hideous, because.what else can it be??

I get told I will be snapped up as well, as soon as I do XYZ.... The latest recommendations among my friends are

a) speed dating (which unless I was pissed I think has to be like the 7th circle of hell)
and

b) moving to Liverpool (as my bf is from there and is convinced my problem is that men in the South are all stupid!)

gotta love well meaning advice

People who havent tried it think it's a great idea. It probably is if you are easily pleased/or very lucky. No offence to the many people who have met online, they have been very lucky [bugrin].

watch, if you are hideous then there's no hope for me!

You are gorgeous. And you have lovely glossy hair which I am very jealous of. Any man who does not find you attractive is clearly very stupid - and who wants a stupid man? :)

well, you're not the only one on your own, are you watch? there's all of us brilliant, sparky, drop-dead gorgeous mums. we're a team! team hideous! :p

i don't want to be snapped up. i'd quite like to be swept off my feet. but being a cynical bugger, that would take a 22 year old lot.

watch just last week I got let down by someone as I wrote on here with the old I have net someone. Well this week I have seen 4 different men. One I had seen before. I had good nights. 2 want to do it again. One of which was my first internet date so date 3. Although we agreed on friends. I think. Sometimes its about doing what I did, picking yourself up, brushing yourself down, applying cream to the bruising and getting back on the horse. There are so many beautiful women in here and men seem not to be interested. Well they probably are but get intimidated by our sheer beauty and intelligence.

Feel like a complete pig, choc egg gone. It's not us, we are all fabulous, it's them.

Ooh I ate one in bed all to myself the other morning. Just eaten s take away couldn't be bothered to cook for me self. Lazy me.

Lol. Bless them :)

Its just.so disheartening, esp when.you have had a good date and see a glimmer of hope.
Jusy brings back old insecuritys anr makes me feel like I'm not.good enough.

Least if i shag and go i.have fun and don't have to deal with.constant rejection.

Lol, sponge, women always like my.hair... :) no man has ever commented on it.

I know I'm not the only one.... Which helps a lot..I don't know.why any of you are single either, I just don't get it.

Mlm, ive been knocked.down far more times than once, its quite hard to be.optimistic 3.5 years down the line... 3.5 years without any kind of meaningful anything. My mum has taken.to buying me things at easter/ xmas/ valentines because.she feels bad.for me I'm.the only one on my own ( that.she knows).which might be nice if it didn't make me feel so.shit.

Watch, take heart, that I've been on my own alot of years. I'm much older than you so think I've no chance. The only man I wanted who is near my age turns out to be have a deep seated fear of commitment, or just wanted someone younger [busad]

You are still young so plenty of time. 3.5 yrs is nothing really.

you are good enough. we all are. that's silly-talk! :)

Adams :(
You.do have a chance... People.don't stay on their own forever..they.don't...

Def on.for Monday..and the guy I've been chatting to.for two weeks has finally.asked me out... For Tuesday...

You do get knocked back repeatedly. I wad flattered to get attention from an 18year old.

I got a message asking how about seeing.my chap who I saw last night. Not sure if we will end up being more than friends. MAYBE.

Anyone want a couple of rev's cos I seem to he getting a few offers. do I look like I sleep about

Revs????

I'm not.short on offers..I don't think.any.of us.are. It's just decent.offers that's.the issue

I mean, I royally dumped ywk this morning.. hes a regular comumist for the telegraph....( but sadly that doesn't make him a decent human.being)

Well one of them is pretty good in bed god; but a complete make tart god damned men. Why is it they mainly only want one thing? Do I look easy or something?

Sorry, long-time lurker here - what's a rev?

Revs was supposed to be lads

On me phone atm, friend borrowed my laptop

Hi everyone!
Everyone seems so nice here :)

Adams-I talking to one guy and we met and too and fro for months. We only met a few times. That was fine at the start but you know, 7 months later I was like WTF where is this going? I asked. I thought there was something there. He didnt. But at least I had the balls (thats the way I reason it in my head anyways :o) to stop the madness. Like it meant nothing to him, and till I read some of your posts, I realised that he too was just emotionally unavailable. You made sense. The hoping is what kills us though isnt it.

The feeling of being rejected by someone you like feels awful.

Watch - maybe give the budda man a little more time to ask again, esp if he is busy. A week tops and then call it a day. Have a feeling he will be in contact again.

goldy, it's horrible isn't it? Good on you for getting out. I feel terrible atm and cannot believe he would let me go [bublush]. Still hoping he won't but won't hold my breath.

And if he doesn't then he is just plain dumb. I mean a simple text. When me and last nights friend possible more finish a conversation, we send kisses back. Nothing else just lots of kisses. Maybe we will end up together. He is so sweet.