The Brave Babes Battle Bus - On Their Way To Giving Up The Booze For Lent (or just for today)

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Hello, I'm Mouse

Welcome to the Brave Babes Bus where you'll find a mix of drinker, non drinkers, those who has been sober for a long time, and those who are getting there One Day At A Time.

Come and say hi....... we won't bite

And if you want to know how this all got started, HERE is a link to the previous threads.

Its not cliquey. Its a lovely getting to know you all exercise. I like it. :o)
Tho always a worry to put ones foot in 'it' and Ive done an awful lot of waffling on today. Note to self to shut up a bit....
Silver - you did make me laugh imagining your little white knuckles clutched around the keys. :o)
You need a fancy new key fob that is made of silver and that says SILVER - that way it doesnt get lost in your handbag.
I think Im waffling on (again) because its that time of the night....
Sorry. Just ignore me.
x

hi all
things not too bad - so far.
the sidecar of shame is my method of keeping me connected to the bus when i feel to ashamed to ride Gerald (ooo er!) with all the good girls. It is the place I land when i fall off the bus but stops me crashing completely into the road. as venus said "with knickers showing".
thurso are you ok?

Bibbity - I am in a similar place to you, I'm going to PM you but if you want to talk, you know you can let stuff out on here if you want to? xx

Hi! I've read quite a lot of these threads in the past. I find them very supportive but did not think i would have tor write anything. At the time it was for me.

Anyway, i may be in the wrong place but would really love some help so maybe you could point me in the right direction.

My lovely mum is currently in hospital. Alcohol related but not sure how or why. She is waiting tests on her liver and kidneys and her something gland is not working properly. She can not walk and has been very confused. I never knew this could happen, i did not know she was drinking enough to do this. Anyone any advice on where to turn to?? Has anyone been in this situation?

OK. Thanks for the reassurance that I need not run away. I guess I'm squeezing into the sidecar for now then.

I didn't feel 'jumped on' at all, just a little overwhelmed by the understandable expectation that I was all ready to go, when I felt so far from ready. I have been drinking tonight. The usual bottle or so. Feel fine but I know I shouldn't and I really do worry about the state of my liver.

I think I will aim to make Monday D Day. Will have to talk to DH over the weekend too. Problem is I have told him so many times that this is the day, that I don't think he really takes it seriously any more.

Hope everyone else is feeling a bit more positive and doing OK.

Hi naughty, I know there have been some support threads for people who are spouses / children of alcoholics, but I can't find a link at the moment.

I guess in some ways we're not the right people to talk to (being closer to your dm's situation) and I know that personally I sometimes avoid reading the threads about people struggling with alcoholic family or partners because it hits home a little too hard.

But the good thing about here is that there's usually posters around. I am sorry I can't really offer much in the way of insight or help about what your mum is going through (perhaps other posters will be along later), but I can offer a listening ear, if that would help, and if you want to say anything more about your mum's situation.

Unfortunately alcohol is a pretty nasty toxin, and has effects on liver, kidneys, gall bladder, and pancreas. It also increase the likelihood of stroke and diabetes, and has direct effects on the brain and central nervous system. However your mum is in the best place. I assume that while she is in hospital she will be supported through detox?

I'll see if I can find links to other threads, or sometimes it's a good idea to post a new thread asking for support so that people can see it?

Take care x

Hey Naughty

If this was me, and my mum, I'd be talking to the doctors to find out exactly what they are testing and why.

Until the tests come back, you'll be possibly playing a guessing game I'm afraid. What do you want to know and how can we help you?

You could speak to AA or speak to your own GP about your concerns and ask them to give you as much info in terms of Community Alcohol Support Teams (if you have one in your area) and other easy to access sources of support and info.

It's harder when it's not you who is in the picture, you are doing so much already because you care, you're here asking for advice. She could be a lot worse off without you.

I'm sure someone will be along soon with some better suggestions and advice.

Thank you guys!! I guess what i meant was that i have viewed these threads before for me

I didn't expect to have to come here so soon because of someone else. I just find it all so weird how much damage alcohol can do even when that person does not appear to even be ever drunk ever. Resistance? She can't even walk - i find that a massive change from someone who seemed so 'normal' 2 weeks ago.

ferfux I know what you mean about all those 'false' starts, they key questions is - are you ready to take yourself seriously? It is really great to have realy life support at home, but people on here will always be here for you, no often how oftwn ayou strt and stop. Enjoy the ride!

naughty that must feel so scary. I guess we just don't know the damage that we are doing to ourselves. The human body is remarkable, dealing with everything we throw at it, but I know that I take it for granted and I am lucky that so far I have had no serious health problems. One of the difficulties is that we respond so differently - some people drink relatively little and suffer from all of the physical consequences, while others drink vast amounts and seem to get away scott free. And we can't tell which category any of us will fall into.

Yes, that makes sense Venus. Unless we are in denial about how much she was secretly drinking. How much do you think it is inherited in the genes and how much is learnt?

going to bed now. Dh already gone and is snoring so if slide in quietly, I should be ok.

Saturday morning! What is everyone planning for the weekend? I had a weird longing for an ice-cold G&T yesterday. I think it's the sudden re-emergence of sunshine and the feeling that the season for warming winter casseroles is over. I was driving home yesterday afternoon, saw all the spring flowers and had a sudden great big desire to sit in the garden with my favourite tipple. Isn't it strange how that rush just appears like that. Instead, I stopped at M&S and bought some strawberries. They were inevitably disappointing - grown somewhere on the other side of the world, and disastrous in terms of food miles (and taste) but at least I got my little fix of summer

I have the same trigger venus. A chilled glass of white wine on a summer's evening. Especially Friday evening after a busy day at work. I played some computer games to while away the hours until the sun went down. Then I was ok. I was actually quite relieved when I looked up and realised it was getting dusky. This morning I woke with a clear head and was ridiculously pleased with myself for avoiding the urge .

Hi Naughty I'm afraid I don't have much help for you either but there is at least one other poster here who is in a similar position to yourself, with her mum drinking and deteriorating in health. I don't know if it's inherited or learned behaviour but lots of us do come from backgrounds where addiction is present so who knows.

Do you want to join us anyway, for yourself. Have you managed to cut down or control your own drinking?

I have lots to do today but as usual am procrastinating. Better get on. See you later x

Morning, tis me, Mouse

Last night was fun, not! I managed to do the sleep study for Nemo but it has left me totally exhausted. I'm hoping that this will be the last one for a while. Nothing untoward happened so I think they'll be happy with the results.

I had a pint of Stella (all class me you know ) and a vodka with fruit juice and crushed ice yesterday. I initially felt like drinking a whole lot more at the start of the evening, but then completely went off the idea.

I made myself a cup of tea and went to bed leaving DH to watch Sports Relief. So many in need, very sad viewing.

I've decided to give FoodFocus another go to try and shift some of this weight.

Hello Naughty - I love your name! Brilliant.

Ma - I hope you slept with no interruptions

The builder is back again, DD has gone out mountain climbing, DH is going out, I'm pottering around the house like a fart in a trance. I keep forgetting what I'm going to do/write/say.....

I'm hoping it's just a side effect of my meds.

Be back later xx

PS - Silver - how is your mum? Has she settled in yet? It must be hard for all of you to deal with xx

No Boing here. Not too sure what happened last night. I just started drinking and didn't stop for a while. Not feeling great this morning and quite about it all really. I guess it is normal to have slips and I am starting agina TODAY.

Hope everyone is enjoying the sunshine

I'm going to be very annoying and post and run because I absolutely have to make lunch now ...

Day 31 here (I think I got it wrong a few days ago ), I started on 22nd Feb anyway, and am now very boingy. Perhaps its the sunshine too, but I just wanted to say to all in the sidecar and the procrastinators and doubters - it really does feel ever so nice not to have had a drink for a good long stretch of time. I hope that doesn't come across as smug, it is meant to be encouraging.

Have lovely days, one and all.

hey all. been busy using up leftovers - now have two pots of soup (carrot, lentil and coriander, and one of leek, potato and spinach) and have made a lemon drizzle cake too. Also cleaned the oven (yuk), two loads of washing done, taken mum shopping, taken her cat to vet, been to see Dad and am now about to do dinner.
makes me laugh when people talk about the weekend being "time off" from work

Thank you all :)

The reason i ask Fairenuff is recently i have found out that my Mum's siblings struggle also but me and my brother do too but we are adopted. It's all very interesting, sad and unfortunately, rife.

You seem a lovely bunch.

Hellooooo

Sorry not read messages so apologies if I'm posting insensitively. Back from hols and totally exhausted. DD was a star yesterday. Ate and pooed on demand (can you imagine after poo-gate!!!!) so she was prepared for flight and behaved impeccably on a boring 4.5 flight way past get bedtime. Am proud.

proud and very tired. took her to the park all afternoon today despite our tiredness. Feel like a good mummy.

Lovely to see you back msgee - did you have a good rest? And it seems like you've brought some nice weather back with you, so you're not plunged into the cold. I'm off now for the rest of the evening, see everyone tomorrow x

Morning all!

I have no idea what the time is, weather fantastic here yesterday, I'll be joining you with the freckles Msgee.

dementedma that sort of day is definitely one to put in the I am a worthy person bank, hope you get some time off today, but I find that in terms of self esteem a day like yesterday is worth a week of pampering.

Wishing you all a good day- I'm charging around seeing family.

looks like being a nice day here at last, as long as the haar doesn't spoil it - keeps fingers crossed.
Where is everyone?

I think everyone must be outside enjoying this lovely weather. Thanks for bringing the sun back with you, MsGee .

Hope everyone's OK. I've had such a busy weekend (sounds a bit like yours, Ma). Trying hard to keep myself calm so I don't feel the need for wine. Doing OK so far, but not counting any chickens just yet!

Will be back properly tomorrow. Have good days Babes

Hi All on this glorious day
Am new to this but have just seen your fabulous threads and would love to join. Thinking it is high time I re-thought my drinking habits & could do with some of your sound wisdom . Am I on the right thread?