The Brave Babes Battle Bus - On Their Way To Giving Up The Booze For Lent (or just for today)

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Hello, I'm Mouse

Welcome to the Brave Babes Bus where you'll find a mix of drinker, non drinkers, those who has been sober for a long time, and those who are getting there One Day At A Time.

Come and say hi....... we won't bite

And if you want to know how this all got started, HERE is a link to the previous threads.

Hello all

I've had a horrible hangover today - 2 nights of drinking does that to me. Yesterday was tolerable, luckily I have a day off today so can afford to be pathetic.

The sun is shining and it's lovely out, so I'm going to try and make the most of the rest of the day. Love to all of the babes I haven't spoken with before (Ferfux, Knife, Greyhound, Algee) and to everyone else.

Will come back later this evening xx

hi all and welcome to new babes.
Not having a good time and feel the tension ramping up between DH and I. It's going to blow that's for sure. don't really want to go home....

Yes Blanket I am still in the side car, shift out of the way, I have my Hoover on an extension lead, I'll give it a good going over!

ma massive hugs xx

Ma. Honestly. I know nothing about life and bumble thorough it quite precariously.

Buuuuttttt - when stuff is 'going down' between me Mr Blanket - I do A LOT of texting/emailing. Even when he is the house! I know. We are most odd.

But its so good to 'get it all out' without them being in the room to argue back. You can still argue via text and email of course but it doesnt get tooooo hideous or shouty - well in our house this system seems to work well(ish).

For example. Me and Mr Blanket had an email row this morning about me turning off the bedroom light and him not putting his bedside lamp on.

He got the hump (last night which was MY BIRTHDAY) that he had to find his way to bed in the dark and my argument was that he should (bloodywell) put his bedside lamp on then.

Its all resolved now and not a raised voice in sight.

Is there anything we can do?

Dont go home. Go for a nice coffee and cake and start texting...! x

Ginger. You made me laugh out loud! Thank you. Much needed today.

Ill get to work on the windows (scrunches up old newspaper)...

Good afternoon all,

If any of you heard a loud, crashing thump from the back end of the bus last night, it was me falling off .

What happened was that I thought I could have a glass or two while I was cooking dinner, and, suprise to no-one, when I finished the lot.

A combination of really crap week at work, no speaks with DH until I felt like I was going to implode, and various other things, oh and day off today, so many excuses, but really I just chose to do it, didn't I? I felt grotty in the extreme at 7am this morning, and did I really think that I was going to drink a glass, I think not.

So, still struggling on lots of evenings here, things changing a lot with, and between, me and Dh since we've been "home alone", and not in a good way.
Just wanted to confess my failure.

xxxx

Hey thurso, I failed last night too, don't be hard on yourself. Welcome back to the bus, it's a very forgiving place :)

Sorry, that was a very selfish me, me, me post.

I also wanted to send love to you Silver, I hope your Dm is comfortable, can you visit anytime?

Also sending you love Mouse, you have so much on your plate, you must be constantly exhausted. It's shocking that you will be without help for three weeks.

About the "cliquey" thing, I aplogise if I have ever come over like that, I think that I may name check some of the people who were on the bus when I joined, more frequently than others. I suppose, as in RL, the longer you know people the more comfortable, or familiar you feel with them. As Mouse says we know all sorts of things about each other, not just our battles, and I suppose the longer we know each other, the more we know.
I don't think I've put that very well, but you know what I mean .

xxxx

Sunny Thank you, I love this place

Ferfux welcome to the bus. I have recently been able to moderate my drinking and am able to stop after two glasses but as venus says, it does take a bit of planning. I need to have something to do after I have had the two glasses. So I stop after two and go and do something else completely. A whole new environment and different activity. Then I have a tea or coffee. Then I seem to be ok.

So, for example, I went out to lunch, had two glasses of wine. Left the pub, went for a long walk, came home, had a coffee, got on with some jobs.

Or I had friends over, shared a bottle, two glasses for me. After they left I had a nap, woke up, had a shower, cup of tea, got on with my evening.

I still do not keep alcohol in the house though. If I had half a bottle, I don't think the leftovers would last too long in my fridge. I'd rather pour it down the sink than risk drinking it.

Hello also to mrssharp

Mouse it's a bit of joke to cancel respite care isn't it really. I mean, the whole point of their work is to give you a break and they go and bail on you! Oh the irony. I have to say I agree with blanket if you could get someone to play with Nemo downstairs whilst you just rest or get on with other things in the house, it might still give you a bit of a break. Or could someone take him to stay and play for you?

Ma I guess at some point you are going to have to have 'that talk' with your dh. Timing isn't right for you yet I know but may be best to get it over with today (the talk I mean) even if it is painful. The horrible churning feeling of anticipation/dread is probably worse than just telling him how you really feel. Sending you strength x

I have to ask blanket, what does the scrunching newspaper have to do with cleaning windows. Is this some top tip that I'm not aware of?

Love to all, back later x

Thanks for the welcome. Am already feeling wobbly. I hadn't really thought through the implications of posting my plan of action this morning ie that you would not unreasonably think I was starting today. I guess I was thinking maybe tomorrow, or monday or next week or month...

I really don't think I can do it today and I know that is really crap. I may have to retreat for a bit until I can find a bit of back bone. Sorry.

Hi ferfux, don't feel you have to retreat. The bus is full of people at different stages in their recovery, some who drink a lot and struggle, some who can drink socially, and some who abstain.

Keep coming back and talking. I'm no success story (woke up hangover today) but the Babes give me hope.

ferfux, ooops, sorry, we did jump on you a bit there . It's a good idea to talk about your plans and of course you don't need to start until you're ready. Stick around and join the chat. Here, have a cushion and make yourself comfy, you never know someone may be along with refreshments soon. Particularly if they're been baking recently, cough SSSM .

ferfux yes, stay and chat, there is no one size fits all on this bus,

ferfux - Dont retreat. You said no drinking Mon - Thurs. Its Friday today so you have time to think and think some more....

Doesnt matter what you do or dont do.

This bus rumbles on anyway. Preferably with you on board or in the nicely spruced up sidecar.
Faire - newspaper is what you use to buff up windows after washing them. Its the sort of thing my Nan used to do (the print stops smearing or something)?!
I only do it when my dad makes me clean the car.

Did I mention I was 41 - I sound like Im 12!

:o)

Dear Thurso, surely its just a tiny step back in the great onward trajectory of magnificent progress you have been making? Consider all the many thousands of drinks you haven't drunk since you've been on the bus, and think how much your liver loves you now - bloody well done old chap [manly pat emoticon].

Hey New Babes and welcome to Gerald, the all embracing, non judgemental haven for problem drinkers.

Hey Old Fart Babes

We we got DM settled in hospice yesterday - luverly place, luverly staff.... but unfortunately the two other women on the ward looked like they were very close to popping their clogs - a bit of a shock for us and for DM

Am popping in tonight on the way to DP's "gig" - he's 45 ffs

The good news is I went to another chemist and the luverly lady pharmacist had no problem filling my prescription - in her words "It's obviously not bogus".

In some ways I would have been interested to see what I would have done with no tablets - ie: drink or not, but on the other hand I don't want to waste three months of taking the naltrexone to then go and drink without it, which would doubly reinforce the feelings I have been trying to alter IYSWIM

Anywaaaaaaaaaaaaaays - off to put my glad rags on !!!!!!

Much hugs to all, but particularly to those of you with problems with tosser DHs and you know who you are ladies

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Ah, bibbity . Yes, I will try to think of it like that. Thank you.

Anyone joining me in a cranberry, lime and sparkly water, this lovely Spring evening?

That sounds lovely! I've got cranberry and blackcurrant juice with loads of ice, about an inch of lemonade just to make it a bit zizzi and a slice of lemon.
Still finding Friday nights the most "twitchy"! How mad is that?

Silver Is this bus called Gerald? Great name!
Does the sidecar (of shame??) have a name too?
Enjoy your gig. Does this make you an offical groupie?

Blanket - I suppose it does !!!!

Oh and yes - the bus was christened Gerald when I joined and took over the driving - must be going on for 2 years ago now

No the side car is just The Side car Of Shame as coined by Ma if I remember correctly.

I suppose that this is why we may be perceived as cliquey - so far from the truth - it is just that some of us have been on and off here a looooooooong time x

In the side car this evening

Thurso I'm with you

Silver enjoy your night out xx

ferfux don't run away - I suppose my post was provocative, I really didn't mean to scare you, just wanted to capture the moment if you were in that 'just about to go for it' instant. I guess I also recognise the 'not today, probably not tomorrow, maybe the next day, might just leave it till next week' kind of thinking. Keep on hanging around, lurking and posting, and see whether that gets you any nearer to taking the plunge.

rain how are you doing?

Just because you've had a drink already (assuming that's what your post meant) that does not mean that you have to carry on drinking. You could get a big glasws of something else, clean your teeth, or eat some chocolate. A small slip into the side-car doesn't have to be a tumble onto the road with your knickers showing.