The Brave Babes Battle Bus - On Their Way To Giving Up The Booze For Lent (or just for today)

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Hello, I'm Mouse

Welcome to the Brave Babes Bus where you'll find a mix of drinker, non drinkers, those who has been sober for a long time, and those who are getting there One Day At A Time.

Come and say hi....... we won't bite

And if you want to know how this all got started, HERE is a link to the previous threads.

hey sarah good to see you again. People do fall out on the bus from time to time because we are all human and a very mixed bunch.Mostly we are big enough to agree to differ and we travel onwards together
I plan to try for alcohol-free nights - I think that would be a real achievement for me. I drink every night but have got it down to two glasses a night, instead of a bottle.
Am down just now, though, for various reasons, particularly round dad who is just out of hospital and fighting tooth and nail against going into a care home...
silver how are you and how is your mum?

Ma I'm sorry to hear about your Dad, it must be really hard for you both. you may find this interesting
Great to hear about your other DD spreading her wings though!

I am impressed with your resolve, you are making great strides you know - cutting down to 2 glasses a night and planning drink free nights is real progress.

sarah - i wasnt speaking harshly, merely trying to put across my point of view, i dont like your tone when posting, i dont like being talked down to, you are not my headmistress and im not in your clinic for treatment - i am not one of your 'girls' and dislike your patronising style - there! i guess that is harsh, i cannot make myself plainer than that. btw, im NOT a drunk!

bproud your link terrified me. The day my sainted mother finally packed a suitcase, 4 kids and her pride and finally left him, was a relief to us all. There's no way on earth I could live with him again...I just have a duty I suppose to not leave him suffering. It's complicated...

JWN we all have different tones when posting. Many people, me included find MIFLAW not to their taste for example. It would be a shame for a row to brew over it though....

Faire that sounds like great advice.

Mouse lovely to hear from you, glad Nemo is learning Makaton, it sounds awesome.

BLD hello there, I was where you are a few weeks ago and googling liver disease. Welcome to the bus!

Hello all the other Babes. I'm feeling a bit low today, not helped by me weighing myself (15 stone! Aaarrgh!). But I think it'll be okay.

onesunny am battling weight here too. Have been "dieting" for a month and only lost half a pound. I know still drinking but cut out all crisps, chocolate, bscuits, chips etc. Been walking and jogging, eating low fat meals - all to no avail. Am two stone over weight and just cannot even begin to shift it....

Sorry Ma I didn't mean for you to move in with him, the gist is that people are kind of 'lodgers' who provide some care and company for the elderly and disabled, but just ignore...

I don't like these rows that brew here every so often, everyone should have a voice I think, and we can all take or leave the posters we don't agree with.

My DH is a lot better now (til the next time) so things at home aren't so bad. i am bingeing too much on sweet stuff still. i almost feel like drinking in order to stop over eating but won't do that I hope!

Hi all, I am liking the booze free days and I think I will have a go.(I think I can, I know I can!)

I am feeling really positive about it all now and take courage from the fact you lot have either been there or are there now.

Going steady again tonight...

Have a good Saturday evening x

Come and post lovely Babes, tell me how you're doing. It's Mother's Day (I got a card and lovely heart-felt messages from my dds) but mostly I'm using mother's day as a great opportunity to be nice to myself - after all I know better than anyone else what makes me feel good and happy. So a little pottering in the garden, a little strolling on the beach, and a nice soothing bath and dvd this evening. Happy Day

Morning all

Nigella don't worry about the sweet stuff for now. I tried to diet for years but found I couldn't whilst I was drinking. When the drinking stopped, and I felt that it was under control, I was then able to concentrate on the next step, trying to lose weight and get a bit healthier. There was no way I could do that and drink so those drink-free days had to come first. So far this year I've lost 19lb. It's taken me a long time to get here but it's so worth the journey. One day at a time.

Ma don't give up with the dieting. Your efforts will pay off. The hardest part is sticking to it when you don't see any results but it will work eventually. Sounds like your running is improving already. I have a ton of admiration for anyone who runs, it takes such an effort to get started. I bet you feel great afterwards though!

Ginger is today going to be Day 1 for you then? Are you going to get through the evening without a drink. Let us know if you want some company later .

Well, I had tea and toast in bed this morning and the dcs have washed my car for me. Wishing you all a peaceful and restful day x

Venus your day sounds lovely, if the weather holds I might take a stroll this afternoon too x

Morning lovelies

I drank last night, but I am not going to drink today. It does feel a bit one step forward, two back at the moment but I'm sure I'll get there.

My DH and I have been having some issues, which I've dealt with (or not) by drinking. I realise (slow learner) that I'm not good at dealing with my emotions, and tend to binge eat or drink or both.

I'm so glad you lovely ladies are here, I appreciate your support and your patience with me whinging on.

Wishing all of you a lovely day, I hope the Mums on here are spoiled rotten! xx

Have had a chat with DH and we have designated Mondays and Thursdays as alcohol free, off to the shop in a bit to stock up on fruit juices and other lovely soft drinks, so tomorrow night will be my first one. (moderation on other days of the week!)

Can I pop on the bus for tomorrow night or does it not count?

Of course it counts! Well done on making the decision. Just remember not to plan too far ahead. So Monday it is then. It will be easier if you have no alcohol handy in the house so if you have leftovers today, could you get your dh to hide it (or better still, pour it down the drain). Keep it mind that it is just one day and you can do it!

Not going to chuck any away, but I can't stand warm wine. Going to measure out tonight's 'allowance' and put it in the fridge. The leftovers will go in the cupboard next to the oven.

DH and I had a row as usual. He slammed off to work, I didn't get a card at all. Happy Mother's day to me. First time in 21 years my role as a mother hasn't been acknowledged.
DD2 - thousands of miles away in Spain sent me a text saying thanks for everything and that she loved me. I cried a bit. Then spent the afternoon at the beach soaking up the spring sunshine ....... and am slightly pissed

ginger sounds like you are doing well in being able to control the amount you drink, and measuring it our beorehand seems like a good tactic for you. It is not something I could have done - but that is the wonder of this thread, that we all have different ways of dealing with what is facing us.

Hello all. Sorry you've had such a rotten day dementedma but must say I am envious of the babes who have a beach nearby to walk on. Seems like quite a number of you?

I feel lucky to have had a really nice mother's day. Dh cooked a Sunday lunch which we ate together just the four of us - this is a very rare thing for us because he usually works on a Sunday and if he isn't working then we are likely to be on parental visits or having people over here.

There is no denying that I would have loved a glass of sherry while the food was cooking. But we both made do with a nice glass of Apeltiser instead and its great that the rest of the day hasn't been wasted in a fuzzy haze.

I absolutely know you can do it tomorrow Ginger!

It helps that we have to be somewhere til 8 on a Monday (puppy classes for our 11 week old)

Got lots of fruit juice in and snack foods incl sour cream and jalapeño popcorn!

Bring it on!

Hey Ma, you OK? Mother's Day can be pants can't it? Just like birthdays, far too much opportunity for disappointment Did your DS remember? Or DD1? I can honestly say that it wasn't until i became a mum myself that i realised how important it was to remember Mother's Day Sorry you and your DH fell out You'll feel better tomorrow I'm sure

Hope everyone else is doing OK

Please excuse all the emotions...I think my phone should have a 'preview' button

morning all. another day, another dollar.
indie you ok babes? could it mean your mother is coming round to things - maybe? Are you inviting all the babes to your wedding?
I remember venus airport day too and it sticks in my mind as to the kind of support that is available on here.
ginger you can do this!!
Have a meeting in Dundee today, hence the late start to the day - would normally be on the road by now. Better go dig DS out of his pit and get him off to school.
Yesterday I was standing in front of the mirror trimming my hair out of my eyes and he asked "Are you doing your moustache?"

god the glamour of it all........

The south coast would be lovely Isinde . You have the blankie, snuggle down and sleep it off. I'll wake you when you get there. A gentle sea breeze is just what I need this morning. Sun is out but it's still a little frosty.

Ma ((hugs)) hope you feel ok x

Well babes, today is a new day for all of us. A new start. Today I will not be drinking .