The honing of the twat radars - dating chat thread number 9

[lubeybooby]

Thread got too big so here's a new one :o

All dating, online or otherwise in here please

Chit chat to serious stuff - off we go!

bloody hell daisy, I would have been mortified! it really CAN only get better after that.

Snape I hope we both hear something soon. The urge to text mine is strong, I am resisting but not easy...

resist the urge!
Stay in control
let him come to you..
(how i wish i'd followed my own advice)

I'm not going to text him. Well not yet anyway. I might tomorrow if I don't hear tonight. That's mainly because I want to arrange to see him again this week and for there to be some kissing this time and he has his DD from Friday. Which doesnt leave much time.

I have been chatting with someone who is looking for friends....... for the last few days and we have sort of clicked, we get each other if you know what i mean? He gives me butterflies. How god damned old am i again? He works nearby too, but i have to get myself sorted first.....oh wish i could meet him and get that desperately needed hug! And more

right, mylittlemiraclego and file your divorce and then ask this chap out. I do appreciate you have an issue with dating while you are technically married.... but that's all that it is - it's a technicality that is holding you back from rebuilding your life and having some fun! please ask him out, I can't bear it any longer!

mylittlemiracle - as snape says, its a technicality, it could take ages, either dont worry about it and date, or get off the dating sites and stop wasting yours and other peoples time ( sorry to be harsh, but whats the point in talking to people if you have no intention of meeting someone)

SNAPE!!!!! i am so pleased for you :) i really am, and yes, its rather fantastic and you have been missing out. Im so pleased it went well, and like you say, if it comes to nothing, it doesnt matter, you had fun, now, please dont let it be another 2.5 years before the next shag :) Also - nothing beats that after sex feeling does it.

Sponge - again, what snape says. He has asked you out again, so its unlikely hes going to text you constantly. As far as he is concerned, i expect, hes thinking hes got a second date, and will be in contact in a few days to firm up plans. DO NOT TEXT HIM.

Purple, meh. sorry.

phoenix - that sounds worse than my ginger mulllet experience, and you have my comisserations :)

So, last week was a bit weird for me, compounded by the fact i found out my ex husband is getting re married. ( how ironic, considering all his affairs were because he didnt want to be married... and now, he is marrying a girl he had an affaird with, and im still single over 3 years on) Anyway - i need sex, i cannot go 3 -4 months inbetween getting laid, its fucking ridiclous, im young ( with a stupidly high sex drive) and i do not want to live like a nun. So - i decided at a second attempt at finding a fwb while im waiting for someone fantastic to come into my life.
Currently i have 2 lined up for next weekend.

One has a 9.5 inch cock, hes called me and we have spoken, hes 27, a fitness instructor and professional body builder. not normally my type AT ALL, however, he has a 9.5 inch cock, and really, that swings it. FUck it, i would be silly to say no.

The other one has a less imposing member, but seems nice.. and we are meeting for coffee and will go from there. he has said thats hes after a fwb thing too, so out of the two is probably the better choice.

May I join? You all sound so young! I'm very ancient at 42. Haven't internet dated for about 4 years now. Forcing myself back out there again. Signed up to Match last week & so far all matches seem to bear far too close a resemblance to Shane Macgowan!

Please cheer me up & inspire me - specially anyone who is over 40!

i hearby christen mr 9.5" 'big ben'. I think you should meet him. purely in the interests of research...

it's a bit of a shock when exes get married, particularly to OWs - but that's fine you know. Let them go off and be happy

My ex shagged around on me and then shagged around on her. he's a serial 'monogamist', always in a relationship, because there are women daft enough to be there.. he's an alcoholic, she's a psychopath, i'm single. i know which one i prefer... :)

hello postbell I'm 44. :)

im going to meet him, literally just for that reason. hes a little borning, whittiing on about tuna and brown rice... ( after admitting he was really nervous) However, he has a wicked sense of humour and a very large cock - its just sex, here are worse combos.

yeah - it was just a bit of a shock thats all, and has left me a little puzzled. ( and if im honest, not likeing the idea that Dd will have an offical step mother - in fact its that that is bothering me more than anything) But, like you say, hes a cock, im not, and id rather not be with him :)

Postbell - im 33. 34 this year ( URGH) .

We are planning to hopefully meet at the end of march! Cant wait.! And i am not talking to anyone else on dating sites at the moment! I think one at a time is enough! One peice of paper work i am waiting for, which should be here in the next day or two and i can hand over the petition to my solicitor! cant wait. FREE AT LAST!

hate I'm really please he got back in touch. See, told you

Well, I reactivated my OKC profile on Friday in a fit of (unusual) optimism. The very first fresh message I received was from someone going "I'd love to see if I could cope with your accent" (I'm from County Durham, but live in that London now)

I mean WTF? What sort of opening line is that? Telling someone you would like to find out if you could COPE with an integral part of their being? headdesk

Or perhaps I'm overthinking it all?

Pleased even!

Hello everyone this looks like just the thread for me, ive just started dating after 3 years of absolutely nothing, not even a hug! Will watch with interest

Mylittlemiracle I also don't want to sound harsh but... you are not meeting this guy until the end of March, that's over a month away!! I understand not wanting to date more than one at a time, I myself prefer to only date one and give him a fair run before moving on to another BUT you and this man are not even dating yet so please don't pin all your hopes on him and at least chat to a few others in the meantime. You sound as though you want a relationship rather than casual dating, which is fine, ultimately that's what I want too, but you can't expect every man you meet to be the one and it does sound as though you are expecting to meet him and go straight into a relationship. You seem pretty vulnerable and I'm worried that you are going to attract the wrong types..

You'd be better off just dating a few with no expectations, having some fun and working out what you want a bit more.

Please don't take this as me having a go, I'm just worried for you.

(and I'm not divorced yet either, in fact my nisi was declined last week , but that doesn't need to stop you dating as long as you are actually separated)

Hi everyone

Working on spreadsheets but have been forced to take an extended break due to thoughts of 9.5 inch cock. Watch, I am so looking forward to the update after that one!!

I cooked fish in my new love combi microwave yesterday. It was delicious. Just saying.

Hope everyone else is doing ok, will catch up with thread later.

Hi everyone

Just catching up

datingsausage best. name. Ever! Welcome! :)

I am still glaring at my phone, a few days without contact is fine... a few days post-coital after a long period of abstinence is not.

Glare.

hmmm, snape - id maybe send a slightly flitry text, heavily hinting that you want his cock later on this evening... and see if he replies.

watch, looking forward to further updates re big ben the Ex remarrying thing must feel a bit odd. I think it would for me, not least because he & I were never married (in fact my Ex has never been married, I think it's unlikely he will now at 46 but you never know).

Milk, that's a bit much. do you think he thought he was being amusing? I've had men say similarly stupid stuff about me being from Essex/having a weird accent (which just makes me ) The standard of opening lines generally never fails to disappoint!

No news from my date. I would feel so much better if we actually had arranged a day, especially given we are both not available a lot of the time. Wish I'd actually suggested a day rather than being all coy and flirtatious and saying I'd make a space for him in my diary . This is all too much hard work for me!

Haha at watch subtle & flirtatious ways of suggesting I want his cock? Can't do this evening anyway, anticipation is half the pleasure ...

It's a fine balance, isn't it...? Wanting to appear nonchalant & not overly concerned, balanced with actually I quite like you, wanna go again? I hate this bit! I like the thrill of the Chase, but I get all nervous around the first time I have sex with someone (& this was totally sober sex, that's weird, I don't do that very often....) (oh! Wait, rewind, I don't have sex very often...) it gets better with a degree of familiarity... I'm waffling!

Glare.

yeah, its a really fine balance, and to be honest, i think it depends on the other person as well.

I dont mean be free this evening, just send a text this evening - prefably later in the evening - so he thinks you either have been out, or are in bed :) just say something like you were thinking about his cock and does he want to go again. so thats kind of casual - right?

sponge - it is a little bit odd. It really is, and like i said the whole ' official stepmother' bit i dont like - nor the fact that MY dd will be paraded around on their wedding day with all her family. but i mustnt think about it too much else ill get pissed off. Sponge - honesly. just wait, i expect he will be in contact, and no, its not your fault for not suggesting something.

'Wanting to appear nonchalant & not overly concerned, balanced with actually I quite like you, wanna go again? I hate this bit!'

I hear you Snape, I used to give in to the temptation to contact him, but I really hate being on the back foot with a man.
I like to have the upper hand.
My advice to myself these days is dont contact him at all post sex, suppress the urge to thank him even if I feel dazed and overwhelmed because it was the best sex I'd had for a while.

Act like nothing happened

loves - that is actually the best way to deal with it. I have never managed it. However, next time, ( all being well, after this weekend) i shall not be contacting anyone. if they want to, they can contact me :)

I have come across a very few nice guys who dont require that kind of treatment, but the ones who go all elusive on you after the first shag are not nice guys..he knows how you are feeling and if he was a good guy he'd be friendly and keep in touch

I rarely manage it and it pisses me off that it even needs to be 'managed' I think 'friends with benefits' is a misnomer..for me it never feels like a friendship.

Whats a girl to do?
love sex but dont like men very much and cant stand being suffocated in a relationship