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The honing of the twat radars - dating chat thread number 9

999 replies

lubeybooby · 08/02/2012 20:24

Thread got too big so here's a new one :o

All dating, online or otherwise in here please

Chit chat to serious stuff - off we go!

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hatesponge · 25/02/2012 22:19

Am actually a bit annoyed tbh. Why on earth bother to say he wanted to see me again, then not follow it up?

He might have better exam results than me and want to think he's clever but that doesn't stop him being a complete prat. Maybe he was expecting me to be gushing grateful when he finally deigned to suggest another date? Angry.
Well, sod him. He's not that great, he is too short, and his favourite TV programme is Top Gear. Tosser.

hatesponge · 25/02/2012 22:21

Oh and he's been online all evening.

Utter, utter, tosser.

Sunshinedelacruz · 25/02/2012 22:27

Sponge. He is an idiot.
So I put my profile to IE and got 5 pages of messages including 3 cock shots of which 2 were erect. Even more strange was this. Last year I arranged to meet this one man outside a bank in the morning as he was doing business there. I waited in my car then I saw a man who I thought was him but he pulled up, looked at me for a bit, ran into the bank then ran off!
Later he messages me to say he was shy. Wtf! Well, he is one of the messages. He must have a poor memory. Twat.

hatesponge · 25/02/2012 22:38

He is an idiot isn't he? I was persuaded last night to think well, maybe he's shy etc, taking 2 hours of texts to suggest a second date.

Now I just think he must be some complete gameplayer who found stringing it out exciting in some way, pretending that he had some interest in seeing me again, only then to ignore me completely the next day. This just reminds me why I hate dating, because it's just shit.

Sunshine, your memory loss man sounds as much of a prat as my date.

Sunshinedelacruz · 25/02/2012 22:44

Maybe they were the same person. Nothing surprises me these days. I have had someone suggest we share erotic fun during out lunch hour. Lunch hour? Oh yes, let's schedule in some erotica while I hydrate myself and chomp down on a tuna Sarnie. Madness.
My ex announced today that he is going to start shagging around again. I'm starting to wonder if it's me....
Sponge. You had a lucky escape.

lovesineffable · 25/02/2012 22:54

has the bloke actually ignored you sponge?
maybe he just doesnt know what to say?
I'd be inclined to just play it cool, dont contact him and see if he gets back to you?
dont most men like top gear, I think it's some integral part of masculinity Confused

hatesponge · 25/02/2012 22:58

I don't feel particularly lucky. I feel like crap. Anyone else gets asked on a second date, it actually happens. I get asked purely as some apparent gameplaying exercise the end result of which is only to make me feel more shit about myself than I do ordinarily.

hatesponge · 25/02/2012 22:59

loves I haven't heard a peep out of him all day. Not a message, not a text. Yet he's been online. If he does want to see me again, he's doing a good job of hiding it...

MyLittleMiracle · 25/02/2012 23:08

Maybe he doesnt want to seem to keen or pushy?? I know i blocked some who did seem pushy, but then again i hadnt got to meet them! I dont know, men eh, cant live with CAN live without! I am happily talking to someone, i think we have really clicked and we seem to work off each others energies!!
Maybe i will get there. Housing looking good too all putting me on a high, just hope i dont smash back down to earth, too hard or too soon!

Snapespeare · 26/02/2012 09:14

Stayed up until 2.30 repeatedly singing 'dead ringer for love' with pm & sitting in a heap together discussing sex, after him & our other friend had taken the piss out of me all night because I 'looked different... you're all glowy OH MY GOD YOU'VE HAD SEX!'

Blush

That was a bloody great day. I want more of those. :)

Phoenixx · 26/02/2012 10:08

Well I am feeling rather disappointed after last nights date, he was a nice enough bloke looked a bit like Gordon Ramsey Hmm I did feel like he was a bitvery letchy and every time I stood up he was eyeing me up and down made me feel a bit cheap :( Just got a text from him saying he really enjoyed meeting me and that he thought I was very attractive, it actually made me feel like I want to vom. How do you politely say feck off creep, I hate giving knock backs so I really need to learn.

feedbackforfree · 26/02/2012 10:33

Hey Phoenixx, just text back and say you had a lovely time but no spark for you. Tell him he's a lovely bloke and wish him happy fishing for the future.

(I met up with a bloke that looked like Gordon Ramsey, who was letchy - he's not home counties based is he??)

hatesponge · 26/02/2012 10:49

Snape Grin glad you had a great day!

My date ended up texting me at 11.30 last night after he got back from the pub. He was clearly a bit drunk, a bit flirty, but not at all smutty. Which was quite sweet.

(I did also get bootycalled by the 22 year old which was flattering but never going to happen!)

I'm starting to think the date maybe he is just a bit shy/reserved. I'm not at all used to men like that. The men I generally attract/date are usually total gameplayers, serial shaggers etc. Hence I assume he's playing me, rather than anything else...

Snapespeare · 26/02/2012 11:05

sponge so he surfaced after all! :) I think the key is to take it as it comes and not assume he's a player, just because your previous experience leads you to expect he is. :) He might actually be a nice bloke! they exist!

I am feeling a bit freaked out by mr distraction, being super-fit - I can absolutely hold my own in terms of intellect, personality etc... but the awful fucking mess that is my body does lead to inhibitions, especially when confronted by a super-fittie. it would be a lot easier if he had the decency to be a little bit saggy or imperfect, but he's really really fit. not an ounce of fat, not a wrinkle, not a mark. This is possibly a stealth-boast Hmm but I honestly can't believe he would look twice at me, which is clearly ridiculous, because he has.

stupid head!

hatesponge · 26/02/2012 11:22

Snape you're right. I have spent so much time with crap men (plus some of the cautionary tales from on here!) that I automatically assume the worst about anyone I meet. I am usually proved right but I guess this one could be the exception...

Re Mr distraction, ok so he's super-fit (and you can stealth boast all you want, I would be if I were you!) BUT clearly he likes you, yesterday proves that, and he is up for a repeat performance. And he probably can't believe his luck to have shagged such an intelligent, witty attractive woman :)

lovesineffable · 26/02/2012 11:25

Phoenix, one polite text then ignore him...you dont owe him anything he was just trying his luck

Snape, I'm sure you are being overcritical of yourself (I think most women are) focussing on and magnifying things that you think are faults, he will be seeing you as a whole person and he clearly finds the whole person sexy!

Remember that you are a goddess who is doing a young man a favour:)

Snapespeare · 26/02/2012 11:52

fuck the stealth boast, let's just get right out there and boast!!

WHY did i not have sex for two-and-a -half- years? it's brilliant!!!

hatesponge · 26/02/2012 12:01

Snape Grin better still you will get to do it again soon! am not hugely jealous in the slightest

so with Friday's date, do I need to let him go at his own pace? Or do I need to give him some encouragement?! He's said he wants to see me again, but we still haven't agreed when...

Snapespeare · 26/02/2012 12:21

you should be hugely jealous! I'd pass him on when i'm finished, but I wouldn't want that to be any time soon & I fear I have ruined him for all other women! Blush Grin

well, sensibly, i don't know if I get to do it all again any time soon, until it actually happens - I'm not hugely invested in it - it would be incredibly fab, but I'm not breeding any expectations or being all silly-head about it. If it does happen again (and again!) then fab - if not, it was incredible and i want more, but if it isn't forthcoming because he has woken up and thought 'fuck me, what a moose! then i had a fab time, all is well.

I'd leave it until tomorrow then casually mention a rematch and see what the response is. He might need a tiny push, but I'd measure it out to not look that concerned.

prettypurpledaisy · 26/02/2012 15:00

My date was extremely dull, no conversation and a weird spit in the corner of the mouth thing. Glad it was only a coffee date. Never mind. Next!

lovesineffable · 26/02/2012 17:03

'a weird spit in the corner of the mouth thing'
ewww, I feel a bit queasy Confused

prettypurpledaisy · 26/02/2012 17:36

I know, no follow up date there. Never mind first date of 2012 over :)

hatesponge · 26/02/2012 18:36

daisy, it can only get better!

I am literally sitting on my hands to stop myself texting friday's date...

Snapespeare · 26/02/2012 19:01

I am sitting on my hands as well. Of course I haven't heard from Mr distraction yet today.....Hmm

prettypurpledaisy · 26/02/2012 19:39

Ha ha can't get worse he demonstrated salsa moves in the middle of starbucks thank heavens none of my students were there, never going for older one again. I am no miss world but........