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The honing of the twat radars - dating chat thread number 9

999 replies

lubeybooby · 08/02/2012 20:24

Thread got too big so here's a new one :o

All dating, online or otherwise in here please

Chit chat to serious stuff - off we go!

OP posts:

Snapespeare · 24/02/2012 17:56

I've just had a very quick look at the competition women on OKC in my geographical area and vague age group. Crikey, they are ALL gorgeous, funny and intelligent. I think I need to up my game plan a bit.

hatesponge · 24/02/2012 18:54

At the moment am going on the date. It's not til 8.30-9 so still plenty of time to talk myself out of it though!

I'm sure he'll be a really nice guy. On paper he has a lot going for him. Very good job, own home, plays rugby etc. But he is not very tall (he claims to be 5' 8 - I am 5' 6. I am expecting him to be my height!) and also is in no way my usual type - he is the sort of bloke I probably should be going for. But not the kind I find attractive usually. But you have to force yourself to try something different sometimes, don't you?

hatesponge · 24/02/2012 19:00

Oh, and thanks for adding me to the group!...bit of a when I clicked on my FB just now (thankful yet again that we have no FB access at work!)

TimeForMeAndDD · 24/02/2012 19:22

Snape You are gorgeous, funny and intelligent, you just haven't hit upon a man who appreciates your qualities yet. On the other hand this time tomorrow you may well be squelching so maybe you have?

Sponge have fun tonight, just go along not expecting anything more than a nice evening out then you will have a good time whatever happens. And don't forget to report back as soon as you get home!

MyLittleMiracle · 24/02/2012 20:12

Well my latest is i have met someone in similarish circumstances to me, AND married, and local and we may well be going out soonish but he is working hard, actually he already asked me! I said yes of course! But not until i get my decree nisi!

AbbyAbsinthe · 24/02/2012 23:20

MyLittleMiracle, I genuinely don't understand why you won't date until you are divorced It makes no sense!

hatesponge · 24/02/2012 23:38

against my expectations I actually had a really nice evening.

He was much better looking than his photos. Though he was short.

And he clearly could not have fancied me less. He was very polite but he looked almost disappointed when I walked in.

On paper he is perfect, but chances of a second date I'd say 0.01%. I didn't even get a kiss on the cheek!

hatesponge · 24/02/2012 23:40

He has just text me to say he had a nice time.

He's just being polite isnt he? If he wanted a second date, he would ask wouldn't he?

Milkandlotsofwineplease · 24/02/2012 23:51

Hmmmmm, I dunno hate if I had met up with someone and didn't like them, I just wouldn't send a follow up text at all

Perhaps text him back saying "Me too, would be fun to do it again sometime" and see if he replies? Nothing lost either way. Who knows, he might just be shy, and requiring a little push in the right direction?

hatesponge · 25/02/2012 00:04

he is still texting.

this is odd...

Milkandlotsofwineplease · 25/02/2012 00:07

What is he saying?

He must have had a good time hate He wouldn't be texting you otherwise

hatesponge · 25/02/2012 00:10

I think he's just polite

He wanted to check I was home ok (he dropped me off...I had to walk 30ft to my door!) we now are texting back and forth because he has suggested he is lost so I am sending out a St bernard to track him.

Milkandlotsofwineplease · 25/02/2012 00:13

Sorry hate but he isn't just being polite. Would you exchange funny/flirty messages with someone after a date if you didn't like them?

Thought not

Methinks he likes you!

hatesponge · 25/02/2012 00:21

Really?

Honestly I would have said he could not have fancied me less.

He does have very good manners. I assumed he was just being nice.

lovesineffable · 25/02/2012 01:06

it's such a shock meeting a guy you actually find good looking that you loose perspective and cant figure out whats going on !

Milkandlotsofwineplease · 25/02/2012 01:21

I would say definitely hate
Look at it from the other way round. Would you bother texting somebody you weren't interested in, and didn't fancy? Of course not! you would leave well alone.

I agree with lovesineffable sometimes it's hard to be objective when you find someone attractive. Plus he might just not be the forward type, some people aren't.

I think you should take the bull by the horns, and ask him out again!

hatesponge · 25/02/2012 07:46

well....after we carried on exchanging texts til 2am he did say he would like to see me again

although we haven't agreed when yet (no idea if that's normal, I've never made it beyond a first date since I started doing this!).

He's the total opposite of everyone I've ever dated, but he reminds me greatly of someone I had a massive crush on at university .

and now we wait. Am so glad i have a busy day planned, will stop me from checking my phone every 5 mins!

Sunshinedelacruz · 25/02/2012 11:56

I know that feeling so well sponge. It just goes to show that it's so hard to read situations sometimes. But why wouldn't he find you wonderful eh?
I'm sort of excited about meeting now portly fwb on Monday. Part of the excitement is getting ready and I've had my hair cut shortish which is a huge change. Last time it was brown and longish. I was in a bit of a state about my ex yesterday thinking how good it was between us and to be honest wondering what I did wrong. Then he sent me some childish texts last night about how much he hates me and that I'd hurt him so much. Suddenly I didn't feel quite so sentimental towards him.
Pof makes me laugh. Ive had a few messages but none of which looks to be any quality. Im not sure of this is common but we could exchange a couple of pleasant messages then boom! It's all cryptic about how he likes to give pleasure. Yawn. Personally I think that kind of conversation is more suited face to face but maybe I'm a prude.

lovesineffable · 25/02/2012 12:05

'all cryptic about how he likes to give pleasure' he's probably hoping you'll start writing dirty messages and give him something new to think about while he jerks off.

nothing to do with being prudish, just why would you even bother

Snapespeare · 25/02/2012 12:12

I am having coffee with Mr distraction this afternoon...

'coffee' means 'sex', right?

Sunshinedelacruz · 25/02/2012 12:13

Quite. And they are all in sleeveless t shirts. Then of course there are the vanishes and that can happen at any point. Investing v little seems to be the key.

lovesineffable · 25/02/2012 12:16

coffee means whatever you want it to..I mean euphemisms are always ambiguous and therefore open to interpretation :)

TimeForMeAndDD · 25/02/2012 12:19

I had a milky coffee this morning Snape that just meant indigestion but maybe the coffee is more superior in your area

Pleased the date went well Sponge, enjoy the after glow and the anticipation of his call

Sunshine and loves are your profiles set to Intimate Encounter or just regular dating?

TimeForMeAndDD · 25/02/2012 12:21

I once dated someone who invited me back for 'apple pie'. I really was expecting apple pie and was so disappointed when I got sex instead didn't get any that he wrapped me a slice to take home.

lovesineffable · 25/02/2012 12:25

I'm on an NSA site Time, and my profile says I dont do relationships

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