The honing of the twat radars - dating chat thread number 9

[lubeybooby]

Thread got too big so here's a new one :o

All dating, online or otherwise in here please

Chit chat to serious stuff - off we go!

hi. how do i join the facebook group? no dating news for me. im on pof but not much interest. im meeting up with an ex fwb on monday. excited about going to lomdon bhim ut not surw about him.

So, mr lovely who I was having a freak out about him going on a first date with someone else did just that. He rang me the following evening to say that 'things had got a bit serious a bit quickly with this other date' (I'm presuming shagging occurred) and that he didn't think it would be appropriate for us to go out again. He was very sorry etc. So that was the end of that..cue me being very upset due to my liking him so much but no further contact until a text last night asking if we could meet for a 'talk' tonight, saying it was too complex to elaborate on over text. So I've tentatively Agreed because I really like him but not sure what to expect, don't want to be messed about or any 'I want to be friends' stuff. Help, advice (again) x

away - i wouldnt bother, you had one date. You spend what, few hours in his company, so you dont actually know if you like him yet, all you know is you had a pleasant time. I wouldnt say its worth having a ' talk' because you dont really have anything to talk about really.

yes i agree. Protect yourself. who knows what he has to say but he has got serious with this girl suddenly and thats all you need to know i think. is it me or is internet dating hard work? i feel quite jaded already with the one word opening lines and men with their tops off holding a

fish. im on a mobile!

sun - yes, its hard work.
its not just you ;) i think at some point we all get pretty fecked off with it.

Ive decided to give it a break for a little while and cancelled my accounts yesterday. I fully expect this break not to last more than about 6 weeks or so though :)

Hi all, bit of update....
German Dr. still a sweety, but...there is always a but isn't there...
An old buddy of mine has reappeared and I'm trying not to act like a teenager here....he makes my legs melt.....I'm doing all I can not to send any messages, texts, etc....and to be extremely adult about this. God it's hard work!!
I've just managed to get out of one extremely long relationship and I do not want another one (must repeat that more often to myself).....
I caught myself daydreaming about him yesterday.....must get a grip.
Hope you all have a lovely week-end. Here the weather is glorious and tons of snow.
Hugs all round

away I feel annoyed with mr lovely
he shouldnt even be telling you about his other dates..has he no sense of tact & discretion??

I think he knows you like him and trying to get both of you to massage his ego by competing for his attention.
You're a WOMAN, hold your head up high and stop flattering the silly little man

jaded?
yes...certainly not very enthusiastic
I'm maintaining infrequent & low key contact with a few blokes that I'm interested in, hoping that I'll get the urge to agree to a meeting when the weather cheers up.

Also still getting over the disappointment of the last coffee interview.
He looked so fit in his profile pic, must've known that he no longer looks like that and the current version would compare badly.
I think these guys must over estimate the likelihood of a 'pity shag'

sunshine hello!

the 'executive group (options of limited quality) is a 'safe place to upload any cock pics we get by dating site or (cough!) text - we view it as a compare and contrast group akin to forwarding chain emails that promise disaster if you don't forward them (plus we all have a giggle at the presumptiousness of the guys sending us unsolicited pics of their bits.) If you, or anyone on this thread would liek to join, do inbox me and I'll add you as a friend on fb and then to the group. :) phoenixx I've added you now. I deny any responsibility for a slight queasiness you may or may not experience.

Bit quiet for me - still planning on seeing Mr distraction at the weekend, but have dinner date with PM in the evening, so if anything does happen, I'll be squelching off to dinner looking rather ragged.

awaywego to buck the trend, I think you should go and meet 'mr lovely' we're presuposing that he's shagged the other date - I'd be interested in what he has to say for himself, just make sure that you get your head straight about what you want and be very particular in expressing whether you think he is being a tit or not.

Hi everyone

Just checking in. Profiles still hidden so not hunting, dating or otherwise. I've been engrossed in spreadsheets and loving it but it's meant no time for much else. I've also found spreadsheets to be far more interesting than any of the blokes I've spoken to on POF so in no hurry to get back there.

In other news I opted to spend my JL vouchers on a combi microwave which is fabulous!! Roasted a chicken in just 23 minutes for tea yesterday. My life is just sooo exciting

Hope everyone is ok and that dates are going well and also welcome to the newbies. I'm going to catch up on the thread when I'm not seeing cells before my eyes!

Snape are you planning to have sex??

away I agree with Snape, go meet him, just keep a clear head and make sure you aren't being taken for a ride, so to speak. If he really is a Mr Lovely you could recover this nicely. If he turns out not to be a Mr Lovely then it's back to the drawing board!

time - post it :)

this weekend snape? you do now realise we will all be wondering if you have done it or not :) i hope you meet PM all red faced with shagging hair.

Thank you Snape. I will attempt to join in next couple of days.
The old fwb wants to meet up on Monday and has told me he has got somewhat portly. That doesn't put me off as he was a rugby player. I think I will see him as I have a need to wash my ex out of my hair whom I'm still a bit hung up on.
There is a very young man who i fancy at work but not enough to apply an extra coating of makeup so I can't fancy him that much.
On pof someone has asked me not to get in touch if I'm not a sensual being. There is a lot of negatives in that sentence.
I'd love to cook a chicken in such a short time.

increased girth has never bothered me if the sex was good sunshine...but I might wonder at the fact that he'd felt the need to warn me..I found they just showed up looking fatter with no warning

To be honest I can't remember whether the sex was good or not loves which doesn't bode well and we were doing it last year. A casual thing suits me fine but my ex wanted 100% or nothing and when I didn't hit the dizzy heights of 100% I was ditched. The fwb smells nice which is a bonus. I may feel the fat and give it a whirl. I have a problem meeting men who have difficulty with the concept that 5'11 means 5'11 and not 5'7. That's always disappointing. And they think I'm not going to notice?

I might have a plan - and I always have bed-hair anyway.

Hello everyone
Haven't caught up with thread yet but hope everyone is ok?

Just thought I'd update as am now on date no6 with the guy I met for coffee a few weeks ago. We get on really really well, chat for hours, really comfortable with each other I didn't fancy him at all to begin with but he's really grown on me. Tonight we're going out for dinner and drinks, really looking forward to it. I think tonight may be the night as well

lying about your height to that extent is just dumb isnt it, kind of on a par with knocking 15 years off your age!

Sounds pretty damn good Freakoid :)

Time that oven sounds fab! I'm not a member of the FB group I don't think, but would be happy to be added...:)

I am trying (and failing) to summon up enthusiasm for tonight's date, difficult as I have already decided he'll be shorter than me and I won't fancy him. Ugh.

have added you sponge :)

meh - if you cant be arsed cancel, there is little point going unless you are feeling it. Why did you agree, there must be something about him you liked? ( trying to help find reasons for you to go :) )

freakoid - that all sounds great! :)

sponge you might be pleasantly suprised? (not with the fb group!) we enter into these things with an open mind, surely!?

ha, just got a text from PM - 'Have you got a hot date tonight?'
me: 'who, me? how likely is that? I'm going to the theatre.'

which is, I think, a good response open to interpretation... I didn't say who with... (& no, it's not mr distraction, it's a female friend, who has me there to play gooseberry with a bloke she fancies..)

sponge, I dont remember ever feeling enthusiasm about a first date/interview.
The intensity of my sense of dread has decreased over time but I've never actually looked forward to a first meeting, even on the few occasions when my first sighting of the bloke didnt bring on that sinking feeling

Same here lovesin, hate first dates, always dread them.

Am dithering about what to wear tonight, have changed my mind about 5 times! It's the first time we are going out in the evening together.

Thanks guys, I'm going to meet him, give him the benefit of the doubt and all that and see what he has to say. I'm quite clear about what i want so as long as I hold onto that I should be ok. I hope. Still crapping myself tho-bloody typical that this weirdness would happen with Someone I really bloody like and not one of the numerous dullard first dates I've had.