DP wants to buy food seperately

[NotTheBlinkingGruffaloAgain]

Me and DP have lived together for 2 years but for the first year and a half we lived in a commune with 30 other people with a cooking rota.
Now we live in a cottage together (since last September) he is really annoying me, he wants us to buy our own food and do our own shopping.
But when I come home from work I find that he has been eating my food so I go to get breakfast and its gone.
It really pisses me off that he refuses to shop with me but when I'm out, he eats all my (good quality) food.
What can I do?
Tonight we got into a silly argument, I said look I want to start shopping together for food and he got angry saying you eat my pea nut butter and my bread, so petty ad juvenile. But I'm starting to resent him eating my food whilst refusing to pay for any of it AHHH help!

[solidgoldbrass]

This man can't function outside of a community-type set-up because he's lazy, selfish and incompetent. You will be better off without him. You don't need his permission to dump him.
Why did you leave the commune, by the way? Was it your idea, or did the others want him gone?

[ninjasquirrel]

Move on and find someone who will, in the words of one of the lovely posters upthread "shower you with the tomatoes of your choosing"

[BibiBlocksberg]

OP - another one saying run as fast as you can (and take all 'his' peanut butter with you)

You're nearly half his age and commune life hasn't turned you into a weirdo user so what's his excuse? (got an undercurrent of you maybe feeling a bit responsible for manchild floundering in the real world that's all)

Have to say though I do enjoy a good vine ripened tomato even for the princely sum of £1.89 so the news that a lot of older men come with the benefit of being easily persuaded in that department might make me take a closer look at them

Sorry, flippant but there's nothing more unattractive than tightness to me - tight with the basics in life, tight everywhere else (and I speak from experience)

[MissBeehivingUnderTheMistletoe]

Has he gone yet?

[motherinferior]

Wot scummy said. Really. He is condemning you to a joyless and worried life.

[RandomMess]

Well he isn't someone you can have dc with is he, about to go bankrupt, doesn't think of others and you don't have sex very often.

The relationship has run it's course, get a live in nanny job save hard move on you are so young and so much living and loving to do!

[EnjoyResponsibly]

40 eggs a week.

That selfish old stoner must totes pen and ink.

Mind the door doesn't smack his sorry stinky arse on the way out.

OP 27-28 are halcyon days, use them wisely and don't waste them on someone that is mean (and stinky Pete)

[chubbasmum]

its abit sad because clearly he doesnt see you as a friend you dont treat your friend/partner like a door mat and i think if you are true to yourself you would admit you find it scarry without him any company is good companyreguardless how bad the person treats you

[MissBeehivingUnderTheMistletoe]

He really does need to be self sufficent , then he could keep chickens , grow his own weed and have no need for the OP's crumpets and tuna. Send him back to the commune.

[DebiTheScot]

Ah ok, that clears it up a bit. Makes more sense now. Sorry for suggesting he wasn't telling the truth. I reckon a lot of schools wouldn't give him as long as 5 years to get his GTS.

[NotTheBlinkingGruffaloAgain]

Thank you everyone for all your posts, I really appreciate the perspective, no he isn't gone yet, I can hear him snoring through the ceiling...
I have been brought up by my dad, he's a work ethic borrow from noone kind of man and my sister and I are both very hard working so Im at a loss to understad why he hasnt made any attempt to clear his debt, he could have chosen to work full time as a teacher to make a dent in it.
If I have debt it makes me lose sleep.
He has had 3 different cars since I've known him- he thinks he is unlucky but I think he shouldn't buy cars for thousands of pounds, you can get a decent run around for £800 so when it breaks it's not so financially devastating (he has now got a Volvo estate!) We don't have kids!?! argh.
Sorry ranting now

[gallicgreetings]

He needs a bit round of fuck offs.

Write a list of what you'd like in a life partner then tick off all the ones that apply to your partner. Bet there aren't many.

I've lived in a house share and no one was this inconsiderate. DP and I bought food and ate together even before we lived together. It is a normal thing to do. Sharing a meal together is one of life's fundamental pleasures and creates lasting bonds.

[KatieScarlett2833]

Rant away

Then make plans to enjoy the rest of your life without eggy-Tom

[SquishyCinnamonSwirls]

Blimey, you sound like you'd be much better off on your own!

[MooncupGoddess]

Ditch the crumpet-pincher now! I am single and a little older than you, and depending on my mood at the time I can stuff myself with organic vine-ripened humanely slaughtered tomatoes, invite friends round for dinner or go out drinking and talk nonsense with amusing men until the early hours. Frankly, it is great.

[Binfullofsiliconelimbsonthe45]

Who buys the toilet paper?

[Inertia]

Don't waste your life on this man, especially when you don't even seem to like him.

These food issues are not how couples usually behave.

[SixtyFootDoll]

Run to the hills.
Run for your life.
Good song, make it yours.

[LoveInAColdClimate]

He just sounds awful, OP. I think the time has come to just split up. He appears to have no redeeming features and you sound lovely.

[struwelpeter]

Ah to be 27 again ... Youth is too precious to be wasted on another moment with a tight fisted excuse of a man. Now if he were a sugar daddy type it would be an entirely different matter.
You've got a plan to get a qualification, you have the perfect job not to worry about where to live for a while and believe all of us who are over 35 that there are plenty of men who will buy you as many tomatoes as you want and will probably cook dinner as well.
The world is your oyster, not a jar of peanut butter or four dozen eggs.

[RandomMess]

yep even my worst house share was friendlier and more helpful than yours

[BibiBlocksberg]

Snort @ 'crumpet pincher' :)

[izzyisin]

In scrummymummy's opinion sex and tomatoes are essential building blocks for a relationship. IMO 40 eggs a week can lead to a different type of block in the nether regions.

He sounds like a candidate for chronic constipation or, if he's frying them, alongside his steaks, a heart attack.

Didn't you post about this nonrelationship before? I seem to recall that at some point you were living in the commune too and you were told in no uncertain terms that you were best advised not to attempt to set up home with him elsewhere.

In the long run you 'think this is doomed'? Face it, honey, it's fucked now
and you should be turning your attention to the short term - like how you're going to find another place to live this week so that you can get shot of this liability at the weekend.

Once you're free of his leaden presence, you'll be flying high wthout any pharmaceutical help.

[madonnawhore]

He sounds like an absolute fucking loser. Are you not embarrassed to be with him?

Dump and move on. You're too young for that shit.

[NotTheBlinkingGruffaloAgain]

Yes that was me
I aint going nowhere though, if it's over he will have to go I have invested too much in this house to just end up back living at the Buddhist center, he liked it there but I had simply grown out of it and it was far too demanding of my precious time.
hmm I don't know what to do now, maybe just need to think about things.