DP wants to buy food seperately

[NotTheBlinkingGruffaloAgain]

Me and DP have lived together for 2 years but for the first year and a half we lived in a commune with 30 other people with a cooking rota.
Now we live in a cottage together (since last September) he is really annoying me, he wants us to buy our own food and do our own shopping.
But when I come home from work I find that he has been eating my food so I go to get breakfast and its gone.
It really pisses me off that he refuses to shop with me but when I'm out, he eats all my (good quality) food.
What can I do?
Tonight we got into a silly argument, I said look I want to start shopping together for food and he got angry saying you eat my pea nut butter and my bread, so petty ad juvenile. But I'm starting to resent him eating my food whilst refusing to pay for any of it AHHH help!

No maybe about it.

Ye that's true it is a manufactured fight amazing how he can go from being Mr nice guy to just psyco man in the blink of an eye.
Thanks for helping me see the light.
This week he has bought 5 knives and magnetic holder, a toaster for £30, offered me £20 to borrow until I get paid, a breakfast bar and two stools for the kitchen, he has bought me dinner twice and then in an argument tonight says that I never buy any thing, he buys everything, if hes a loser Im not far behind, that I dont teach him anything.
He said I make the bed messy.
when I asked him why he had never cleaned the house he said because it's too dirty!!! (that was classic)
Ive hung up my mop and hoover because he doesnt ever do it and until we can come to an arrangement where we either do it together or get somone in to do it then Im not doing it.
He doenst like it that Ive become more confident this past week and even said to me 'im really angry go to your room!'

During the whole rant I just sat and listened.

"Go to your room?" ??????? WTAF????

He has no respect for you whatsoever.

Gosh, you've got a nerve! How dare you sleep in the bed and mess it up! Don't you know you should always sleep standing up?! Tsk.

Yes, go to your room at once While you're there, write one thousand lines: "DP is always right and I am always wrong."

Then scrub the kitchen floor with a toothbrush.

GO TO YOUR ROOM?

Taxi for Gruff.

Oh honestly. He is such a twat. I bet if you take him at his word and say, 'You're right, I'm not happy, you're not happy, it's over, goodbye' he will be absolutely appalled. Because he doesn't want to end the relationship, he wants to wear down your new self-assertiveness and return you to useful doormat status.

Go to your room
Oh dear that gave me a right laff

One of a kind alright!

Errr gruffly, you KNOW this man is a manipulative twat right? Right??? Get out, do it tomorrow, and in 6 months I look forward to you coming on here and telling us all about your fab new life without this knob holding you back!

The argument was his attempt at turning this into a you issue instead of the patently obvious HIM issue that it is. You sound fab, please leave him.

Oh, and when you tell him it's over BLOCK your EARS to his, ' I'm sorry I'll chafe bullshit. This is a grown man who can't face up to his debt issues, let alone his emotional ones! He will never change!

Change, soz, typing one handed!

I'm sorry but go to your room no matter what he says about this to other people when it's all over you will just have to tell them this one line.

He told you to GO TO YOUR ROOM? Christ on a bike! Why are you wasting time on this guy, seriously? Why??

Can I just repeat this line for anyone who missed it:

'when I asked him why he had never cleaned the house he said because it's too dirty!!!'

Genius

I am just at his latest rubbishness, run for the hills

Dh and I have had a row and some proposed home improvement, only there was a moment of raised voices and I stepped back and said what's going on and the we discussed the differences of opinions rationally and agreed on a compromise. so yes we disagree etc but we usually can come to compromises without any character assinations!

I have just had a hissy at DH because he laughed at me for melting a container or two in the oven. I don't do cooking, don't pretend to do cooking, have never been able to do cooking.

The we had a hug and he went "aww honey, you really can't cook, can you?'

I sniffed "nooooooooooo-uh"

He kissed me and say "Never mind, I can't operate the washing machine without ruining the clothes"

Now that argument is me being touchy and unreasonable and childish. However, please note, not at any time did DH send me to my room.

I know even in the heat of the moment I banked that for future anecdotes
I have just found a room locally that I can rent.
Another thing he said was that I dont care about his mum because I wouldn't pose for a photo in my lovely scarf and hat she knitted me (I have never met her) because It was 8.30 am I had to be at work 2o mins away by nine and my car had LITERALLY 2 ft of snow all over it, he just watched me cleat the snow off without helping me one bit, I had already posed in the navy blue hat and scarf with him but I didnt want to on a freezing morning with so little time to spare, take my hat and scarf off to pose in the red one- he said Im so ungrateful and I don't care about his mum at all!!!
He her son, hasnt been to see her for over 2 years.
I said 'I wrote her a card to say thank you' he said

... you're through and through selfish and the flame has gone out Im not happy living here any more

Oh no, not "the flame"!!!!!!!! You killed "the flame"!!!!!!! You murderer!!!!

Get to your room!!!!

Tosser.

Ugh what a whiny little man boy.

XH's excuse for not showering (particularly, but not exclusively, in cold weather) was "only dirty people need to wash". Exactly, I would say. He thought that was frightfully funny.

yep

ps Katie, I am developing a major girl crush on you.

Jesus wept get shot of him
And you grow a spine, time to say enough is enough
Stop dating wacked out ole hippies who leach off you
You can do much better than this

He told you go to your room
Really,time to call time on this bizarre and dont get up duff by him
Run,fast