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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - New Year, New Start, The Journey So Far.........

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Mouseface · 28/01/2012 15:33

Hello, I'm Mouse Smile

Welcome. There are all kinds of lovely Babes on board this Bus, drinkers, non-drinkers, part-time drinkers and those who have no idea what they are when it comes to drinking. Some are newer posters and some have been here forever for a little while. Wink

Come and say hi, there are no rules, no 'must haves', just plenty of open and honest support.

You can talk about whatever you like. Your life, your love or even your laundry. We've seen it all! Grin

The important thing is that you can post if you want to, or not if you don't. There are posters in AA and posters who are using medication to beat The Booze and of course posters who are just trying to cut their drinking down with the support of The Bus and the people around them.

See where we've been so far by following this ---> LINK TO PREVIOUS THREADS HERE

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Fairenuff · 01/02/2012 17:13

Hello twoteens, well done on the 3 days Smile. I personally would phone my friends early Saturday morning and say I had been up all night with sickness and was really sorry but would not be up to having them over for the weekend. That way you don't have to face the drink, or give any reasons why you're not drinking.

fuzzy stick with it, as you are also on Day 3 you will be detoxing like twoteens and should start to feel better within the next 24hrs or so. Do get yoursef some sugary snacks, keep hydrated and rest as much as you can.

Like so many others on this bus, it was not so long ago that I was drinking a bottle of wine a night, give or take. It's seems so hard to stop at first, but it really does get easier. Keep posting your experiences and how you're feeling, it helps to share Smile.

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thurso1 · 01/02/2012 18:29

Hello All,

Crikey, I love this bus!!

I decided that I wouldn't talk about Dc1 anymore as maybe I was invading his privacy, but, actually had a big think about what everyone said, and, yes, I am so happy and proud that he has become a young man who loves, and is loved. Thanks to you all for giving me a better focus (xxxxx).

I have just got in from tutoring, to an email that congratulated me on achieving membership of a professional body that I had applied to back in December , Yaay me! Only trouble is that Dh is, I think going through a bit of a blip (understatement), and has been out playing sport every night, and coming in to fall comatose, and will be the same tonight Sad. Can I ask you all to join me in a glass of whatever you fancy, currently diet coke (with ice, how smart!!) for me, and toast we can do it, we are the brave babes!.

Thank you all so much, I never could have done it without you (another understatement!)

Christiane sending you my love.

With much love
xxxxx

Bproud · 01/02/2012 18:43

twoteens if your friend will be supportive I would tell her you don't want to drink this weekend, and if you can face it, why you don't want to drink.

I always used to say I am not drinking AT THE MOMENT, because I FEEL have been drinking too much lately, and want to have a break. That way you do not have to specify how much you were drinking or for how long you are going to give up for.

By being honest it mostly stops people saying 'go on just have one...' etc and often people say 'me too' and join you in a soft drink, lots of people are worried about the amount they drink, I find.

Bproud · 01/02/2012 18:45

thurso well done, you are amazing, another great step in your new post DC life!

allencarrisgod · 01/02/2012 18:49

Hi ladies, Miflaw !

I want to offer my support and my experience. Up until 4 months ago, I was a very heavy drinker. I have stopped thanks to the Allen Carr method and I didnt suffer at all. Pleas ask me for more details, I would love to help !

thurso1 · 01/02/2012 18:51

Thank you Bproud, slowly getting there!!

venusandmars · 01/02/2012 18:51

Hi, did you go to the seminars, or just read the book? Well done you.

venusandmars · 01/02/2012 18:52

thurso my last comment was not in relation to your membership of a professional body Grin

thurso1 · 01/02/2012 19:06

Venus Grin

I actually feel like I have been playing pretend house, but this has somehow validated my work. However what you said I do ask myself time and time again, even though it wasn't meant for me. Time for a self-esteem course maybe Smile

allencarrisgod · 01/02/2012 19:49

I have tried the book but it didn't work for me so I went to the seminar. Since I have stopped smoking and drining, we are always in the black ! That is only one of the advantage !

SillyStrokeSensibleMum · 01/02/2012 20:14

Congratulations Thurso! You did that! Smile And your son sounds lovely. I hope they'll be very, very happy.

AllenCarr, well done.

Hope everyone's OK tonight and not struggling (with drink, or anything else for that matter). Earl Grey and a Picnic for me tonight.

HueyMorganismyboyfriend · 01/02/2012 20:29

Evening babes,

Hope you are well.

I tried the Allen Carr book but the pedant in me couldn't cope with how badly written it was. (The style, not the content that is) Looking back I was probably looking for an excuse to say it wasn't for me. [grins]

Any way tomorrow will be my first month off the drink in my adult life - bar pregnancy. I can't tell you how different I feel. Clear headed, not bloated better skin. The biggest shocker being I could actually enjoy myself sober.

twoteens when i read your post I felt it was looking at my life 18 months ago. On the surface a capable responsible parent, but underneath a person who was racked with guilt and could not cope without a gut full of wine to soften the edges.

Last year was a big wake up call. I split with my partner lost my home and my job with a good salary.

Worst of all I lost my self respect and the respect of my child.

Don't let it get to that. I wish I'd had this bus then and maybe things would have been different.

That was then and this is 2012 - The year of me getting back on track. The one thing I can control at the moment is not drinking. It was my motivation a month ago and is remains so. I can cope with all the shit life has to throw at you, because I am sober and dare I say it actually happier.

Believe it when people say it does get easier as the days go on. Maybe the events of last weekend had to happen so that you can become the person you want to be. It certainly seems that you are ready

In the meantime there is a bus full of wonderful babes, looking out for one another and giving hope to many a lurker.

How dare anyone diss this thread - It really is a lifesaver.

Blimey - that was a rant!!!! love you all babes. And here's to taking it one day at a time Wine [lime and soda emoticon ]

PS - Christi Hope your having a better day xxx

bibbitybobbityhat · 01/02/2012 20:48

I had success with finally giving up smoking (twice - ha!) with the Allen Carr book but I don't want to read his alcohol book because I don't want to give up drinking (I don't think, we'll see).

My dream job would be to be a coach/mentor at one of his stop smoking seminars.

Silver66 · 01/02/2012 20:53

venus thurso mouse ma isindie

isindie where the feck are you??

MIFL same goes for you - saw you on a another thread and was waving my banner right behind you Grin

just checking in really - Mum coming home next Tuesday which is fantastic and terrifying in the same measure - she's getting better but then we are responsible for her care - well not just us, but you know what I mean............and then we see her consultant for the possible news they won't recommend any more treatment.............and then............how long is a piece of string...

anyway - hello to those you who are recent passengers and welcome - and whether you are drinking, stopped or in between you are all doing fantastically (is that a word?) well.

Need my bed

Life is hard at the moment.

sweet dreams Babes xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

HippoPottyMouth · 01/02/2012 21:03

The Allen Carr book was a really important part of me getting this far too.
I did think about suggesting it to you, twoteens, but don't want to sound like an evangelist :o

Who has been dissing the thread??

bibbitybobbityhat · 01/02/2012 21:23

Yes, who has been dissing this thread?

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Mouseface · 01/02/2012 21:25

Silver - you know where I am if you need a break sweetheart. xx

I'm really going to bed now, Nemo is finally in bed, my/our bed but only a couple more nights.

Night xx

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SillyStrokeSensibleMum · 01/02/2012 21:26

That's what I want to know - someone been dissing the bus Huey? SadAngry Idiots, whoever they are.

Hi Silver, you sound like you're holding it together. Hope you're OK. Tough times for you Sad

dementedma · 01/02/2012 22:30

hi all
have given up fighting the demon, it is easier to give in. Just lie down in the ring and let it beat the shit out of you .
Keep up the good work.

Fairenuff · 01/02/2012 22:41

Ma it's not. It's really not. It's far harder to keep taking the crap day after day after day. It's exhausting, it takes strength and stamina. Stopping is actually the easier route once you get over the first few hurdles and one day, when you can bat that demon off your shoulder, you will see that for yourself. Until that day comes, just stay with us, lovely.

Don't expect anything of yourself just now. Take some time. But please don't ever give up x

HueyMorganismyboyfriend · 01/02/2012 22:44

hippo glad AC worked for you, I probably was looking for a reason for it to fail. Jason Vale does a book in a very similar vein.

silver look after yourself during this tough old time

Re the dissing. Thread on aibu dissing the whole relationship forum, suggesting the advice given is misguided at best and dangerous at worst. Made me narky

Feeling pretty narky myself tonight so I am gonna take myself off to bed. Pmt in the air I think.

ma don't stress it honey, we've all been there. Keep your ticket and get back on

Ps any alternatives to lime and soda?? Boring me senseless now,

Nighty night xxxx

MsGee · 02/02/2012 07:01

Hi - an back. Am do sick of this battle so need to step out of the ring. No rules, no bargaining - just no drinking.

Today is day 1 and I will not be drinking.

swallowedAfly · 02/02/2012 07:57

hey msgee good to see you. congrats on day 1. how have you been?

i had one beer yesterday whilst i was out and no desire to have more which is good.

i find it much easier if it's for something else - so currently trying to sort my digestion out and improve energy levels and general health and doing the alkaline eating and juicing to achieve that and therefore not drinking fits into that. had 4 days of no alcohol then one drink yesterday then not drinking again today. and there's the added bonus of weight loss and wanting to be able to wear my nice thin clothes again.

Fairenuff · 02/02/2012 08:22

I agree that it helps to have another goal so that it's not just focussed on not being 'allowed' to drink. Diet, health or fitness are all good ones. I'm not drinking at the moment. But I'm also not eating biscuits or cake or cheese, etc. And I am getting some exercise. I am getting out of the rut that I was in and as a result I am more active and happier, rather than sitting at home wishing I could drink iyswim.

I think it's more about changing those small habits, one at a time and replacing them with new ones.