The Brave Babes Battle Bus - New Year, New Start, The Journey So Far.........

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Hello, I'm Mouse

Welcome. There are all kinds of lovely Babes on board this Bus, drinkers, non-drinkers, part-time drinkers and those who have no idea what they are when it comes to drinking. Some are newer posters and some have been here forever for a little while.

Come and say hi, there are no rules, no 'must haves', just plenty of open and honest support.

You can talk about whatever you like. Your life, your love or even your laundry. We've seen it all!

The important thing is that you can post if you want to, or not if you don't. There are posters in AA and posters who are using medication to beat The Booze and of course posters who are just trying to cut their drinking down with the support of The Bus and the people around them.

See where we've been so far by following this ---> LINK TO PREVIOUS THREADS HERE

Hello Everyone, I am loosing track of names, but Saf, maybe it's confusion with the whoops. Cannot believe that someone with your intelligence is not getting anywhere in the voluntary sector, just crazy.

Huey you are clearly a superstar.

Duckety, seriously there are lots of delaying tatics to the projections that you can deploy. I have helped lots do it, and bankruptcy is the last option, truly.

Fuzzy so wish I and my girls were in your area, but if AA is working, keep at it, it's going to get better.

Have a meet with the man who made me see the light this weekend. He was my saviour at rehab all those years ago. Had been a bum years before as well as a senior mental health nurse, finally found his sobriety when he woke up one morning in a bus shelter in Blackpool covered in his own urine, the turning point for him, but as he dragged himself of to an NHS detox unit, he swore a passing dog did it! He now owns a few care homes, one which is for elderly dementia patients, dementia that was induced by excessive alcohol. I adore him. Sometimes it's good for me to visit the past.

Mouse I have got conjuntivitus too, so have great sympathy with Nemo, I am allergic to so may beauty products now, think that is down to the breast cancer treatment more than the clean living though. Plus side, I can't wear costume jewellery so Beloved has to concentrate

Spearmint, milk thistle and nettle was a Twinings tea and it was quite tasty. I also like their digestif. I haven't tried pukka teas yet, but will have a look.

Another stressful day at work today! Think I will also get a check up with GP next week as it's starting to get to me. I am the most laid back, patient person, but have a child with really challenging behaviour in my class this year and because I care so much about all of the children and their education, it does bother me sometimes . Today was one of those days.

Ducky I think you are right about dealing with one thing at a time. It must prey on your mind but how about writing it all down and putting it to one side? You will with deal with things if/when they happen because you know there are certain things out of your control right now.

These difficult times are when we might normally turn to alcohol. But that will not help your financial situation or my health. Let's stay strong and deal with things like you said, one at a time .

Hey Babes I am very excited! Do you remember a couple of weeks ago I was talking about DD doing an important exciting thing? She got the job! A proper graduate job with a really big prestigous household name company, starting in september.

Bproud - you should be VERY VERY proud. How fantastic. x

That's great news Bproud

Is everyone ok? It's very quiet here this evening . . .

I've been waylaid by the OW thread - Oh My God -say no more

507 posts silver is it a bunfight?

Thanks for the good wishes - it is such a relief that she is sorted.

Just checking in. Been super busy. And now DH is away for a few days... Getting the urge to drink as I would have done but am not giving in . Got some 0% Cobra in and it's gorgeous.

Congratulations BProud! Fantastic news.

Hope everyone's OK tonight. Will catch up tomorrow hopefully.

Hi Silly . Dh has had the same glass of wine on the table next to him for the last hour and it's still only half empty (half full? ). I am sorely tempted tonight but going to resist.

I've tried to read it, but so many comments were deleted by MNHQ I couldn't make head or tail of it. A seriously delusional or mischevious troll OP I think.
Well done on the 0% S/SM, and resist away faire

Hi babes!

how's everyone's sober friday going?? good I hope.

Had a good bit of news regarding the tribunal, found a test case similar to mine where the employee kept her job no problem. So there is hope yet.

off to find the OW thread because in the words of Peter Kay i'm a bit of a nosy bitch [:

Sarah just trying to go with the positive vibes atm

Bproud you must be sooo proud :o geddit!

I threw a post into the Ow thread to stir it up but have lost interest.
I got weighed today along with the rest of the staff, as part of a company health kick. i was HORRIFIED quite honestly at what I weighed in at. A full stone heavier than I thought. I am two stone over my target weight!
Next weigh in is next Friday. I am determined to lose it and if that means stopping drinking then so be it. I have been ignoring the evidence in photos and too tight clothes but having this figure read out made it horribly real.
Wish me luck

Ma - You can be my weight loss buddy xx

Silver - I admire you for even bothering with that thread, it's only a matter of time before it goes 'tick, tick boom!'

Bproud - Bproud! Massive well done's for your lovely DD xx

I'm off to bed. Have had two glasses of wine and it's gone straight to my head. Nemo's eyes are a bit better but they're still so sore so I took him to the GP, he said to leave them be.

He does have like a little white 'blister' that I'm hoping will go in his left eye....... poor little chap.

Anyway, night night lovelies.

DD is now a teenager plus one day! She made it! xx

Ma I just lost a long post to you, but the gist was that with your 5k training and weight watching you will be a new woman.

I use www.myfitnesspal.com to log weight, calories and exercise, I find it really useful and will be happy to pal with you. If you decide to sign up let me know and I will PM my user name on there.

bproud I will check that out. Thanks

Bproud how wonderful!

What's the OW thread, now I am being nosey....

Went over to OW thread and couldn't be arsed to wade through all the deleted posts so am back.

Thought it was a tad insensitive considering how many posts are from desperate posters, going through really tough times.

I'll be part of the weight loss gang , give me something to obsess over focus on apart from booze :o

I have given up on the OW thread but it got me past my craving .

Hose has finally finished his one glass of wine and is having a cup of tea. 'Normal' drinkers do help keep me grounded. When I was thinking about wine earlier, I thought, do I actually want one glass? Would that do it for me - hell no. I would want at least two, probably three glasses. So thinking about that helped to keep me grounded too. Also, this morning I posted that I wasn't drinking today so, decision made already. Moving on . . .

I have been a regular visitor to another thread which started up at the begining of this year. It's a weight loss thread and the women on there are lovely. If you want to have a look ma and mouse and anyone else trying to lose weight, I'll try to put a link here

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/big_slim_whatever_weight_loss_club/1371008-Whos-in-for-healthy-weight-loss-in-2012

If it doesn't work, you can still probably find it .

evening babes - im seriously knackered, just back from birmingham, drove there last night in the snow, spent all day waiting around for dd (did get my wedding shoes though, a complimentry shade of green satin with 5in diamonte heels and peep toe, am most pleased) driving in snow always gives me a migriane though so i have spent the day feeling desperatly cold, with blurred vision and im now a tad grumpy!

also feel fat, so i will be joining the weight loss babes!

night night you fit and fearsome lot!

L XXX

Not sure if that OW OP is real or not, made me feel uncomfortable though. Will never understand why people do the whole troll thing. Upsetting or winding people up for what benefit? Bizarre.

Anyway...well done Faire . Observing 'normal' drinkers is a very good reminder of how abnormal we are (or can be, or have been or whatever...). I have eaten so much cake that I felt no need for tea (as in dinner), and still feel sick. However I have had no alcohol so I'm still feeling smug despite incredible gluttony .

Ma, you had a group weigh-in?? At work?? Aarrgghhhh!!!!

Mouse happy belated birthday to DD

Saf you OK?

morning - i'm ok thanks silly

felt like utter crap yesterday which was deserved really.

we are going away on monday so really need to sort myself out and get washing and packing done. 3 nights in the peak district with ds and the dog - in this weather! god knows. it seemed a good idea at the time i booked it. so yes, we have plans for half term don't worry.

today i will not be drinking and i will be endeavoring to get my lazy arse into gear with getting stuff done.

happy weekend everyone.

Hi Saf. Glad you're feeling better today.

Sorry, only just catching up properly with the last couple of days. That's sooo annoying about trying to volunteer! Like you say, if someone like you can't get voluntary work...sheesh. Try not to get too despondent or take it personally or anything. They must just be really busy. It's one of those frustrating situations where your input could really help with someone's workload at the hospice, but the work involved in actually getting you started seems too time-consuming to be that person's main priority right now. Does that make any sense whatsoever . Blimey.

You know with the whisky, is it to take the edge of your anxiety do you think? I know your drinking is quite different to mine so forgive me if I've got it wrong (I drank shed-loads with the sole purpose of getting bladdered, I don't think you drink very much at all do you?). Have you spoken to your GP about it? Have you tried anti-anxiety medication? Just a thought, I'm sure you're onto it. I know you must feel a bit rubbish drinking like that, but it is only very small amounts, so don't dramatise it in your head and turn it all into something far, far worse. I know it must upset you to feel like you need that little swig, but if it is just small amounts, is it really hurting anyone?? If it gets you through and it's just the odd unit or two then don't beat yourself up about it. There are far worse things you could be doing. You're doing all you can to get yourself happy and healthy, so watch out for any self-flagellation. That's going to get you nowhere (so says the voice of experience...!). It must be so hard being on your own with DS. It sounds like your parents are helping out more. I hope you're getting on OK. And just keep on asking when you need their help or a rest. You shouldn't have to keep asking, in an ideal world they'd keep offering, but who lives in an ideal world, eh? :(

I seem to have gone off on one again! Have a lovely few days in the Peak District. I love it there. I hope it's bright and crisp and glorious for you :)

Hope everyone else is doing OK. I really must get dressed now. How can I still be in my PJs when I've been up since 5.30am?

Have good days everyone

Thanks for all your good wishes Babes. It really is such a relief and so lovely to know that DD is now launched off into the future, the job offer is not even conditional so she does not have to stress so much over dissertation and exams etc although she is a perfectionist so always tries very hard to get possible results.
It sounds like most of us did well last night on the drinking front, the support on here continues to be absolutely amazing, and reading that OW thread last night just emphasises the contrast between the best and worst of MN.
S/SM you always give great support and advice, you must be a lovely friend in RL [gush emoticon]
SAF your trip sounds super, I love the peak district and you are building more lovely experiences and memories for your DC which will shore him up throughout his life.

Good Morning to all

"Normal" Drinkers intrigue me. When around them, I observe them with complete fasination.

I once watched four people share a bottle of wine - AND LEAVE SOME. No way I would have let that happen.

Was also observing OW thread from pretty much the beginning. Can't believe it was genuine. But I did get a couple of chortles. Talk about prodding Mumsnetters with a big pointy stick. I did bite and comment once or twice.

I was talking/worrying about bankruptcy and house yesterday. The bankrupcy is a definite, started signing papers. The house, we may very well beable to keep. We have pretty much kept up with mortgage payments - missed two, but still made token payments. There is no equity (infact its in negative) in it. So apparently, we just keep going - hopefully. Just gotta get through it one bit at a time.

I never thought we would be in this position. We have tried to "do the right thing" all the way through. I suppose thats all we can do.

My DH says "as long as we are all together, we can sleep under a bridge" nice sentiment but would rather not.

Anyway love reading how everyones doing.

Love the sound of those emerald green diamante shoes!!!!!