Sorry for my absence, Ike frightened me off for a day, I didn't read your last post Ike, I presume it was unpleasant, whatever it was, I'm glad I didn't see it, but thanks to all for your support.
The other reason I haven't been back is because I've been talking & talking with my husband, & more than anything, I am so glad I've been honest with him, it's taken him a few days to digest but after the initial shock he's put a lot of thought into what I've said & we're talking.
& we understand each-other more, & do you know what? Whatever the political ins & outs & arguments, we're communicating better & both feel closer than we have for a long time.
I do think SGB & others speak a lot of sense though - it's the politics of the self really - I didn't expect quite so much animosity & resistance when I started this thread, I may have been naive, as was said, but am quite shocked that people are quite so resistant to an ideal outside their own. As SGB said, it may be as homosexuality was viewed 50 years ago - beyond the pale.
All I know is, I started the discussion here & with my husband & I feel so much lighter, more real, it may never come to anything, but I've said the words. & no-one died.