I think it's interesting that there seems to be a very clear division here, those who believe in & defend monogamy (even if they haven't completely practised themselves) & those who see sexuality as more fluid. It's also quite telling the the defenders are quite derogatory about an alternative way of living but no-one has flamed them for their wish to practice monogamy.
& yes we do have a model now in which serial monogamy appears to be increasingly common, I'm not sure whether that's a better way to live, surely you're just skimming over the surface until something better comes along? Never really getting too deep, I've done that. I don't want to do it again.
amelia I don't think SGB was equating the love of a parent to a child to the love of a partner, merely that it is possible to love more than one person, I never thought I could possibly love another child as much as my first born, it turned out I could, so why should it be impossible to love more than one partner? It's not a finite emotion is it?
I haven't as MrMeaner kindly pointed out, said or even alluded that I would forge on regardless irrespective of my husband's wishes. If I was going to do that I'm having the wrong discussion really.
You also seem to see my honesty to my husband as an act of aggression, & I'm on a selfish mission because I need to scratch an itch. It may be the case for you that even contemplating such a thing would be unpalatable, it may that for DH it's not something he wants to contemplate, in which case, fine, I'll let the matter sink into obscurity.
But do you know what? (& this is going to sound really fucking trite) everyone's different, everyone has ideas about how they want to live their lives, & everyone has a right to feelings about how they want to live their lives. sometimes compromise must be made & if I'm the one that has to compromise, then so be it. Doesn't mean I'm not allowed to feel or even talk about any other way does it?