Very odd experience with Online Bloke - help me make sense!

[MuckyCarpet]

Ok so before I start I know this one is going nowhere. However I'm intrigued about what is actually going on in this guy's head!

So we started talking about 2 weeks ago. Long conversations which turned into texts away from the dating site. He would text me mid-day and we'd text back and forth until almost midnight. He was full of nice-ness. Lots of kisses, generally being very sweet and caring, asking about my day, asking how I was etc. Then he asked me for my facebook details which I gave him -- BOOM! Totally changed.

Now if he'd simply seen a few of my less flattering photos on facebook and decided not to pursue things I'd be fine with that. However this guy hasn't just disappeared on me, he's carried on texting me but in a way that suggests he's actually trying to offend me/upset me.

For example, he used to send the first text saying "hiya xx how are you today? :)" and now he just sends a random text saying "alright" wtf?? why bother??

I noticed a photo on his facebook with him stood with Gordon Ramsey and so I mentioned it and said I was jealous and joked if he was well in with Gordon he could cook for me (in response to him saying he wanted me to cook him my signature dish). His response was "yeah, as Gordon would say, fuck off". ???

Now I'm quite happy to stop contacting the bloke (as I have done) but he's the one that keeps initiating conversation with me. Another example was him texting me and in reply I asked how his appointment had gone that he'd mentioned the day before. His response was that he didn't go as something came up. I replied "oh right, shame" and he replied "whatever".

Now he's started private messaging me on facebook. Last night he mentioned he was going to Australia. I said that sounded nice and he replied that he didn't want to go really. I tried to keep it light hearted and said I'd love to be forced to go to Australia and he replied with "thats you". I was in a shit mood myself at this point so just said "ok grumpy" and he replied "no, not grumpy".

Why even contact me at all just to be like this? Yet out of the blue he'll send me a random "nice" text again.

Headfuck yeah? what's his game?

Truthfully I think it sounds like he's less interested but keeping you on the back burner in case no one else comes along.

fairycake I thought the same

Laurie, that's what I thought. Keeping in touch just incase he needs me at some point.

I think he's stringing you along. Completely ignore him. It doesn't sound like much fun.

He doesn't sound like someone you'd actually want to meet. Delete and block?

No I can imagine him being a right passive aggressive in real life.

I just don't get why, if he's simply keeping me on stand-by has he suddenly turned slightly aggressive one me? wouldn't be make sense for him to keep the niceness up for a bit at least?

I once said to my brother that I didn't know what was going on in XH's head and he replied "zombie hamsters are running around on little wheels, that's what".

Sometimes there is no sense to be made of what other people do. Just christen him Zombie Hamster Guy and consign him to the bin of history.

Honestly I feel like I've done something to offend HIM. That's how cold he's turned. Fine if he isn't interested anymore but why turn into Mr Hyde over it.

It's an actual ploy that some men use - if they start to treat you mean they think you will then chase them, spend time trying to figure out WHY, and women also then blame themselves - it's a very aggressive ploy which really works.

My guess is that he's one of THOSE men. He's become your FB friend, has seen you with other people, having fun, and doesn't like it. Get rid.

Actually Laurie I was thinking the same myself. Is he trying to old "treat em mean, keep em keen" tactic. Must admit, he's kept me guessing for a week or so. Had enough now though, life is too short for mind games.

Dickie, that also crossed my mind. The fact that I have a social life has irritated him. Maybe he thought my entire world would revolve around him.

Who cares really? He sounds like a complete tosser. I'd delete him and block his number :)

Delete, block, forget. Total idiot (him not you)

There are no answers, the only thing you need to know is that this person is unreliable and a huge twat to boot.

Delete, Block, Don't spend another second of your time chewing over why he is what he is, - which is someone you don't want to know.

He's a total twit. I met a fair few nut bags when I was on-line. Get rid of him off of everything and block. It would give me the creeps to know he could see my facebook account.

Don't get sucked in looking for answers.

I would not concern yourself about what is going on in this guy's head because that way madness lies.

And why does he act like this - well because he can.

Just block him from your life and have no further contact with him.

Its good that you've found out what he's like before investing any more time in this man. Just block and like the others have said. He sounds like a total shit.

He sounds like an idiot. Next!

Did you meet him at all? When I was online dating I tried to meet them as soon as possible rather than build up an impression of what I thought they were like online and then be sorely disappointed (or in DP's case, happily surprised!) when I met them and they were completely different in real life.

I would guess that something you said has upset him or something he saw on your facbook. Did you ever meet him ? This txting malarkey has got the ability to destroy friendships.

What?

Laurie, I think you are right. Treat them mean tactic in play. Dont respond to his texts for a while and see what he does.

Have you deleted him/unfriended him yet?
Don't be helpless in the face of social media - you can turn him off.

(Turn him off as in he can't contact you any more, not as in make him go off you...)

He really doesnt sound worth the effort of trying to second guess.

Why are you thinking about it so much - you've never met him, he's clearly a dick and now you're giving him the satisfaction of continuining to be in contact with him even though he is going out of his way to be rude to you. Delete, block, next!