Close Encounters of The Intimate Kind! Dating thread No:8

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Continued from Makes post and in reply of:

Make just ask him. Why not? And of course you are going to be a bit of a mystery woman, he's only just blooming met you! Send him a message saying if he fancies unravelling a bit of the mystery then to get in touch because you would like to see him again. Be playful, be teasing, be fun, make him want you Make

I'm pleased you are having fun but I do have to ask, is all this dating costing you loads of money?? New outfits etc

oh I know it's an absolute rubbish idea PM working with/for me... but it's that at the moment or no job. the understanding is that he'll still be looking for something better paid as soon as possible andin the worst possible scenario, I'm moving back to my original job in September..I'm sure I can tolerate a few months of offce eye candy for the greater good.

watch I'm really sorry they don't understannd! I'm ok with additional expenses as long as I have a reasonable amount of notice - have paid for kids tickets to visit their grandparents in April this month, which has depleted me a little.. but I don't like 'obligations' being forced upon me. We all know what it's like and you're doing really well - single parent and a job and raising brilliant kid. Just ignore them. grr!

No, you shouldn't ever give up on relationships but you should say "NO" to toxic relationships.

Being family doesn't excuse them for their behaviour towards you, being family doesn't mean you have to tolerate it. You can't change other people but you can change the way you react and respond, you can set boundaries which mean you command respect. I'm sorry you have never had support, sadly I know how that feels and that's why I made a conscious effort to be a completely different kind of mother to the one mine was.

So, have you decided what you are going to do about The Date? You having second thoughts yet?

Talking of jobs Snape what happened with that skype interview for the personal ads position? Did it go ahead? Apologies if I've missed it somewhere up thread.

And Snape how is the diet going? And the no smoking?

i normally am too, just in jan there were alot of extra things i had to pay, like £80 swimming, car tax for the year, bloody speeding fine. DDs birthday AND her party AND we were paid early because of christmas. AND camping desposit.
Lots of extra stuff. When the moneys gone, its gone. they had all been paid, i hadnt at that point.
meh.
fuck them.

of course im having second thoughts. I dont want to go.

Mmm, I'm noticing a pattern here, you couldn't afford the meal but were guilt tripped into going, you have rearranged a date for the eleventy millionth time because you've been guilt tripped into it...

Repeat after me "No". And again, "No". Keep saying it until it feels comfortable, like an old pair of slippers, then start and use it!

I'm changing my bet now to a cancellation before 9pm tomorrow

It's annoying Watch because family are the ones who are supposed to be there for us, to support us etc. I am lucky in that most of my family are like that but I have one sister who was horrific when I split from my XH, it literally split my whole family in half for ages, my brother wasn't very supportive either but we are alot closer now. My sister still turns the other way when I see her out and about so that she doesn't even have to look at me.

Also some peoples broke is another persons 'i can't afford champagne this month'

Watch - don't go. You are having a rough time of it just now, I am not surprised you aren't in the dating mood. I am sorry your family aren't being supportive either. Mine weren't particularly either and I wonder if it's because I split with him rather than the other way round. Who knows. I am not bothered about family now, I only bother with the ones that bother with me and occasionally do duty phone calls life is peaceful that way!

i can't afford champagne this month! or anything much of anything else - overpent on the food shop last night (£103! with NO BOOZE!) and therefore on a £40 a week plan until the end of the month... but my bills are more or less paid, theers (some) petrol in the car, the kids are all good, I just hope for no emergencies...

watch I do think it's either go on the date or cut all comms and refuse to be cajoled into rearranging. from his perspective you have maybe prevaricated a little (...) and I wonder why he persists? there is either something very, very wrong with him, or he thinks you are a dead cert. I think you should go to solve the mystery!

eh, dating agent interview, I tried to rearrange, they cut contact - I'm not that fussed. it's probably less work to sell a kidney on ebay and I wouldn't have to wade through someone elses sea of invitations to don a strap on and give the gentleman in question a jolly good anal pummelling ...

smoking? not so good. Not as bad as it was, the occasional puff.

diet? ehh, ok - not eating carbs really, still - did have four pints of lager on the date on tuesday (ladylike? moi?) amd then came home ravenous to sod-all proteiny food and had bacon, beans, mushrooms a fried egg and cheese.

It was glorious though.

you can keep sex, as long as I can still have the occasional fry-up :)

You can have a fry up and then sex afterwards!

I'm thinking of switching to Low GI rather than no carb/low carb, am craving jacket potatoes at the moment, well mainly the crispy skins. Am also missing vegetables. And fruit. And I'm sure my body will welcome vitamins in the form of fresh foodstuffs rather than a little tablet.

how about sex and then a fry-up? I'll need to keep my strength up!

I do normally eat quite healthily I think - I've been indulging my evening cravings of pretzels and a large G&T... but that is really the only bad things that I do to myself... (relatively..well, gastronmically) I don't really eat bread, rice, pasta or potatoes. oh, but a jacket spud would be glorious - it's just the melty butter and cheese I would be tempted to add that is the probelm I guess.

Cheese. god, i love cheese. Did you see hestons stretchy fondue ? i would lkill for that.
Sex then cheese. Or even just cheese right now.

thats weird about the dating interview?

sorry you all have shit families too. Its never easy is it?

Ahh, well the point is to not make their mistakes and be the best, most wonderfuil parents we can be - one of the best things about having a child is that fresh start and not repeating other peoples mistakes.

oh. god. cheesgasm.

Yes, sex and then the fry up, cooked for you by the lucky man!

Jacket potato with Philadelphia is my thing, the spring onion and black pepper flavour being my favourite at the moment. Tis a good compromise I feel. I am going to indulge in some lovely hearty soups too! This is my plan for the weekend

Oh god i wish someon would take me out....i have had a few offers but they seem to be after only one thing. My vanisher who vanished and returned has again vanished so i have been speaking to other people and one of them had a really fit body (not that i go for that sort of thing..she says drooling over leonardo dicaprio and zac efron) only joking. No he does have a fit body, but think he is a little (LOT) out of my league! I mean a fit young bloke isnt going to take on a 23 year old, divorcee (to be), with a child? AND a good few extra pounds. Though i have been told i am not FAT its just what my ex drilled into my head!

Ellen, if it's just casual dating then the fit young bloke doesnt have to take you on...or are you looking for something serious & long term? :)

Just short term really and see where it leads. It says so on my profile that i want to take things slowly and see where it leads! Maybe the fit young bloke might stick around.

ornamental egg guy is back.

Is he the one who sent a pix of an egg up his arese Snape

he's the one who sent me long detailed messages about how we wanted me to go to a public place wearing a long skirt and sit on a strategically placed ornamental egg and 'enfold' it in my foof.

I was in the science museum when I got that message on my phone. with my kids. I blushed like a beetroot!

That is the strangest message ever. I think you should win some kind of prize :)

and guess what, ive not cancelled yet. Amazing.

what a cretin..how dare he bore you with his asinine fantasies.

I frequently get those messages where the bloke describes in excruciatingly clichéd and naff detail some sexual scenario..
They bore me rigid & leave me cold.
Usually I just ignore.. occasionally I reply scathingly about his bad wordmanship

they are rather awful arent they.
I think the worst i had was from that married man, ( who still hasnt got the message) who wrote me a ton of filth and then followed that up by asking if i would like to see a film of him fucking his ex gf. not his wife, his ex gf. He is 42, she was 23.
Fucking awful.
lord, if i knew his wifes details i would tell her.

gah..moronic fantasists just looking for something to jerk off to...

most these guys have no sense of the erotic, they put horrible amateur porn looking pictures of themselves fucking other women in their profile pics.

I mean, I'm very very fond of sex but some of these men put themselves over in such a vile way that it turns my stomach