He wants to be my slave,,,,

[SpiritualKnot]

Chatted to someone online and on the phone last night. He wants to be my slave. I am serious!! He sounds totally normal, easy to talk to, divorced, pleasant but he says this is a fetish he has.

He says he wants to sit at my feet, or he'll be my footstool, he'll wash up for me, make me drinks, massage my feet, anything I want. When others are around he'll be normal as it'll be a private thing between the two of us.

Don't know whether to feel lucky or creeped out really. I've often thought it would be quite useful, in theory, to have a slave, but I'm definitely not into domination stuff, but he says that might develop with time.

Anyone any experience of this type of fella?

OP - i am very pleased for you sounds lots of fun. I didn't explore fetishes till i was with my DP and i feel a whole different sense of satisfaction during fetish sex.

As said earlier, we always have this type of sex parallel to the 'normal' stuff and both seem more intense because of it. I also feel less inhibited about talking about my own desires and fantasies as we share so much intimacy and vulnerability.

ring seems fixated on the money saving aspect of this. Not really sure why. As i said up thread and so did someone else; anyone having sex could be 'saving money' paying for a prostitute. That's quite an odd way of viewing a sexual relationship.

In this scenario my dad has saved loads of money not paying a cook and my mum owes dad a fortune for all the diy work done on the house. Not really how relationships work is it? and i should start billing DP for all my 'services'.

Anyway, OP, feel free to PM me. I can recommend some books etc.

Speaking from experience here! Met the love of my life; after a while (when I was completely devoted to him) he introduced me to his fetish. Was quite surprised but, after a bit of research, thought that we could have fun together and, quite frankly, was touched that he had shared this with me.

Could not have been more wrong! Over the years, his desires became more and more bizarre to the extent that I dreaded the certain "look" in his eye! (Oh! Forgot to mention that he suffered from premature ejaculation and could only sustain an erection if he was looking at porn or if we were actually engaged in acting out his fantasies!). Quite frankly, it became tedious as it was all about him and his preference but used to engage as it was the only way that he gave his attention to me!

Best wishes to you, OP, if you and your new chap get on well together! Didn't work for me and I wasted many years of my life trying to please the man I love.

Ring, a part of the problem in your case may have been that you didn't actually share the fetish in the first place and were always just sort of going along with it. That doesn't really work longterm unless there is a definite trade-off, with the other person being equally happy to indulge your preferences.
In the OP's case, it sounds like she has a foot fetish that is complimentary to the new man's fetish, which is much more likely to work out well for the pair of them. At least, no less likely to work out well than a relationship between a couple of vanillas (ie people without fetishes).

Had he brought his fetish up before you were completely devoted ring...you'd have had the choice to walk away. It's difficult when someone changes when you are already in an emotional relationship.

It isn't just sexual preference that changes though is it? What you are describing could be any of the important life decisions we all make (did want kids/doesn't want kids - is a spender/saver - very social/recluse -couch potato and cuddly/ super fit and slim) When someone changes significantly it does affect you. Not all changes can be worked through.

This is why I have issue with 'for better ...for worse' part of marriage ceremony. I'm not actually sure I'd wish to tie anyone in to a contract for ever, that takes away your choice to walk away when it's not making you happy. (Whole different thread here )

What ElusiveCamel said.

Good for you OP!

Oh hell,

Ring was right.

No contact since that meeting, I think he groomed me for a one night stand. I reckon he was married, he's back on the site and I've liaised with him pretending to be another interested lady and he's very keen again. Knob.

I would love to copy and paste the email he sent to me so others could see how sincere it all sounded.

xx

Go on then

what a shit. Could this new 'interested lady' invite him on a date, say, to...a penguin enclosure?

oh dear! Well at least you had a nice saucy experience and know that you like something else for future investigations.

you never know with people, 'normal' or 'fetishy', there are always sleazebags up for a conquest.

i hope you aren't too disappointed.

Utter cock....as I said before if you had met on a fetish site fair enough..however Ring and I had the shite experiences and can see them coming a mile off...

If it sounds too good to be true it probably is...sorry you had to meet such a bell end.

Hopefully you had a verrucca!

Now as I mentioned further down the post, forbet his feelings and get some degradation going....daffodils, rectal vase etc etc.

That is dreadful. Once again the MN angels have proved that their experience is far superior. Well done to Ring for having sussed this out from the beginning. This thread is a real eye opener for the naive among us as to how manipulative and scheming men can be.
OP, I so wish you could take some kind of revenge on him by chatting to him using a different identity. I soo wish that he gets some payback.

I am so sad about this thread. Now from one experience people are saying that people who are interested in fetishes are trying to save money on prostitutes/dommes. And that rings dreadfully cynical and ugly view of fetishes are correct.

Can it be possible that rings experience can still be unusual? and this man is just also a dick? or do 2 swallows make a summer?

I have literally never heard of this in 'genuine' fetish circles. He just sounds like an arse.

And lets not forget; it wasn't a negative experience for OP, she had a great time and it has opened her eyes to something she hadn't tried before. So tbh i don't think those who were so cynical should be entirely patting themselves on the back for predicting a terrible time.

I've had a guy offer me this kind of service on a dating site.
I blocked him.
Weird and i didn't want that in my house, also had visions of him strangling me/raping me.

going was that because you think that a foot fetishist is more likely to be a rapist? or because offering it online makes him more likely to be a rapist? What would happen to your house if you had 'that' in it?

spuddy no-one is picking on people who want to enter a relationship with a strong mindset to certain fetishes at all. I'm sure there are lots of people out there meeting likeminded souls to indulge and be equally indulged for mutual satisfaction.

However there are websites for "likeminded" people who want to establish the importance and priority of their lifestyle. And that's where upfront, honest people should be.

This prick effectively "groomed" the op for this situation. And as predicted shat on her from a great height once he got what he wanted. That could be a footlicking, or a regular under the duvet frolic.

I don't think she got what she wanted. I think he did. And I think she's right, he is probably "happily" married and needs to use other women to get his particular brand of kick. She got used. Op did he say he would be back in touch? Did he build this up as an otherwise normal relationship?

bin OP sent me 2 PM's to the contrary, telling me what a fantastic time she had had. I wont tell you what exactly she said, as it was a private message that she chose not to share on here for fear of flak from some posters.

Obviously she is disappointed he didn't continue a relationship, but that happens when you meet people on the internet and have a sexual encounter with them - regardless of what 'flavour' the encounter is. You just have to kiss a few frogs i think.

Oops the guy offered to clean naked in my house and wanted me to physically abuse him, sorry missed that bit out :)

I'm sure "in the moment" she had a great time. And perhaps has discovered a whole new avenue of enjoyment for herself.

However in her last post she sounds deflated and misled.

yes and i am sad for her in that respect.

Perhaps some helpful posters can direct the op to some more open and honest websites?

staysingledonotbotherdating.com [bitteremoticon]

Feeling better about things now. He was an arse and he'd be an arse with or without his preferences.

Will keep looking, but going to be more discerning next time, they won't see my feet until the third date!

xx

You keep your feet pure until you know their intentions SK

Seriously I am sorry and you could have written the same about a man who you had, had vanilla sex with. Plenty of women bemoaning the lack of contact after one night, on this site sadly.

Was wondering if there were any updates here!