He wants to be my slave,,,,

[SpiritualKnot]

Chatted to someone online and on the phone last night. He wants to be my slave. I am serious!! He sounds totally normal, easy to talk to, divorced, pleasant but he says this is a fetish he has.

He says he wants to sit at my feet, or he'll be my footstool, he'll wash up for me, make me drinks, massage my feet, anything I want. When others are around he'll be normal as it'll be a private thing between the two of us.

Don't know whether to feel lucky or creeped out really. I've often thought it would be quite useful, in theory, to have a slave, but I'm definitely not into domination stuff, but he says that might develop with time.

Anyone any experience of this type of fella?

No experience, but I would absolute piss myself laughing if someone said that to me.

If you can get him to do the housework etc. this may be worthwhile

when he's your footstool will you have to varnish his legs and bind him in leather? will he match your other furniture?

Does he want to do the housework/slave stuff naked though?

On a serious note, if you've said you're not into that sort of thing, I wouldn't like the comment that 'it might develop in time'. I wouldn't want to be forced/cajoled into any form of relationship like that.

Ha Ha this is great. Please give him a trial period and keep us posted.

Get the impression he's more than happy to do the housework. He says he will be on all fours when I call him and he'll crawl towards me. I stood in the kitchen after the call and imagined him crawling towards me and I started laughing. Says he likes to be humiliated.

I like men to be men, but on the other hand this would be quite nice. He lives miles away and it would only be every other weekend, due to kids etc.

Yes, he said he could be naked if I wanted him to. Coz he's a slave if I didn't want to see him again it wouldn't be a problem as he says he has to obey me.

I think I'll give him a trial, that's what he's asked for, maybe get him to sort out my messy garage whilst I'm deciding if I'm into it.

'humiliation' is never good in any relationship is it?

what if it becomes a 'tit for tat' scenario and lines between your sexual relationship and everyday sutff become blurred?

just saying this as a really good friend of mine is in a similar relationship - he treats her like shit, she says it's ok as she more than makes up for it privately

am i taking this too seriously?

All depends if you think you can be a convincing Dom or not!

HAHAHA

Seriously, he sounds like a weirdo. Unless you are actually into that kind of thing I would steer well clear. Or you could do what this dominatrix did :o (link to BBC enws, not anything dodgy!).

Ooh I don't think I could and what santa's mustdache says is a very good point!

Surely he'd be more likely to find a like-minded partner on a BDSM website or such?

I had a couple of friends who were seriously into a slave/master relationship and also the BDSM thing as part of it.

The sitting at the feet/naked while in the house/never wearing trousers/never wearing panties/shaved her head/wearing a collar only he had the key for (apart from an emergency one in a cabinet just in case).

It worked for them as he was happy to dominate and she was very happy to be dominated and they had mutual respect.

I think being dominant or submissive is part of your personality and if you are not dominant while it may be fun for a while, I am not sure you would take it seriously and would get bored/fed up of it soon enough. Also if the other person needs this, then their needs will not be met in this relationship and it wouldn't work long term.

Ha ha @ Santa 'will he match your other furniture!'

I don't think you can force yourself to do this, especially if you have no experience of anything like it before.

I tried once. AMAZINGLY hot guy, utterly lovely, but very, very submissive.

I have been in a relationship with fairly serious BDSM elements to it, but only as the sub partner. I'd never tried being the domme, so thought I might as well give it a go. But I just couldn't do it. It didn't help that he was an entire foot taller than me, so we both knew there was no way I could physically force him to do anything.

Anyway, it didn't work out :(

I think you are intrigued smile go for it
Getting a little of this impression from the first post.

If you approach it from the point of view that it's about him pleasing you (rather than you satisfying his fetish), then not only can that make it more effective, it's also explicitly your prerogative to choose what you do and don't want to try AND it makes easy to walk away at an early stage if you find you don't like it after all.

Of course, you've yet to meet him in person and find out if he's someone you'd find attractive in the first place...

If you don't take him up, send him round here. There'd be no sexual congress but I'd end up with v. clean blinds at least.

You would make a great Dom, definitely. Get him to set you up a new Facebook.

Oh I've had a few of these types crop up on dating sites.

I indulged too - sounds a good deal at first doesn't it and a bit of a laugh.

But they were always such a pathetic PITA texting all the time wanting to know what humiliating things I had planned for them, and one or two were just toal timewasters hoping for a free text wank service.

Far less hassle to just do the bloody housework yourself imho.

I would rather do it myself

WOW That is one hell of a fetish to be revealing for a stranger. I suppose using dating sites is cheaper than prostitutes. Be careful.

My loft needs a clear out....if you don't want him could you chuck him this way

I want a slave!