He wants to be my slave,,,,

[SpiritualKnot]

Chatted to someone online and on the phone last night. He wants to be my slave. I am serious!! He sounds totally normal, easy to talk to, divorced, pleasant but he says this is a fetish he has.

He says he wants to sit at my feet, or he'll be my footstool, he'll wash up for me, make me drinks, massage my feet, anything I want. When others are around he'll be normal as it'll be a private thing between the two of us.

Don't know whether to feel lucky or creeped out really. I've often thought it would be quite useful, in theory, to have a slave, but I'm definitely not into domination stuff, but he says that might develop with time.

Anyone any experience of this type of fella?

Sorry sparks i have concussion and just found out i'm pregnant - so my brain is not picking up subtle nuance, or many things to be honest!

Oh my God! I have just had the best afternoon ever with this guy. It was absolutely fantastic. We went for a meal together as ourselves, and then came back here. Was a bit shocked at first when he was crawling around, but then he started licking my feet, which I adore and I was in heaven.

It progressed somewhat from there and I had to reprimand him for making me lose control. But at the same time it was light hearted and he has the most wonderful way of touching I've ever experienced.

We hugged and kissed as ourselves when he left and we're meeting again next week. I feel so relaxed and chilled now...sigh!

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PMSL. Hes a weirdo.

EWWW.

Somehow it didn't feel weird at all, felt very comfortable and easy. He's a nice guy, in some ways I even felt it takes a real man to enjoy what he enjoys.

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I have beautiful dainty feet, apparently they're a foot fetishist's dream.

Is all the housework done?

No, but he did make me 3 cups of coffee.
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I hope you washed your feet first and didn't kiss him after

Oh honestly, you could have done better than three cups of coffee! The potential is enormous. Haven't cleaned under the sofa in a year or two? Have a room that needs decorating?

"We hugged and kissed as ourselves when he left"

So . . . you've had sex for the first time with someone, and it was not as yourself?

< wrinkles nose >

We didn't have full sex. I didn't touch him at all.
Definitely was more my real self sexually than I've been in the 20 years of my failed marriage.
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Enjoy! and

Spuddybean are you around? Think I'll pm you. Just wanted you to know that it went well!
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Thank you Toothbrush Thief

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Pleased that you enjoyed it! You saved him from spending nearly 200 quid!

Look at the foot fetish sites! Loads of money to be made from photos, especially if you have perfect feet!

... and you have another "appointment" next week. He's taking the p*!

If you enjoyed it and he enjoyed it there is nothing whatsoever wrong with it. People who are into BDSM are just people, some are nice, some are arseholes. OP, do whatever feels right: see him again if you want to, stop seeing him if he starts making you unhappy or uncomfortable. Just as you would with any new man.
Ringisloose, are you by any chance starting from the viewpoint that women either don't like sex or only like vanilla-sex-with-LURVE-on-top? Because that's bullshit.

But I have a foot fetish too. I can't go for a pedicure as I get so turned on, doesn't matter who touches my feet, it just happens.

I know charges are around £200 an hour for BDSM, but we both want a normal relationship, this just happens to be something we both seem to get pleasure from. We're meeting next week for a date, he's taking me out. He's a nice guy.

You could equally say that someone in a "normal" relationship is saving themselves money by not going to a prostitute.

SK: Well he sounds like an excellent match for you: kind, attractive and sharing your fetish! That's at least a bloody good start to a relationship. Ignore the whiners who think that only men have fetishes and only get to indulge them if they pay to do so, and enjoy yourself!

Thanks SGB!

I was married to an utter arsehole for 20 years, he probably squeezed my feet 3 times very briefly in that time, whilst expecting me to be an acrobat in the bedroom for him and he was so called "normal".

SK - You did not say in your original thread that you have a foot fetish too! Would have stopped me from wasting my time!

Didn't really think of it as a fetish until today...

You saved him from spending nearly 200 quid!
Eh? Yes, you can pay for Pro-domme services, but you can also pay for sex. Are you suggesting that every time a man has regular sex that he doesn't pay for that he's 'saving' himself money. What a weird and bizarre way to look at it. People with fetishes and people who submissive or dominant want relationships, love and intimacy just like anyone else because er, they are just like anyone else.

... and you have another "appointment" next week. He's taking the p*!
Or two people met on a dating site, had a great first date and plan to see each other again. If I went on a date with someone who shared my interests and I wanted to see them again, would that be an "appointment" and would I be taking the piss? The way you're viewing this is really quite ugly.

SpiritualKnot, good for you! Hope you enjoy your new adventure.

My only words of advice would be...if you try it, dont like it and the relationship continues, his fetish wont go away. There is a danger of him needing to continue to fullfil his "needs". And love, if its not with you....
Sorry, speaking from experience here.