Here's hoping on finding a decent guy/girl under the mistletoe who doesn't use hun or text speak. Dating thread No.7

[Zanywany]

Off you go

You know what to do

lol, he meant a zombie book. we both loved the walking dead. Strangely, though you would not expect it from his behaviour he is a well educated man in a very high up job and incrediably middle class.

I am more than a bit confused about this. more than a bit confused.

clearly he is still with his gf, so why on earth has he suddenly started texting me (when our lasts text were aug time.) for some kind of sexting ( which is not happening)

i just do not understand... why wouildnt he just call his gf?

mr blonde ( from today) has text back.
i said - thanks for the mince pies, hope i didnt make you late back
he said - thats ok, i told them i had got stuck in a photocopier

( funny story i told him)

i said - you do know thats a patented excuse, dont you?
he said - looks like ill be owing you some royalties
i said - i accept payment in rum, and/or malteasers.

so - what do we make of that?
because clearly, i have no fucking clue when it comes to men.

Here is my theory:

The Tosser is exactly that, A Tosser. Bored with his girlfriend and fancying a bit of extra curricular activity. He is an arse an unpleasant man and is to be avoided at all costs, no matter how bored, depressed or lonely you are. Block him. Do not reply to him, do not entertain him. You are raising your standards from this moment on so you no longer attract cock pics Tossers, you will only be attracting decent men from now on. Simples.

The Encounter. Sounds nice, sounds good and sounds like all may not be lost. Why don't you just bite the bullet and ask him if he would like to meet again for another mince pie. Goooo on, ask him! He can only say no but at least then you will know where you stand.

he is a chancer, poor gf who he is with him

Yup I am with time he is bored and thinking you are easy. Even by texting him you will be encouraging him, albeit not with the intentions he is thinking of. Dont bother with him!

Mincepie man sounds casual. Thats good, means he isnt recoiling in horror or getting down on one knee I would leave it a couple of days myself to see if he will ask, if not then I would, for another date :)

he can think im easy if he wants. it was a fwb thing, so i sort of was. but that was my choice and i ended it when he treated me without respect.
so - standards were raised, he was blocked and deleted... which is why i am surprised 4 months later hes fishing for sexting. which is not, and will not happen.

im not depressed btw, just a bit meh over men.lol

im not going to ask for another date, its up to him i think. if left it open for him to, with the rum comment. we had sort of talked about a second date already, involving rum, gold stars and battleships :) lol and i think my post date texts show im interested... so, i just have to wait and attempt to play it cool now?

You make me laugh watch You always manage to answer your own questions in the end. Yes, play it cool for now. but no bloody moaning if he doesn't ask you out!

And NO, he can't think you are easy if he wants!! You have raised your standards since then, he should not assume you are still FWB material, you didn't send him a fanny pic, you didn't talk dirty to him, unless he mistook you talking about the walking dead for the wanking deed or something?? So, put him straight, don't allow him to think of you like that. You deserve better!! I'm cross!

I.might moan a little if he doesn't ask me out. Lol. He was nice :)

I didn't lead him on, yestetday I told him I couldn't see any reason for us to.stay in contact!!!!
Then all this happened today.

My point exactly, you didn't lead him on so he had no right to assume he could pick up where you left off sooo, it is not ok for him to think you are easy, if he wants.

Tis ok, you can moan a leetle bit, seeing as it's Christmas

Good. Because he was nice AND was scruffy.too. and very Funny.

I see what you mean..... Im just going to ignore him. If he sends another cock pic ill fb it to his gf.

Hi

Just thought I'd post as my date last weekend is now in date 4 tonight!! He is amazing but I'm trying to be cautious, we've both come off all dating sites at his suggestion so we shall see :-)

Will do some personals tomorrow must get ready
Xxx

Good! Don't encourage The Tosser.

And don't give up on Mr Mince Pie, he hasn't blocked you and he is texting you so you never know, there may well be a round two

Gosh bubbles That's good going! There must be something in the air for some Have fun!

Argh! Stupidly busy

Just popping in to say shiney wooo! A normal one! Thank goodness... has he got any normal friends?

Helena I love your list! Especially the 'gumption to work out how to get to the date venue by themselves' Oh yes. So off putting when they dither about and pester you for the postcode of the place, ask if there's parking, ask for other directions - fgs strap on a pair and either just go or use google yourself, you can even use street level mapping to see what's around the area!

Been too busy for FWB action recently but he is still about and no doubt I will actually go loopy soon and be forced to arrange a meet. Two weeks is about my limit and it's coming up to that now.

Hi Lubey - wondered where you had got to. x

Watch he obviously likes you as he is texting. Ask him if he wants another date. If he says no then its not as though he doesn't like you as he has been in contact but he may not think there is a spark which isn't personal no matter how much it feels as though it is. I have dated guys who on paper were perfect, good looking etc but no spark. p.s. FB is an arse

Hi Time

Hey lubey nice to see you

Hi Zany, hope all is still glowingly well with you

Hiya, been watching this thread. I've been dating with pof a while, met some ok blokes.

Met a guy last week and saw him again on Sunday for a second date. He said I could overnight as I don't like driving in the dark. Had a nice date and then he made a proper pass at me back at his house, usually I get a quick kiss and cuddle goodnight. He knew I hadn't had sex for two years.

Shit, I went crazy, randy crazy, out of control stuff really, we ended up removing our clothes and I gave him a BJ.. He encouraged me all the way asking me to do it, so it wasn't like I was taking advantage of him in any way. Was on period otherwise would have gone for it. Still slept in the guest room though.

Now I'm randy as hell and I think he's cooled off, he knows I'm feeling extremely horny still. But I like slow, gentle sex, he was a bit forceful and wasn't a good kisser, weird kisser really.

I feel if I meet up with him, we'll have a nice date, a bonk and then that'll be it for him. I think this would really upset me? We had plans for this Friday.

I'm 50, was married for 20 years, divorced since December last year and feel that even though I'm randy as hell I need a bit more than a one-off bonk? Feel pretty upset really, made me realise I miss sex as well as companionship.

I'm just wanting to be told whether to just go for it or to tell him to sod off?

Spiritualknot I would say if you are happy with no strings sex then go for it BUT, if you feel you may end up resenting the guy for not investing more emotionally then stay clear, you may get the sexual relief but you will end up stressed due to lack of commitment. It all depends on what you are looking for really and it sounds to me as though you are wanting more than a quick shag.

I think Spiritual that if you want a bonk and your not bothered as to whether he contacts you afterwards then go for it but it sems to me as though this would bother you so I would be tempted to say wait until someone comes along who wants to see yuo again sex or no sex.

Spiritual I wouldnt bother. You say you would be upset if he was to shag and run, which it sounds like he would do. Why put yourself through that? It doesnt sound to me like you felt very comfortable during the whole thing, from your comments about him being a bit forceful etc. Listen to your intuition. There will be other blokes.

spiritual - i agree withthe others.

today has just got better and better, and i mean that entirely scarastically.

firstly, i get a text from mr two weeks ago, you know, the one from the summer that said yes to a second date, but then never arranged anything. he now wants to be meet up. that will be a no.

at work we have the probabtion service in doing some painting for us. i have been asked out by one of them :( if it wasnt so depressing i might laugh.

you just gotta laugh at those stupid guys that think they can just leave you hanging, that the door will always be open.
The door is slammed shut PDQ where I'm concerned, infact anyone who things they can leave me hanging will find that the door is now bricked over

well, my day has just gone from bad to worse.
We also had fire alarm and emergency lights testing at work ( by an outside company) one old man, not too disimilar looking from frather christmas, and reeking of booze was making seriously lewd comments to me.

i had to report him to my boss :(

and ive not heard from mr mince pie any more, even though hes been back online lots today. so i was right about that too.

i think i officially give up till the spring now.

Gosh watch, what is it with these men!!

Yeah, take a break from it all, at least until after Christmas, free yourself of the stress

Hi to everyone else, hope all is going well.

Remember the guy from a couple of weeks ago that I was meant to meet for coffee but he didn't get in touch to finalise? Well got a text from him this eve saying his account had been hacked and he hadn't been able to get into his messages to get my number and he was sorry that it must have looked like he'd disappeared but if I still wanted to meet for coffee he'd like to.

What do you think? Tempted to give him the benefit of the doubt but don't know if that's just cos there's nothing else going on... Also around that same time I got a series of messages from some nutter complaining that I didn't reply to them and they knew I replied to others because they'd read my messages to them, so could be true.

I think I'd be inclined to give the hacked guy the benefit of the doubt Freakoid(assuming you like him and he's not done anything else untoward)
He did at least acknowledge it looked bad and he's gone to the to the trouble of an explanation in order to put things straight.