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Here's hoping on finding a decent guy/girl under the mistletoe who doesn't use hun or text speak. Dating thread No.7

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Zanywany · 05/12/2011 14:31

Off you go

You know what to do

Xmas Grin
OP posts:
TimeForChristmasSpirit · 06/12/2011 11:37

Stay, yes, I'm here Xmas Smile

happyAvocado · 06/12/2011 12:20

I have this stinking cold and working from home, but must go to work tomorrow :(

PoppaRob · 06/12/2011 12:39

I went to a PoF meet ages ago. Wandered around the pub and saw no one recognisable so had a drink, hovered, then left. Next day someone posted heaps of pics of the 20 or so people at the meet. I'd walked past that group several times and no one looked anything like their profile photos! When I made a comment on the forum to that effect one of the guys even went so far as to say he'd recognised me but figured there were too many guys there as it was so he didn't call me over! I had several private messages from other people who'd been to other meets saying it's just a core group who socialise and hope to bring some new meat into their group every now and then. Definitely not worth the effort.

happyAvocado · 06/12/2011 12:42

PoppaRob was it in UK or in Ozz?

PoppaRob · 06/12/2011 13:03

Adelaide, South Australia. I'm a colonial. ;-)

happyAvocado · 06/12/2011 13:14

There must be a way to meet other singles - I am still searching where ;)

watchoutforthatsnail · 06/12/2011 13:34

Quick report, just back and now out again.

I liked him. He was nice. I wouid like to see him again. Sadly I don't think tge feeling is mutual.

FreakoidOrganisoid · 06/12/2011 15:00

Nothing to report here, trawled through pof again and found ONE person worth contacting. Emailed him and he replied with a shit message that basically said how was your day and have you met many people through the site. Replied fairly lengthily trying to get some kind of conversation started and nada, no reply.

The universe has only 18 days remaining in which to deliver me a nice man Xmas Hmm

Where did you meet yours shiney??

MsCellophane · 06/12/2011 15:36

My date went well, nice bloke, laughed lots, not handsome but not ugly, fantastic career, listener - not a talk at you person.

BUT... he had rubbish teeth Sad I'm not sure I could snog him which is really shallow - so unfair as everything else ticked all the boxes. Wondering if I can get past it or not

watchoutforthatsnail · 06/12/2011 15:44

ah no, rubbish teeth is always awful isnt it, because you just dont want to kiss them at all.

hmmm. am feeling a bit dispondent now. I did actually like him, i text to say thanks for the mince pie and he did reply with a witty comment refering to our conversation.. but i know hes not interested, ive hardly gone on pof for about 2 weeks, since ive hidden my account, but thought id look and he was online. which, and i know he is allowed to be, but being back on the dating site within an hour of a date ending is never a good sign.

:(

what on earth is wrong with me?

stayformulledwine · 06/12/2011 15:55

Watch nothing is wrong with you! There could be loads of reasons why he isnt interested. Perhaps you just werent his particular type, that doesnt make you any less of a beautiful woman, which you are, I have seen your fb pics :) Have you considered that he may have been going online to see if you were online? I know you say you are sure he isnt interested but wait and see yet.

happyAvocado · 06/12/2011 16:01

watchoutforthatsnail - many of those guys are eternaly looking for "the one" - this means they will never settle for any of those they meet as there's no only one :)

but I agree - we would like to find someone, alt last ;)

watchoutforthatsnail · 06/12/2011 16:04

i dont think so... he was online a lot, which was one of the reasons i cancelled and wasnt going to go. Hes new to the area ( like 5 weeks) and doesnt really know anyone. Ive not been online for weeks and it wont show ive been online anyway, because my profile is hidden... so its most likely he isnt interested.

i always like the ones that dont like me, and the ones im not interested in, are interested. which is a bit shit ( especially after 3 years of dates)

I had thought the date went was going well, until he was like ' i need to go, i have to get back to work' and then it all seemed to just die on its arse. Seeing as he is self employed and yesterday told me he can pretty much do what he wants that was clearly an exit line. Im not stupid enough not to see that ( unfortunatley)

FreakoidOrganisoid · 06/12/2011 16:15

Watch I once logged straight onto a dating site after a date because he was so beautiful I wanted to gaze at his pics Blush Blush

So not always a bad sign...

stayformulledwine · 06/12/2011 16:21

watch I wouldnt say that means there is something wrong with you. Internet dating can be really shit, when you feel rejected. When you think of the various men that those on this thread have dated but decided not to see again, most of the time its been purely because there was no spark. That the guy was lovely, nice to chat to etc...but no attraction. That may just have been the case with you and this guy and as I say, that doesnt mean you arent attractive, just different people like different things. Try not to take it to heart :)

watchoutforthatsnail · 06/12/2011 16:34

Lol, logically I know that. Just, you know..... 3 years of dating and not even.close to.any kind of relationship.
And he was nice today, realky nice.
Bloody typical.
:(

Also, what do you make of this? A fb from the summer ( who I thought had a gf) and whos number abd fb I deleted ages ago, text me yestetday.... For ' a chat' and then has just text me again to ask how my day was? Wtf????!!!!!
What's tge bet they have Eirher split up or had an argument abd he's looking for an ego boost? Men are stupid.

stayformulledwine · 06/12/2011 16:44

You grab the rum, I will grab the wine Xmas Wink

If you havent heard from him in ages, it does seem a bit odd. The ego boost part would depend on if he has split with his GF and how long ago. I would just ask him what the crack is, but then I am not known for my tactfulness. Xmas Hmm

TimeForChristmasSpirit · 06/12/2011 16:45

I agree with what stay is saying watch, try not to take it to heart. As sad and as harsh as it is it is all a part of the dating game and something we will have to get used to. I mean, as sexy, gorgeous, intelligent and capable as we women on this thread are there are bound to be men out there who we just don't do it for, cos they are secretly gay they just can't handle us, we scare them make them feel inferior, it doesn't mean the problem is with US!! No, if a man is not attracted to a gorgeous woman such as yourself then he is the one with the problem. The End.

And bad teeth, NO. I could never get past rubbish teeth. Ever.

TimeForChristmasSpirit · 06/12/2011 16:47

I wouldn't ask him anything, I would ignore him! You are not a public convenience that he can call on when he is caught short!!! Girls! do I have to remind you about standards!!! Xmas Wink

watchoutforthatsnail · 06/12/2011 17:18

i know. its just rare that the ' who i should be dating' and ' who i actually fancy' match up. really, really rare. I think its maybe happened twice in 3 years. Very, very, very disapointing.

Last i heard from him was sept, when i wished him a happy birthday on his fb wall. A week later he put he was in a relationship and then didnt wish me a happy birthday, so i deleted and didnt think any more of it. We werent dating, it was just a fwb thing so i wasnt fussed and didnt care enough to keep in contact.

Then i got these messages... and now more today ( which are definatley on the flirting side) yet, having just checked his fb pic, its him with his gf.
??????????????????????????????????????????????????

i will never understand men as long as i live.
it goes without saying i will not be meeting up with him.

oh and this is the last text he sent me in reply to my ' you home early?' text

'home from work early and going to have a wank before going to footy. Still love it, reading a book actually'

WHY!!!!!!!!!!!!! WHY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

stayformulledwine · 06/12/2011 17:21

watch urgh, yes time is right, he sees you as an option on the side when things arent great with him and his GF. I would stop texting him and ignore.

There are a lot of arseholes out there watch, but there are some decent guys too. Just got to keep plodding on!

watchoutforthatsnail · 06/12/2011 17:28

and i just got a cock pic.

un-be- fucking - leiveable.

WTAF.

seriously.

and i was only talking to him about the walking dead.... i ignored the wanking comment.

he cant see me as any option seeing the last time i saw him was 3 months ago... and if im right , the last text conversation we had was him telling me to get over to his right now, when i said no, it was too late ( gone 11) he told me it was then or not at all.... so i never even replied. I facebooked him happy birthday about a month later because im nice, but the last time we had sex has got to be mid august?? possibly early aug.

TimeForChristmasSpirit · 06/12/2011 17:34

Xmas Hmm He is obviously still A Tosser then! But it sounds as though he has learned to read since you last saw him, sounds very proud of himself too, reading a book.

As for today's 'encounter', it was simply that, a meeting, you aren't actually dating so it doesn't count in the 'match up' stakes. Your turn will come watch, you will meet your Mr Right when the time is right, keep smiling and keep plodding on Xmas Smile

Only 19 more sleeps and even I will have a man in my bedroom!! Santa! Xmas Grin

TimeForChristmasSpirit · 06/12/2011 17:37

He sounds a right charmer! I wouldn't be talking to him at all if I were you, I reckon he thinks he can rekindle your arrangement. Tosser!

happyAvocado · 06/12/2011 17:41

tell him you are forwarding it to his gf :)
you'll rid of his advances on a shot
lol

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