Here's hoping on finding a decent guy/girl under the mistletoe who doesn't use hun or text speak. Dating thread No.7

[Zanywany]

Off you go

You know what to do

yes zany, pm me please :)

thanks for asking, i am ok ( ish)
just feeling a bit crappy. Ive come out with a cold and am a bit skint ( isnt everyone) and im just dumbfounded that another year has past, and though its been a fantastic year, and possibly the best ive had in about 10 years... well, my situation hasnt changed from last year.

im sure ill get over it in a few days.
tomorrow its our volunteer lunch out at the most lovely country pub, so that should bring a bit of chritmas spirit back and the monday its our childrens christmas party too. Donatations from all the local schools to make hampers have started pouring in, and we cant move on one floor at work, for mince pies. So its not all doom and gloom. DD is with her dad this weekend and id rather she was with me so im going to wrap presents and write cards and cry into my rum :)

freak - sounds like a load of crap to me!

Of course your situation has changed from last year watch, you now have us in your life fgrin]

And you have a whole catalogue of cock pics, what more could a girl ask for? You don't really need the guy the cock is attached to, they are just a pain in the rear so just enjoy the photo's til the weather gets better. It's much better shagging in Spring/Summer, you don't need the heating on at that time of year. See, there is a positive side!!

And I won wellies!!! Thanks to you watch for pointing out the competition!! XXX

pm me too zany!

Am supposed to be on a date on Friday but have not heard from him. He said he would ring on Tuesday and didn't. Am I cutting off my nose to spite my face by not sending a text or should I stay firm and wait for contact?
Ladies please help me decide :)

If he said he would ring and didnt I would cross him off my list and ignore any further contact from him..anyone who thinks they can leave you dangling can fuck the fuck off.
That is what I do now, and it's what I wish I had done with the various people who messed me around in the past.
Dont take any prisoners!

Stay firm! (though I usually cave and send one text just to be sure...)

I thought the same but my friend at work said I was being silly and to text. I think this early on in the relationship he should be doing a bit of running aound as I am worth it .

men need women more than we need them, it's a supply and demand thing, women can get sex easily, men cant.
It's his loss, you dont care, stay in control, make sure everything is on your terms.

Agree not to text. I'm in the same boat, meant to be meeting tomorrow and haven't heard from him.
I've got it in my head now that he's a player who's decided I'm too nice to be played so he's not going to continue things.
x

Have had a call, am meeting tomorrow but only because I want sex, is that wrong? Have had to rearrange so much to be free tomorrow night and will make it clear that I am a little pissed off (after the sex obviously!).

Oooh I dunno, prettypurpledaisy - are you not just doing that thing where you pretend to yourself that you're only wanting sex? When did he say he was going to call, and when did he call?

Sorry, am sticking my beak in, but I read this thread every day

daisy what reason did he give for having to change nights? If he had a valid reason, then you would be a bit unreasonable to be cross with him, after all you didnt have to rearrange things to meet him, that was your decision. Did he give you a reason for not calling on tuesday?

lovesadirtylie, men do need women for actual real life sex, but sometimes a quick browse of some online porn and the problem's fixed for another day, we're go to go and we can get on with our lives.

I have date off POF too, on Sunday, we exchanged few messages, mr R mentioned that hard to keep writing, lets chat over the phone. He called last night, but my phone was switched off and I memoe'd him on pof that I'll call him sometime this week. I had to work 7-6 pm today as there was some emergency at work. I drove home, called him 30 min ago, we chatted and he asked me for a drink on Sunday.
i agree better not to waste time building false pictures in ones head of the other person

sowhat to wear for a date to the pub?

I am large 16- 18
like wearing skirts

popparob, I know and women are of course just as capable as men of 'taking care of themselves'
but (as far as I can tell) it is much easier for women to get casual sex from men than vice versa..
in part because we can take advantage of the sexual double standard...hypocritical maybe

*loves", you're 100% right. Much much easier for women to get a NSA bonk.

..and so when we come across guys who act as if they are in a position to call the shots, well, they are bluffing!
and we women should not be so daft as to let them do it.
(I speak as one who has been extraordinarily daft in the past)
I've gone from victim to virago lol

Is it really easier for women to get a NSA bonk? How is that? Why is that? Surely for every willing woman there must be a willing man which effectively means it's just as easy for men as it is for women. No?

Of course it depends on the individual man or woman. To make a generalisation, if a guy looks like Ashton Kutcher or Robbie Williams as opposed to the late John Candy or Gerard Depardieu his chances are probably better, and the same goes for women. If you look more like Liz Hurley than Dawn French your chances would probably be better too! Having said that you'd probably get a better conversation from John Candy or Gerard Depardieu or Dawn French. But we're not looking for a meaningful relationship here, more a matter of it's a quarter after one, I'm a little drunk and I need sex now!

fewer women are after NSA
more men who are in relationships are after NSA
so in short - more men over all available to choose from ;)

Supplementary... Let's say I won the lottery, came to the UK for a holiday and found myself all alone in a pub. From profile and FB pics I've seen of our crew there are no women here I would not cheerfully jump bones with. Does that mean it would become a meaningful relationship? Who knows? More importantly would the impulse be reciprocated? Statistically I'd say not. Assuming a venue with sufficient numbers of people of both sexes and the right age group and sufficient alcohol I reckon the girls would have a better chance than the guys.

timefor various reasons women are much more reluctant than men to have casual sex, or sleep with someone they dont know very well.

There is the stigma of promiscuity which is applied more strongly to women than too men.

Women are much more wary of men they dont know than vice versa, it's a bit of a risk getting naked with someone who's alot bigger and stronger than you are if you dont know anything about his character or temperament.
Also generally speaking men are more interested in sex and spend more time pursing it.
It's much more common in a relationship for a woman to want less sex than her partner, than vice versa.

I dont mean that men are more sexual than women..quite possibly women have a greater capacity for sexual pleasure...it just seems to be more of an urgent need for men

I'm pretty confident I could go online now and find a man who be willing to have sex with me, more to the point one who's 10 years younger than me and 'out of my league' in the looks deptartment.
Dont think a man could do that...unless he was prepared to pay for his pleasure

happy, you've moved the goalposts by adding the ones who are already taken to the mix. I'm looking at people who are wonderful yet definitely single and available, and if the right person came along would consider a NSA fling.

I was just defining the pool, that is why more men are in the pool