DH left last night been having affair for a year

[OtherwiseKnownAsSheilaTheGreat]

Can't really type as feeling shakey and numb, couldn't sleep. We've been together for 13 years married for 8. Two DS's 1 and 3 years. Has come out of blue. Phoned in sick to work today, how am I going to get through this?

A quick update. Feeling ok, had my first session with a counsellor today, which was helpful. Getting my head round finances, just waiting to see if H agrees to what I have asked for. Did anyone write a separation agreement and have it witnessed? Does that put any agreement on a better footing? H comes here to look after DS's when I'm at work which I think might be difficult as I want distance and private space. But they're to little to be moving around, as I do night shifts (I'm a nurse). Mywashingmachineneverstops I feel like I could have written the bit about being exhausted trying to jolly H along and make him love and enjoy us. I truly hope there are happier times ahead. Worried about feeling down after initial adrenalin rush wears off, and also worried about H messing us about over money. But at the moment I'm taking a day at a time and am thankful for great friends and family and all you fab mumsnetters. I got through the first week with your help. I will keep posting when difficulties crop up for some more wise advice.

Hey. You are doing so very well. Yep, you might have a bit where things feel worse before they feel better. In fact I think you can rely on the fact that you will have downs as well as ups. How could it be otherwise when you are a loving trusting woman who has had such a let down.

BUT you will survive you know. The strength you have shown over the past couple of days has warmed my heart and you should feel damn proud of yourself.