The Owl Man goeth - Owelefs, come to my nest, bring wine

[ParsleyTheLioness]

Well,he went about a week ago...other thread on here. Apparently his online dating habit commenced when me and dd wouldn't go owl watching with him one night....We are seeing him this morning at Mac's. He texted me to say he's moving into 'a room' (cue for sympathy, no?). I text back to say does he want the spare kettle (I am already taking him the travel iron). No response for 24 hrs, so I text again, saying, well, does he want the kettle? Get a text back, as if to a stranger who is harassing him, saying no thank you, and see you at X (in other words, I shall speak to you no more, or should that be Hoot No More, until then). I am hurt and fecked off.

Tell me not to text unless it is absolutely necessary.

Not really, no. Think I might go back to bed tbh.

Things look not quite so bad after proper sleep....Door still jammed, waiting for sf to sort it on Tues...

Oh lovely Sarah, :(. Hope you feel better soon (((hugs)))

parsley - can't translate sf - have I forgotten the code?

Step father, probly me...

Ah, not paying attention me, not you. :)

Hope he can bash some sense into the lock anyway. How are you feeling today - better than yesterday?

Yes ta thumb had my hair foiled. Looks quite groovy, despite me being an Old Bird.

Had a sleep, didn't help tbh. I am going to watch daft films with DDs.

Ok...there is a good thread on revenge on AH's...am gettingsome ideas.

sometimes over 20 yrs I got a glimpse of the man he might have become, had he not gone down his chosen career path of being an Arse instead. This was sad, but I'll get over it.

Pisses you right off, that, doesn't it? To think that they could have been so much nicer but chose not to be :(

Yes, it does. It is IMO much worse than just being a dyed in the wool arse, cos somewhere along the line a choice is made to pursue Arsedom, if that makes sense.

Have been teaching a craft class today...was quite good. We made a knitted wire evening bag that I designed, and someone wants to buy the bag, but not make it. This is always flattering, that someone wants to buy summat I have designed and made.,

yay, excellent! Who were you teaching?

I do a bit of work for a craft/bead shop on the village high st...he taught me silversmithing years ago. He does lots of courses, and I lobbyed this idea to him, and did a sample, and people actually wanted to pay real money to do it! Someone who doesn't actually want to do it wants to buy the bag! I make bags from recycled stuff as a sideline. So, I got the ladies who lunch sometimes to teach.

Have started to change my name over, but not on anything that matters legally iuswim. Looks odd, when you have had the same name for nearly 20 years.

no odder than changing from maiden to married name though, surely Parsley? I had my maiden name for 40 years before changing it over - and had to do it gradually! In the UK, I use both surnames; here in Australia, only my married surname. But I have a professional standing in the UK under my maiden name and had no wish to lose that.

How are you feeling in general, btw?

I know what you mean...the solicitor I went to for the will change ARGUED with me that it was ILLEGAL to use two names at once. I said I didn't think it was, as long as there was no intention to defraud. I know lots of people, like you, who did it, and I did it too for quite a while. She didn't state any legislation to back it up, just adopted a Bosom Hoicking Martyrdom attitude of I am the Proffessional....
I'm a bit sad and tired, but will get over it. New venture is helping me out. I'm looking into registering as a charitable venture, but the new legislation is not straightforward, and the charities commission do not have all the info yet.

I don't think it's illegal at all! As far as I know, you can call yourself anything you like so long as you have no intention to defraud, as you said.

New Venture sounds exciting! Charities Commission can be a right PITA to deal with though so I hope that it works out well for you to become a charity - who do you discuss stuff like that with, an accountant? small business advisor? I don't even know!

I really hope that Solicitor isn't dealing with any other of your legal stuff.

As an aside we registered each of our kids with the same registrar (just bad luck always to get her I think). I have a different surname to DH, all the kids have 2 Christian names +Mummytime as a Christian name, then DH's surname as a surname. Everytime she turned to me and said "Don't you want them to have your name too?" They all have my name, we just didn't want to force them to be double barreled, and my name is hard to learn to spell. Some people!

mummytime - DS also has my maiden name as a 3rd Christian name - made it easier when I was going through the hospital system for me to keep both names (got married at 17w pg) and then for him to have both as well, although they did try to double barrel his surname instead of using my maiden name as a Christian name, for which I can't blame them!

Fortunately, she is just doing the will....need someone who I have faith in. First solicitor fits the bill for that. Same practice.

Thumb there are people in the community you can run this stuff by....community advisers or similar (name escapes me, knackered emoticon) will try and make it as simple as possible, but the registration process is changing, so would be better to do it under existing formula, as my experience of working with new systems is people don't know what the hell they're doing people are unsure until they get government clarification which can take forever

No one is here! Come back peeps!

I am here, Parsley! how are you? Doing ok?

Hello again Parsley I remember the Herbs from the first time it was on TV.

I quite like my surname, which I changed on marriage (cue 6 weeks without access to my money), and I think I will be keeping it. Want to have the same surname as the kids.

Yes,nose me too...the songs and everything. :( Hi Thumb gettin on with it largely....dd is struggling, she is v angry with ah and I think counselling might be a good way to go for her.