The Owl Man goeth - Owelefs, come to my nest, bring wine

[ParsleyTheLioness]

Well,he went about a week ago...other thread on here. Apparently his online dating habit commenced when me and dd wouldn't go owl watching with him one night....We are seeing him this morning at Mac's. He texted me to say he's moving into 'a room' (cue for sympathy, no?). I text back to say does he want the spare kettle (I am already taking him the travel iron). No response for 24 hrs, so I text again, saying, well, does he want the kettle? Get a text back, as if to a stranger who is harassing him, saying no thank you, and see you at X (in other words, I shall speak to you no more, or should that be Hoot No More, until then). I am hurt and fecked off.

Tell me not to text unless it is absolutely necessary.

Yes, he need a longer phone name than Arse, but need to
work out how many show on the screen...ta Annie , nose, you got a thread going somewhere, don't have energy to stalk....pics sound scary, but I do like cats.

Dd and I are going to look at cats in a rescue centre today, we lost our other one, after many happy years, a little while ago, and now seems a good time to get another.

We got another one, Magic (Madge for short). She is lufferly....And I resisted urge to tell ah to go look on FB at the fab pic of her!

OOoo Parsley - can you bung a pic on your profile? How old is she?

Rescue think she's about four...she's pure black, green-eyed witchy cat....when I get dd on the job, I will do dat foto.....I was good not telling ah though wasn't I witch, wasn't I?

you sure were, Parsley! He doesn't need to know, does he - not his concern. Well done! :)

Thank you Witch, puffs out not-unimpressive bosom...

I've always wanted a black green-eyed cat so I could call it Gobbolino [saddo] :) Can't have a cat - DH hates them, plus we live on a main road and right next to a railway and I couldn't cope with it being squashed. Happened to the first cat we had in our family - a lovely beautiful grey tabby with the biggest ears and paws, and the sweetest nature - silly bugger got squashed by a van when he was only 1yo :( :( :(. I was distraught (I was 20 at the time too, so not a child).

Oh...good reasons though. Pic now on profile :)

Bump

Gorgeous Madge, she is beautiful.

I need a new name for MrRBW. Something succinct that sums up his ability to help me fritter my life away.

The Wastrel? Is he back on the scene, Sarah?

Sort of hanging around. Fortunately, there's a couple of 100 miles between us, so not physically.

What Tech said nagged on my mind. Then I found out about his DCs' birthdays, and, well. I'm shocked, I can't believe, after all he has said about his relationships with them, that he could do that. I knew these DCs from when they were toddlers, I know how he felt about them then, I just can't reconcile it with his behaviour now.

It's like everything has been a lie, a disguise. And now I am seeing what is really hiding in him. And I don't like it.

:( but at least you found out now rather than getting together with him and then finding out. 'Wastrel' work for you then, does it?

Sounds good to me. Or The Deluder.

Sarah what does RBW stand for?

Have texted ah with amounts suggested by CSA site for maintenance - 15% of take home pay. Just waiting for him to cut money off completely. Fortunatley, will just about manage without.

Oh Parsley. I hope he isn't so vindictive - after all the money is for his children.

(RBW, iirc, is Mr Right but Wrong - emphasis on the latter )

15% of his take home pay for maintenance? Is that IT? Jeez, I can't believe it's so low. So what if he clears £100 per week? Does that mean only £15 for dd?

Seems to me they're all RBWs - rotten bastard wankers.

Well, presumably the tax credit thing would make up some of the diff

At what stage do you stop wanting to kill them? Complete indifference at Mac's...same as normal then. good job they don't have cutlery cos would have liked to have stabbed the arse

Umm, pretty much never. Until YOU have achieved complete indifference and your DC the same. Then you no longer wish to kill them sporadically. But every time they do something to hurt or upset your DC, even after you have achieved complete indifference, you will want to kill him again - because he has hurt your DC.

At the moment, you can probably expect it on at least a fortnightly basis, if not more often. Make sure you don't have sharp implements (or blunt heavy ones) to hand when he's around, just in case. [Wry ]

Izzy if they clear £100 per week they don't even pay 15% :(... its quite a bit less

Well, if he was able of something more than indifference then you wouldn't have left him. It's frustrating behaviour to be faced with, but it is also continued justification of your decision.

I think you stop wanting to kill them when you stop caring what they believe or how they behave.

Also, tax credit don't even take maintenance into account...implication being that it and Arses are so unpredictable with it, too hard work to take into account.

Feeling sad....don't want AH back, no siree. Just sad that someone would do this to me and dd.