Belting out Adele songs to your 27 cats... dating chat thread #5

[lubeybooby]

New one! Off we go :o All kind of dating, chat here.

Sponge and Time yes I think not rushing off soon as it's daylight is a good sign too, or at least a far better sign than if they do rush off :)

Ahhh, so I was justified in feeling well pissed off miffed that Mr Drip just sat there like a King and let me pay for a round? I mean, I did pause for a few seconds and give him chance to jump up but no, he sat there with a grin on his face and let me do it!!! And I didn't even get a handshake never mind a snog!!

MsCello I'm another one who likes to get an early meeting in, I wonder whether because of his history that's why he's taking it quite slowly, he's obviously quite a vulnerable man.

Time, I don't know. I'm the queen of over-analysing everything so I'm really really trying not to - there are a few things that could be good signs, but I don't want to overthink it. I just have to see it as a good date and some good sex and see what happens next. I think :)

I would be wanting to meet him too MrsC. My trouble is that I get to like them while chatting and my imagination runs away with me and then when you do eventually meet there is a huge chance they are not a bit like your imagination led you to believe they are and you are left singing to the cat-- disappointed.

Me too sponge very guilty of over analysing. At least you had a good night and you will no doubt have a smile on your face all day

Yes Time, am sitting here grinning like a Cheshire Cat at the moment.

Well, he said he would text me later. I hope he does. Of course, he may well not.

I don't get the feeling he's looking for a relationship. I shall be repeating to myself that if I don't hear from him that is probably the reason. And that it's not because I am too fat, or not pretty enough, or that I have done anything wrong.

And in the meantime I shall just keep smiling!

Lubey - blokes like him disgust me and reaffirm the reasons why I intend on bringing my boys up to respect women. As soon as I saw his texting nonsense I thought he was a player because it was exactly the same as twat heads methods but I really hoped he would prove me wrong. You handled yourself well and you are right, there are a lot of men like him out there, but there are also some very good men. At least this happened so soon in and not later down the line. You are gorgeous, he is a moron. Onwards and upwards x

SPONGE!!!!!!!!!!!!:) :) :) :) :)
im so pleased for you. bloody well done. Great attitude to have as well. I tend to go that way ( as well you know) That if the chance comes up and i want to and havent got laid in ages then i just go for it, and im just happy whatever the outcome. Brilliant! I wold think it was a good sign he didnt race off. I was seeing some guy ( fwb sort of ) in the summer, who the first time after we did it, about 10 mins later just went downstairs. when i followed wondering what was going on, he was cooking himself dinner ( it was gone 11pm) i felt really awkaward and after a few mins of smalltalk i said ' i should be off now, leave you to your dinner' fully expecting him to say not to be so silly, but instead he said ' yes, you should . im certainly not eating in front of you' WTAF!! needless to say he was not the love of my life!

Lubey - glad you are ok. Even with all the red flags, its still one of those things that can happen, you are right. and your soapbox speach was excellent.

Time - dont get disheartned :(

So - am back from my date. Im going to do this in a pros and cons thing.

Pros - nice guy, really easy to talk to, loads in common, friendly. No ego. Clearly puts family first and enjoys spending time with thme ( very important to me) plays in a band, has an ok job. Complimentary, walked me to my car afterwards, paid. His brother called when we were there ( he was meeting him later because he was roadieing for his band and needed to check times) clearly asked how the date was going and he looked at me and smiled and said ' lovely, shes really nice'. Totally get the feeling he is not a player, would not mess you around and would put you first. Nice shoes.

cons. BAD hair. AWFUL. and GINGER!!!!. Looks like he has no eyebrows due to said gingerness. Awful coat. No ego ( this is also a plus) Lives at home with his mother. He said he moved back because she cant afford the rent on her own, so he moved back until she gets back on her feet then will move out again. Hes 33. Nice as that may be, it puts me off.

If he asks to see me again, which i woild be very surprised if he doesnt. then what do i do? The hair was BAD. the living at home thing bothers me.

Mmm, not sure watch. If you can get past the bad hair, no eyebrows and perhaps terrible dress sense then fine, but I don't think I could get past the Living With Mother. No, I just couldn't. My ex lived with his mother, in between girlfriends, until he bought his own place at 28 and that did him no favours whatsoever.

I suppose you should have a second date really, if only to see if he wears a better coat.....

I don't think the living with mum thing sounds too bad in his case. It would only put me off if they had NEVER lived on their own or were doing it due to their own financial reasons or general laziness.

Mmm, I would need a few more details, I wouldn't at this stage trust that he was living with his mum to help her pay the rent. But I might just be an old cynic

The hair was really bad. Pretty much a mullet. A ginger mullet.
a frizzy ginger mullet.
A frizzy ginger mullet slicked back with hair gel in the front.

bugger. I cant get past that i dont think.

anyone wants a look at his pof profile pm me and i send it to you and let me know if its awful as i think it is.

hes the eldest of 3. And him and his brother live at home. The sister ( and youngest) has moved out.

I dont think i can fancy a 33 year old man who lives at home.

God, could you imagine, you wouldnt be able to go back to his, and if you did it would be like being 18 and awkward hellos on the landing in the middle of the night.

Nope, cant do it.
Next.
( feel like a bitch)

Imagine going back to his, sneaking upstairs for a quickie and finding that he shares bunk beds with his brother!

No, I couldn't do the living with mother thing either. Like you say, you couldn't go back to his so you would always be at yours using your heating and electric or you would always have to be out.

I'm not so sure I could fancy ginger either ginger pubes not a good look

oh - and i hadnt even thought of ginger pubes.
yuk
fuck it.

time has kindly informed me im aiming too low and she cant see me with him. or the other guy im chatting to.

nope. the living at home thing is bad too. His mum does his washing nd cooks his dinner. Thats just not manly is it.

His mum does his washing..... an absolute no no, definitely!! She will be ruining him, making a rod for the back of any woman who ends up with him!! And to be fair watch, he doesn't really look manly, sorry.

Aim higher!!

he doesnt, does he. I like big egos, and manlyness.

plus i would be embarassed to introduce him to anyone i know. I KNOW its shallow, but there it is. Cant help how i am.

( realises im no oil painting... and thats an awful thing to say about someone)

Right, you like manliness and big egos. So, are you dating/attracted to men who are manly and appear to have big egos or are you going for the duffle coat type less manly type because they are the safer option?

Knowing what I know now I am surprised you agreed to a date with him. He is so not your type!!

And stop putting yourself down. That is an order young lady!! You are gorgeous!! You sell yourself far too short you do!!

Send us his profile watch, dying for a look at mullet man

Ooh Watch you can't go out with someone you're not attracted to. Ginger mullet, living at home... this is not a man who is going to make you exactly throb with desire is it? Next I reckon.

Sponge I salute you. Glad you had such a good night.

Nope all quiet here Shiney, he gave up last night I think when his attempts weren't getting a response from me. I've changed his name in my phone to 'dontreplytwat'

Lubey

I'm going to steal that idea. Genius.