Belting out Adele songs to your 27 cats... dating chat thread #5

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New one! Off we go :o All kind of dating, chat here.

x posted, Really pleased for you Wriggly

Wriggly that's great news :)

Wriggly, how lovely but we do need details

So fellow daters, long phone conversation with muscles today, he called me. Do we believe that a man with a body and face of adonis but who lost his wife and child 7 years ago, hasn't had sex once in those 7 years??? Do we also believe I am the only person he is speaking to from POF?? Cos this is what he has said. It's took him this long to even think about moving on

He said he gets a lot of abuse from women on pof due to his physique - accusing him of loving himself and he must be a player and I'm the only person that messaged him about him and not his body

He seems genuine which is even scarier than not being. If we meet and if we click, I've got a big void to fill, not sure I'm up to this but I do like him so far and fancy the pants off him

Hi ladies, mind if I join you?
I'm 27 with no DCs and separated from XH in April. I'm going on a date next week, kind of a blind date, eeeeeekkk! I'm sooooo scared

MsCello if you go on his profile and copy the link from the web adress bar you could PM it to a few of us so we can attempt to see (he is the one with profile hidden isn't he? if so it's still viewable with a direct link)

Hello Fraggle! Blind date wow you're brave - how did that come about then?

His original profile was deleted by pof, haven't found another one yet, I do keep searching but he could have another one hidden

I work for the police and he's a doctor that we deal with a lot, we email a lot and always have a laugh and he asked if I wanted to meet up for a drink! We've swapped pictures and he's rather cute!

Put me down for a PM with a link to him MrsC we will give him the once over for you But in answer to your question, yes, I can quite believe that a man who has lost his wife and child hasn't had sex or a relationship since. He must have been devastated, he didn't fall out of love with his wife, she died, it may have taken him this long to come to terms with that. Looking at it from another side, at least he has allowed himself plenty of time to grieve and to move on, he hasn't jumped straight into shagging any woman that walks by him by way of forcing himself to move on or not think of his wife. We all react to events such as this in different ways, just because he has taken 7 years doesn't make him odd, it's just how he dealt with it.

I can't understand why he would get abuse from women over his physique though, why would they accuse him of loving himself and being a player without evidence of this? Seems a strange thing for women who haven't met him to say. Unless it's the fact he hasn't met anyone that makes them think he is messing with them and a bit of a player? Anyway, I think that particular comment of his is a bit victim statusish and a bit of a strange thing to say.

I think the only way to sort this one way or another is to meet him. Meet him or block him because it's causing you angst and there is nothing going on yet!

Hi Fraggle

What's your gut feeling MrsC?

Why was his original profile deleted by POF?

I think Time is right. We all deal with grief in different ways, and many people would take a long long time to get over a loss as devastating as that. I know my dad was heartbroken when my mum died and never looked at another woman :( I think had he been younger he may have done so in time, but it would have taken him many years.

Having said that, the getting abuse thing seems v v odd to me. Did he have lots of photos on his profile with his top off kind of thing? Even then I'd be surprised if he got serious grief from women, I could understand the odd 'you must work out a lot' kind of message. Unless it is that he's messaging them and then messing about re meeting up, in which case you could understand being a bit pissed off...

but either way it is a bit poor me of him to mention it. And yes, why was his profile deleted, that seems a bit strange?

gut feeling is as of today's phone call, he is genuine. Today's call he really opened up, it could be he senses I was backing away and has manipulated me or it is that he is a nice bloke really

He doesn't know why he got deleted but from reading the forums, it can take just one complaint to get deleted. I uploaded a risque photo to my account but never made it public, I emailed to man I saw few weeks ago. I can no longer upload any photos to my account, I got banned from new photos and a warning tht my account would be deleted if I did it again, so can believe that a complaint could get you deleted.

The women getting the hump thing, it's very odd but when I showed my best friend and daughters his msn profile, they all said - he loves himself/must be up himself. So maybe women have said that to him?

I don't know, the lust I feel for him just through the pics is ridiculous (there are over a 100 on his msn) He is beautiful

He can also lift 12 st on one arm! A man that could actually pick me up is a huge turn on

This one is really under my skin

Mmm, that's an excessive amount of photo's of himself and I would also add that his complaining of getting abuse from women over his physique could be a form of bragging. That would turn me off tbh, no matter how good looking he is.

I'm a bit worried that you are falling for the image MrsC, the fantasy of a bloke with a good, strong bod. I think it's definitely time for you to meet him and sort it out one way or another. Bonk or block!

you summed it up perfectly, it is a fantasy - he is my fantasy man in body and face

I am still on pof and I still have my toyboys. If he wants to meet I will meet. If he wants to chat I will chat but I will still be messaging others and if they want to meet, I will meet them.

Can't quite block him yet, just in case my fantasy turns into reality

Also, why post such photo's of yourself if you don't like the comments?

I dunno MrsC, not sure about this one. Push for a meeting, asap!

Time, I've got to say I'm with you on this, I get a bit of an uneasy feeling about him. That many photos seems narcissistic. I say push for a meeting. Thing is even if he is 100% genuine, it is quite possible he is still not ready for a relationship given his history. I'd be a bit cautious tbh.

Meanwhile...

I have a date with a 30 yr old cage fighter

He's another Italian as well . Keep hearing my (half Italian) mum's voice telling me Italian men are all like dogs and to steer well clear

I agree with you sponge, I thought narcissistic too, plus, to post so many photo's and one which was enough to get his profile deleted then to put off meeting, saying he is scared of getting hurt, well, it doesn't stack up to me.

Has he got facebook MrsC? Is he googleable?

Oh my word! Well done sponge! There's nothing like striking while the iron is hot!

Thanks Time, he's a bit short unfortunately so I might have to wear my flats :)

Mr Fri night has been online on POF tonight when I have been. Was very tempted to message him to see if he fancies a repeat of Fri sometime soon but have resisted the urge

shiney don't encourage me

Yey Sponge on the 30 yr old Italian cage fighter.

Try and meet him MsCello so you can judge properly what he is like and what he is after. It does sound plausable, although quite a long time, to wait 7 years after such a devastating thing like losing your wife and child. Agree that if he is genuine then at least he has given himself enough time to greave.

I may have a third date tomorrow night beore he goes to Laanzarote for a week [happy]

Fraggle a blind date sounds exciting, at least you have seen his pix