Belting out Adele songs to your 27 cats... dating chat thread #5

[lubeybooby]

New one! Off we go :o All kind of dating, chat here.

What a daft bugger I am getting it sorted with no issue whatsoever. I will remember next time to fanny about with it for a week

His attempt at an explanation reminds me of the way airport wanker used to talk. He was a compulsive liar....

Another airport wanker classic. Diversion from the matter in hand disguised as an attempt to say something nice...

Yeah I hate it too. BoR was trying tell me he wouldn't have actually met her. Ok, because you give your number to people you don't intend to meet...

I hope the both of you are ok ( ish) today.
I too HATE it when people ( most ususally men) lie in the face of hard evidence, treating you like you are stupid.
My ex husband used to to this all the time, and some of the things you are saying your ex's are now saying are things he used to say to me when i used to catch him on dating sites ( while we were married).

Cocks, the both of them.

My faith that there are nice men out there is dwindlling ( also getting shit in rl from my ex husband at the momment). I feel like cancelling my date to be honest. But then, thats not fair on him, its not his fault and its only a coffee.
but really, fuckers!

Sponge - i see a smilie on fb this morning... im presuming it went well?

Hey Watch, I'm absolutely fine thanks. More confirmation they all follow the same script then when caught! I have a lingering sense of 'wtf!' but not upset or anything and looking forward to a night in with xfactor and my singleness restored.

I'm sorry to hear your exh is being shitty :( but yes definitely still go on your date. It's just a coffee and he does sound like he is worth a quick meet in the flesh.

Now then... daters! Listen up!

I refuse to allow my recent encounter with a lying knobber put me off. I know there ARE good ones out there and come hell or high water I'm going to find me one. I see this as even more extra practice under the belt for getting rid of the unsuitable ones, which will help no end with finally uncovering a goodun.

We all have so much to offer that we just have to make sure it's being offered to someone who deserves to have us enrich their lives, and who will enrich ours. With tough standards, probably the majority out there won't meet those standards, so this shit is bound to happen now and then as well as experiencing things like no spark, the inevitable vanishers, that kind of thing... unless you are very lucky and meet the right person early on in your dating journey (I've known it happen to some!)

Anyway we have had many many stories of happiness and finding the right one on our various threads, and I'm going to focus on those rather than the bad, the ugly and the meh and I will be returning to my search with a revamped profile (might need some help with that) very very soon.

Don't let this crapola get you down. Good ones are out there and we WILL find them.

well, he's just left

The good ones do seem to be few and far between though lubey and the thing that kind of scares me is that you can be well drawn in before you find out you've actually landed a knobber. In fact, I would go so far as to say the the biggest knobbers are also the cleverest and only show their true colours once they have you hooked. It's a shame they don't come with a relationship CV!

I've seen sponges smiley face too and am looking forward to hearing all the details!!

sponge :o

ok before I get all mememe and divulge any of my date, just wanted to say well done to Lubey and Shiney for binning off that pair of complete tossers. You both deserve far better!

And Lubey I wish this was FB as I would be 'liking' your post of 11.22 many times, it's absolutely spot on

Yaay! sponge Result!

Here here Lubey well said

I am getting very nervous about tonight, I was so hungover when I met Mr Yacht last week that I was more CBA. He is picking me up at 7.45 and we are going to a lovely restaurant about 15 mins drive from me. Should I offer to pay half? I usually would. I think I will wear a dress and a bright pink one is my favourite so far although I think I will go shopping today. I have an amzing knack of making myself look like an idiot so I am sure I will get spinash on my teeth and smile at everyone un knowingly

Time, noooo... no getting drawn in for us. We all have great instincts I think, and really good high standards and due to our crap previous experiences and having been there before we can red flag spot with the best of them. And we all have each others ears to bend if those instincts start nagging at us. We are going to be fine. More than fine. And have a good time, and find good ones that deserve us!

Thank you sponge I'm proud of me and Shiney too

Yes lubey, you are absolutely right, ignore me, it's my hormones messing me about this week. Plus I think I was rather freaked out by 42m and that set me back a bit but, like you say, I recognised he was 'odd' and had you all to call on for reassurance so it all worked out well in the end

zany I would offer to pay half but hope he insisted on paying for the lot! I paid my way when I went on my date and the drippy bastard let me! And I'm sure you won't make a fool of yourself

Zany I usually offer half but have to admit I'm a sucker for the romance of not having that offer accepted. Usually by the time I've grabbed my purse they already have their card on the plate insisting it's their treat, and I accept with a big thank you.

I'll keep it brief. I keep grinning to myself, I'm so sad!

So, met at pub, few drinks, quite an entertaining conversation - just stuff, nothing dodgy whatsoever, totally at odds with most of the texts he'd been sending me. Also he did ask me 3 times (in the course of 2 hours) what I was doing today...

Anyway, pub shuts, he offers to drive me home, I invite him in and he left 12 hours later

I do like him a lot. But I'm a realist and I may well never see him again. I hope I do, but if I don't it's not the end of the world :)

Awww time I'm sorry that's affected you a bit. Forget the knobber, as you just said yourself you recognised something wasn't right and we confirmed that and, now it's all gone and dealt with. Experiences like that are very rare

Well said Lubey

Speaking to some of my single male friends on the dating scene, they also have their fair share of knobber women, so I think its the single thing rather than a male thing

Sponge - how lovely, but we do need details to help us keep our motivation going

Zany, I would always offer to pay half and fully expect to pay it. It's nice if they refuse but I believe in equality. Have met some truly tight men though who want to break the bill down to the penny which pees me off

Mr Muscles is still being sweet but not sure how much longer I can wait to meet him. He seems in no rush whereas I like to meet and get it over with

I'd offer to pay half - although I'd be a little bit miffed if they accepted!

Date last night was telling me how he took a girl out for a meal and she came out without a penny - no money, no card...and she smoked and didn't have any fags either so spent the night nipping outside to ask fellow smokers if they could spare one

That sounds like a very enjoyable night sponge glad you had a good time :o hope all continues to go well, but you are very correct that it's not the end of the world if it doesn't. :)

That is fabulous sponge, I'm so pleased for you and I hope you hear from him --soon- again too! Is it a good sign that he didn't rush off as soon as it was daylight? I would say it is but I'm a novice

MsCello I like to get on with meeting too and not faff about too much. Hope he gets his act together soon.